He's 14 months old and he expresses his enthusiasm by hitting, usually in the face. He's ALL boy!! I don't think he hits to be violent, he just knows no other outlet for his excitement. Also, anyone lying on the floor is fair game to be "wrestled". How can I curb the violence?
2007-08-12 14:46:37 · 9 answers · asked by jmdrt 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He doesn't have the ability to curb his impulses right now, so the behavior may stick around for a while. When he hits someone in a way that hurts them, firmly tell him no and try to redirect his attention. It won't always work, but eventually he will get the message. You can offer him up "safe" things to hit like pillows or toys, if you think that may help him get it out of his system.
It's normal though, and will eventually pass.
2007-08-13 03:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by knowmoremom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can curb the violence by eliminating any kind of violent cartoons or videos (that means the movies you and your husband might watch). I don't know what kind of discipline techniques you use...If its spanking... or a little slap on the hand than for sure your child will do it back to you or anyone when he is upset or to solve a problem. Instead you can change that by giving him choices or redirecting him possitively. A good book to read is "Easy to love dificult to discipline by Dr. Becky Baily. If he is hitting when he is excited than you can say or give him the words for his emotions for example, "your so excited! Give me a high five.", and have him jump and give you a high five. If he hits you show him you don't like it with your face (sad or what ever emotion you are feeling) and say firmly, "NO hitting! Hitting hurts." If you are carrying him, put him down. If you wrestle with him I would eliminate or cut down on it. Try to see where he is learning to wrestle. You also can take him outside and play T-ball or soccer. This is a good outlet for all that energy he has.
2007-08-12 15:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 3 boys and have gone through this with all of them its their way of showing how they feel it is never really meant to hurt or harm it's just that boys react differently than girls in that area. Its a natural thing for a boy to be physical they just are testing their environment I mean you can always tell them no no no and wave a finger in their face when they get out of control or just displace the child to another area that might attract their attention. They have short term memory when it comes to things they've done wrong you just have to stick to repetition and keep doing things that don't undermine the child while still letting them know they're doing wrong. Hope this helps
2007-08-13 00:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shagg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children will talk to you the way you talk to them....constantly telling young children no will only encourage them to say the same to you. When your son is hitting out of excitement, gently take his hand and rub it on your arm and say. ohh do nice to mommy, gentle. Make a big deal out of how nice that touch is. It will curb his hitting behavior when he sees the reaction he gets from you when he is touching you gently. Regarding the wrestling, turn it into a hug and then promptly get up and move on. If you think about the way your child runs around the house, it will give you some insight into the way he thinks.....very spur of the moment. distraction and redirection are truly your best tools at this age.
Good Luck.
2007-08-12 15:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by JBS7878 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
definite, you're overreacting. he's large. Wake him gently to substantiate he does stir (then permit him sleep lower back) Mine bang their heads on a daily basis and function even fallen down stairs and rancid tables onto a tile floor and that i purely verify that they are not ill, no blood from the ears and that they are performing ok. they generally get extra drained yet lower back, i purely verify they might awaken and then they're ok. i understand that's not basic to not problem yet they're made out of such good stuff. If i took purely between the falls they do, i might have broken bones and each sort. Their bodies are in a roundabout way made to take knocks like this at that age. appreciate the peace on a similar time as he's asleep! X
2016-10-15 03:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 13 month old daughter is exactly the same now & my son was exactly the same when he was a baby. I don't know why they do it but you have to teach them no. My son was really good, picked up no pretty quick. My daugther on the other hand thinks it's funny to hit & laughs when you say no, so we have started to give her a small tap on the hand & say no! It's finally starting to work. Good Luck, it just takes some time.
2007-08-12 17:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by jaytei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him no. If a baby can learn patty cake, they can learn no.
When he's excited and wants to hit, hold his little hands and say nooo when he tries to hit, and then help him clap. This shows him a more correct way to express his excitement. Keep it up each and every time, eventually he will switch.
As for wrestling, its the same thing, tell him no, and show him a better way to gain attention.
2007-08-12 14:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does he know the word no? Im sure he does. When my daughter hits i grab her wrist and i firmly tell her NO! it is not nice to hit and it hurts. It works for me!
By the way when you tell your child not to hit and then hit them (even if it is a tap on the hand) then your not teaching them a thing, in fact your pretty much saying it ok to hit.
2007-08-12 17:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he understands no tell him no when he behaves that way. Otherwise a time out or tap on the hand or something not too harsh can usually teach them.
2007-08-12 14:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by I'm_not_dead_yet. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋