Ok, I've known this guy for a couple of years (like 4 or 5). We have always flirted and stuff and hung out when we saw each other. Last friday we were at The Factory (an arcade kinda thing), and we flirted all night. Then when we played Lazer Tag he kissed me, (but right when we start to make out, 3 guys that were running around scaring people who weren't even playing showed up all at the same time.) So we kinda seperated. Well after we got out, I didn't have a chance to talk to him about it bc my mother showed up half an hour early. I asked him if he wanted to date and he said yea, but when i asked him later on if we were dating he said, "Nah, not yet." So how do i get him to ask me out b4 school starts? (which i start on the 17th... and we don't go to same school... oh and he is grade below me, but only 5months younger, and he is aries and i'm a virgo [which makes us opposites... and we really are] so help?
2007-08-12 14:46:19 · 40 answers · asked by Megan S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oo.. and i'm not easy (i'm still a virgin) me and him are both 14.. and he doesn't think of me as a whore... and it was really a public place... in lazer tag you can't really see anything unless its white bc of the black lights.
2007-08-12 15:10:58 · update #1
If you REALLY like him, then just ask him out yourself, even though he isn't your type.
If you can deal without him, just flirt with other hot guys in your school that you might like much better.
2007-08-12 14:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First things first, relax. Setting a deadline on getting him to ask you out is only going to drive you crazy and him away. You're young...and so is he. One of the best skills you can develop when dating is patience. It sounds to me like he is into you, but pressing him on your dating status may have pushed him away. It's a game...play it. If you are too easily conquered, there is no challenge in it and he will look elsewhere. I suggest that you play him cold, meaning ignore him, be to busy to talk for long when he calls, make him want you by showing him you are not as submissive as he may think. Casually mention to him about another guy you are spending time with. By doing this you will make him panic and force him to make a move. Be careful though, a boy will probably back away, but a man should step up.
Good luck!
2007-08-12 15:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by sloppyjoe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't "do the nasty" like that other guy said. Dumb people are everywhere!!!!!
Why are you waiting for him to ask you. Ask him out. Also, why is it so important for you to have the "label" boyfriend girlfriend. Take some time, go on some dates with just him. There is no rush in getting labeled together.
Ask him if he would like to go on a date and start there. You should know that guys freak out at commitment. It is better you learn that now and keep that information for later. He may not want that label with school starting because he will feel tied to you w/ less options for the new year.
2007-08-12 14:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by puggylover 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't MAKE him do anything. Plus he's right. You shouldn't be considered to be in a relationship yet. Even though you've known him as a friend for a few years, dating can be completely different and hence change things and determine if a relationship would work or not. Why should it be before school starts? How old are you anyway?
2007-08-12 14:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't get him to ask you out. You also don't achieve anything if you ask him out.
Very simply put, you have a guy here who's not willing to take a stand and say, "Here's where we are." He also is perfectly happy to take whatever he can get from you, and feels no obligation (demonstrated by the making-out session where he doesn't even seem willing to acknowledge the seriousness of the event).
In short, I wouldn't worry about him if I were you. He's not worth it. Too many girls get themselves in very unpleasant situations by happily compromising, and not insisting that the guy be a man.
Besides, you're a little young to be worried about dating. Trust me; just focus on your current opportunities, and don't borrow trouble.
2007-08-12 14:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by DoctorJKel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he knows what he wants to do. So don't pressure him. Just give him some more time, if you really like the guy, let him continue to move along at his own pace--like he was, and quit asking questions.(That scares guys off)
And remember-if you wind up dating and become more than friends, and it doesn't work out, you could lose him as a friend for good. Are you really wanting to risk that?
2007-08-12 14:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by kazoo1991 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is really that into you, hon. You hung around at the arcade too long...... you weren't enough of a challenge to him.....and you let him have his way with you (by makin' out) in a public place. He might come around when he is "between girlfriends" or to get easy sex, but he's not a "keeper." btw, you're playin' with fire, hon. You're too loose and free with guys and it will eventually catch up with ya. There will be consequences and a price to pay!
2007-08-12 14:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look, you cant force a guy to like you. He either does or he doesnt. Maybe you put him on the spot. But dont feel bad. If he kisses you and says he wants to go out with you, then 4give me 4 saying he wants to go out with you. Give him time and let it happen naturally.
2007-08-12 14:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask him out and say I want to go on a date with you and then make it so you are offically going out. Or find out his phone number, myspace, or email and ask him before school starts. That way you are together at the beginning of the year.
2007-08-12 14:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nic O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell someone that you also like him. Tell the person you told to feel free to pass that around. If its anything like my school, it will be told to him in no time and then he won't be afraid to ask you out and be rejected.
2007-08-12 14:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by down&dirty prep 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋