When I mean brainwashing I mean that he is telling my son negative things about me!?

Question

For example he is saying to him that the child support he is sending me I spending it with boyfriends, (I remarried ) and that it was my fault he was born, and that he was a mistake, how cruel is that!

Answer 1

You have to be very careful with this. Abusive fathers very often claim this in court calling it PAS and use this to remove custody from a mother, esp when there is child support involved and they are angry about having to give the woman their money. If your child is confused, agitated or in any way behaving differently when returning from time spent with the father, document it all in a notebook. Keep track of everything even if it seems minute. Try to obtain counseling for the child if age appropriate (even with younger children play therapy works). Do not divulge too much information to the counselor as many times it is perceived to be a custody situation when in actuality it is neglect or abuse by the other party. If there are behavior issues, explain to the counselor those issues. Changes in behavior - same thing.

Most important is to protect your child. The old adage of sticks and stones may break my bones is good in a fairy tale world but in real life words can and do scar a person. Break this cycle of abuse and document this so you can protect your child.

Answer 2

It is cruel and wrong. I've been through this and you may need to take this to your attorney.
First of all, always let your son know that he was never a mistake even if it was an unplanned pregnancy and that he is always loved by you. Hopefully your the husband your married to can and is a major support in activities your son may be involved in.
The issue with your Attorney, you may need to have a paper drawn up stating that your ex-husband & wife (if there is one) is never to demean you in any way in front of the child and that if something like that is done and you find out, then your ex & his wife could be sued for slander.
Your husband could also say something to him (with a witness) whether it's over the phone or face to face and that could prevent this from happening again.
Child support helps put a roof over his head, food in his mouth and clothes on his back.
I hope this has helped.

Answer 3

Take your son to see a therapist. They will be able to document the things your child is being told for you to be able to get his visitation rights revoked. Also, and more importantly, those kind of comments are going to scar your child if he doesn't get some professional help.

Please talk to your lawyer as soon as possible about getting this man out of your son's life before he can do any more damage.

Answer 4

I am guessing you have had another question on this. If this is the father saying this then you need to re look at visitaion orders. Talk to a lawyer and involve a child psychologist as what he is doing has got to be screwing up the child

Answer 5

Very cruel. He must be jealous of the time you spend with your son, and the new life you are leading. This type of stuff could be used against him in a custody review.

Answer 6

You need to sue for full custody, and limit your ex's visitations. The things he is telling your son will wreak havoc on his self-esteem and emotional health.

Answer 7

keep him away from your child; children are very sensitive and what a person say to them will follow them forever. we have to protect our little ones and keeping the negative bull out of their lives is a start.

Answer 8

My sister's father has told my sister to lie to my mom all the time. Some men should never multiply!! My sister is in counseling for this too.

Answer 9

take it to the lawyer....see what can happen there ..good luck!!