this is dumb for me to be asking a bunch of random people.
but i need advice.
i was ready, atleast i thought i was. we were so so close to having it. and then i stopped because i got a little bit scared.
and now i regret not doing it.
not because of him. yes i do kind of feel bad for making him disapointed or whatever. he told me he has all the time in the world though[:
but i am wayyy disapointed in myself.
what should i do?
what if i want to try again next time and he doesnt want to because hes afraid im going to disapoint myself again.
he said he had a feeling that i would get scared though and stop. he said its alright. and i want to talk about it with him, but he doesn't want to talk about it. because when i talk about stuff like this i DO tend to get on peoples nerves XP
haha.sooo... help : /
2007-08-12 13:40:09 · 19 answers · asked by Elana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he seems like he isnt into trying any more, but i know how i feel now and im ready again. but he thinks i may end up doing the same thing...
2007-08-13 06:44:48 · update #1
You are wise to wait- and you have your reasons, don`t regret it! I would expect a man to understand, or I`d end the relationship- He isn`t disapointed, he`s being patient. I want you to realize that this a good thing- he`s not ònly inerested in``one thing He`ll wait for you- so take your time and feel comfortable with making love to him before you do it. If your scared hold off- you aren`t ready and you will regret doing it more than you`ll regret not doing it!
Good luck!
2007-08-12 13:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Teej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not regret that. I think it is sweet that he is not pressuring you into having sex. That is the way a guy should be with a girl he really loves. You should not until you are really ready to have sex, to do it. You should not feel bad, and you do not need to worry about him not wanting to trust me I am a guy I know! :p He will be more than ready and willing to when you are willing to. You should feel good in knowing you have a boyfriend that loves you enough to wait and not put pressure on you. Just take it easy and when you know you are ready you can. It is not that big of a deal to him I bet. I am sure he is just happy that you thought you wanted to and you wanted it to be him. Hey there are other things you all can do that are as much fun or even more fun in my opinion that the act of sex itself. Just go slow and take your time. :)
2007-08-12 20:52:16 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it unless you are ready to i know how you feel i want to 2 times with 2 exs b f"s but i got scaryed about how much it was going to hurt and i keep thinking what if i mess up and do something wrong i want mine man to be happy and very pleased when we do it so they will want more trying to wait until i am in love or marryed but i loved my last 2 bf"s and i am30 years old and yes i use the other stuff not the pads. good luck and try it again but talk to him about it tell him how you really feel and why just be yourself again good luck. dont do it unless your ready if you both are ready.
2007-08-12 21:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by betty m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose to answer this question to express a message necessary in times like this. You don’t have true love between you and the person. If you did there would have been no fear. Anything you do for the first time is often faced with fear. Hold on till he says yes to a long term commitment for you to be his wife.
2007-08-12 20:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Agree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to not have sex and regret it, than have sex and regret it forever, Wait until you are totally ready. If hes any kind of a guy he will wait until your ready! if hes not willing to wait he obviously doesnt think your worth much does he?
2007-08-12 20:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are second guessing yourself and personally, I believe you were right to not go forward. It's sign that you were not ready - and you are still not ready....please don't rush into having sex. The voices of ectasy are not screaming in your ear to proceed - the voices of patience and wait - are.
2007-08-12 20:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't feel comfortable at the time, it was smart of you to wait.
Besides, would you rather regret NOT having sex but being pregnant/STD free, or regret HAVING sex because of that?
2007-08-12 20:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nah da guy want 2 do it but he wants u 2 feel comtable
2007-08-12 20:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sum azn guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ..U Just Got On My Nerves Too.....lolololol
2007-08-12 20:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maker sure you are certain that you want to and tell him that this time your ready and go for it. Trust me he will NOT turn you down! but he sounds so sweet! good luck!
2007-08-12 20:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋