my 18 month old kid calls me by my first name not mama or mom.?

Question

He used to call me mama when he started to talk now that my husand's daughter moved in with us the problem started. She would call me by my first name and my son follows her. I get so mad and annoyed coz i feel im not respected. What should I do?

i dont care if my stepdaughter calls me by my first name i know that it will happen im not mad at that.me & her have a very good relationship that her dad would always tell her why she takes my side. we get along well. i know she is uncomfortable calling me mom and her mom will get hurt too.

Answer 1

This doesn't mean your not respected. It's probably just a phase they are going through. One thing you could try would be to call your husband dad, all the time, and have him call you mom all the time, even when your just speaking to each other. This is probably where the child got the idea from.

Other than that i wouldn't worry. Who cares, as long as they love you then it shouldn't matter.

Answer 2

An 18 month old doesn't have a concept of disrespect. He doesn't do things to make anyone "feel" anything. Always correct him by saying "No, I'm Mommy." Meanwhile, your stepdaughter should be calling you "StepMom." You didn't mention how old she is, so I'm guessing she's still a child. If she is, she needs to call you StepMom. If she isn't a child (I'd say above the age of 15) she's old enough for you to just talk to her and request that she call you Mom, for the sake of not confusing the baby. You and your husband should also call each other Mom and Dad, too.

Answer 3

Hes at the age where he will say what others are saying dont take offense to it my son does the same thing around my step children. But once they leave its back to mom. If you are comfortable with it and your stepdaughter and husband are comfortable have her call you mama jane just until your son gets a little older or just when he is around
Good Luck and god bless

Answer 4

Yours is a prime example reason why blended families are a bad risk. I say this from personal experience and because at least once a week I encounter somebody having a problem trying to make this tacky situation work. The blended family.
You didn't mention your step daughters age. But let me start with the repairs begin with your husband correcting your stepdaughter. In your home it should be against the rules to address you by any other name other then mom. And your husband should reinforce this, that whenever he wants to address you to the kids it should be mom. Example:
Give this to mom. Did mom get the mail? Did mom give you a bath? Mom is the greatest, isn't she? I wonder what mom is doing.
Get the picture?
Lots of luck.

Answer 5

He hears other people call you by your first name. Your step daughter and your husband both should be calling you mama in front of your baby. It is okay to call you by your first name in private or when the baby is not around. Also correct your baby when he call you by your first name. Play a game with it. Say, "Where's mama? Here I am" and point to yourself.
Repeat again this time saying, "There she is" and help your child point to you. Also say, "Who am I? Mama!" Pretty soon you're baby will be saying your name over and over. Music to the ears!

Answer 6

Don't get mad at the 18 month old they repeat what they here, It has nothing to do with respect, your not the girls Mother, and she should not have to call you Mom if she chooses not too. Just nicely ask her to not use your first name when your son is listening and explain to her why.

Answer 7

If this is your biggest problem, thank your lucky stars. Don't make an issue out of a tissue.

This is what you should do.Enjoy your family, your 18 month means no disrespect. He will eventually (sooner that later) stop calling you by your first name.

Answer 8

That was the age my oldest daughter started child care. After a week she started calling the sitter and her husband mom and dad and us by our first names. Broke my heart. Didn't last very long tho.

Answer 9

I hope that your feelings of not being respected aren't because your stepdaughter calls you by your first name. It's not disrespect. I've known my stepmother since I was 2. But I never could call her "mom". After all, I have a mother. My half-brother and half-sister started calling her by her first name (Kayla was born when I was 4, Ryder when I was 6). I felt really bad, because I knew Marga felt badly about that. But I just couldn't bring myself to call her mom. It's not a matter of whether or not I respected her...I loved her very much, and still do. It's just that I only have one real mother, and I only feel comfortable calling my mom "mom". I know my brother and sister called her by her first name because, as the oldest, they looked up to me and did what I did. When Kayla was about 8 years old she was old enough to really realize that I had a mom and that's why I didn't call Marga that, and she started calling her "mom". Our brother soon followed.

I know that it hurts to have your son call you by your first name. I still feel bad about Kayla and Ryder doing that to Marga. But don't try to force your stepdaughter to call you "mom". If it feels right to her, she will. If not, then don't make her because she may harbor feelings of anger and resentment against you. "mother" is a powerful word with great meaning...don't abuse it. Just try to explain the situation to your son...tell him that she already has a "mommy" and that's why she calls you by your first name, because you aren't her real mommy. Then explain to him that you are HIS mommy and you would really like it if he called you that. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Tinman is wrong you don't force your step daughter to call you mom because you are not her mother. You can try to correct him or as some others said have your husband call you mom and you call him dad as he gets older he will understand