Last Friday a guy who had been persuing me for about the last four months asked me out. He had been lovely to me, we had acted coupley like holding hands and cuddling even in front of our friends. He had been really hurt by his last girlfriend last summer, so he said he hadn't wanted to jump into a new relationship without being sure about it.
But since last Friday he seems to be completely avoiding me. I texted him asking if he wanted to do something this week and no answer. S in case his phone wasn't working I myspaced him and no reply, but he has been on myspace since then.
Anyone been in this situation before? Would he really waste four months of his time leading me on, only to dump me when he finally had me in the palm of his hand, even though we have mutual friends who would murder him if he did this?
Or is there some other reason why? Help please!
2007-08-12 12:19:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well in the past he had had a rep as a womaniser and a bit of a manwhore, but I am his first girlfriend since last summer when he got hurt by his last girlfriend.
I just really don't know what to do in the meantime, and we're going to Reading Fest with our friends and I don't want things to be awkward between us if we're camping together.
2007-08-12 13:07:56 · update #1
And just extra details to the last answer. I agree with you, but he never slept with me, in fact he always treated me with respect and never tried to go further than kissing.
If anything we always acted like an old married couple when together.
2007-08-12 13:10:08 · update #2
He could be scared to go any further with a girl incase he gets hurt again, he probably thinks it's easier to keep his distance from you to save getting hurt any further,maybe he's confused about what he wants, you both seriously need to talk to know where you both stand.
Good Luck
2007-08-18 11:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by buffykim2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was trying to re-create what he had before with his ex. Although it looked like a lovely time, he may have felt quite different inside. I wonder if he knows the time isn't right yet? Anyway, I wouldn't contact him again unless he contacts you as you are sort of putting him under pressure - even though you have every right to know whats going on. I think when you see him next, if there has been no resolution, just act natural, be amused but don't let him nudge up to you and use you as a part-timer. If he approaches the subject of the date, just say you had a lovely time and were disappointed there wasn't a 2nd date but don't go overboard about it. Just be nice and cool. He needs to sort his head out a bit. You maybe a real contender which could be scaring him a bit!
2007-08-20 11:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was simply about the thrill of the chase, it would have made more sense if he had been out with you and slept with you. Sounds like he has asked you out and maybe now regrets it because he still isn't ready for a relationship so he is avoiding you. Hard to think of another reason.
2007-08-12 13:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's my opinion. He still cares, and he's still there. I think he spent a lot of time in the chase, trying to pursue you and such. I feel that he's really busy or had some business to take care of, or he just hasn't had time to respond to your messages or something. The thing is, he caught you, and he hasn't told you he's letting go. One weekend does not stand for much. People become distracted. Try to contact him one more time, and then ask some of his friends if he's alright or something. You're allowed to be concerned, but don't jump to conclusions, cause it may lead you to not being able to trust him again.
2007-08-20 11:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dirk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either a player and not genuinely interested in you as he made himself out to be or his heads mashed up,in which case,he should never have led you on like he has and for as long as he has,and they call us women pr*ck teasers!!!
I would guess it to be the first of the two.
But whatever the reason,his ignorance towards you now shows how immature he is.
Put him down to a bad experience and move on,I feel sorry for his next victim.
2007-08-19 02:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it purely fairly relies upon on the area. i does not call as quickly as each and every week or so over doing it. So if he is going out each and every saturday evening, case in point, then as lengthy as he's not entering into hardship, performing like an entire fool, etc... he's a grown person and has that suited. 3-4 situations each and every week, entering into hardship, etc... that's the place i might have issues. i grew to become into under no circumstances into going to events till the final 6 months or so. earlier, I under no circumstances went out. Now i bypass out eating as quickly as each and every week (not HAMMERED below the effect of alcohol, 2-3 beverages max). The hateful approach, etc... that may carry approximately annoy. He needs to understand you because of the fact the different a million/2 of the dating. commencing fights with you, etc... sounds like he's purely attempting to discover a reason out. that's like a job, that rather of purely firing an worker, cuts their hours right down to almost not something to tension the worker to bypass away.
2016-10-15 02:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by saucier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation to this chap your talking about. He is probably just thinking it over especially if he has been hurt the last thing he wants is to be hurt again.
Don't worry about it , us guys might not appear to think things over but nobody likes to get hurt so i'm sure thats all it'll be.
2007-08-12 12:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may of just liked the thrill of the chase but however this guy could really be mad about you and isnt sure if hes going to risk another heartache
he put himself out there, now have you
the balls in his court now, leave it to him now, and if he doesnt contact you back, he really wasnt worth it hun
men are complicated little creatures
dont fret over it, if its not going to happen fair enough move on theres plenty other fish in the sea
good luck x
2007-08-12 12:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by dangerousbitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you've got anything to worry about; just because one text and one myspace message didn't reach him, doesn't mean he's dumped you. :P Have you got his phone number? Do you know anyone who might have? I always find contacting someone by phone is the best policy; it ensures they can't ignore you. (: Best of luck!
2007-08-12 12:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good question.
perhaps he is really thinking hard,
If he hasnt slept wiith you then he has nothing to brag about, so he cant dump you, if he wants to relieve his player status with you.
if he was a player then I see why its hurts so hard, given a taste of his medicine,
just keep your fingers crossed,
listen to your heart, the answer is there,
wish you luck,
guys are very funny these days,
wish you luck
2007-08-19 23:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋