I feel so unhappy!?

Question

I feel really unhappy. I cry over everything. I have started to not eat as much so I can lose some weight so I can fade away. I have taken my anger out on my friends and the real reason is that I feel unattractive. My face has spots on it and my friends all have clear skin. I'm 15. I feel really ugly and disgusting. I can't talk to anybody because they never listen. My mum would get angry because I have had "anorexic" problems before. My mum just orders me around and tells me to do stuff and shouts at me if i make one little mistake, which only adds to my misery. No one is interested. I cry myself to sleep. It just feels like no one would care if I was dead. I just want someone to help me. I can't use the phone to call Careline.
Please help me somebody.

Answer 1

Rachel! I just want to say that I'm so glad all of these people are showing you crazy good love on here. And I agree with Emily S.
God is there. She spoke a very loving word you...and the Truth.
I want to of course say I am here also. You are a blessing....(see I told you!) You know how I know? Look at how many people God has faithfully sent to show you He loves you to encourage you to hold on. We want you here! And hey...I told you you were a blessing to SO many people didn't I?
I just want you to see that and realize that::) This is why no matter what...we all want to assemble and let you know how important and precious you are..at least I fell that way because I know that God has a beautiful plan for your life...and whatever I can do to help and ensure that that comes to pass. :) Because I'm all for it. I don't want to see anyone fall short..if I can help them! :) Sweetie I am always praying for you...and you will totally and completely come out of that situation where you're feeling the way you're feeling and have true victory in your life to be content in every situation no matter what comes your way.
You're beautiful Rachel..inside and out. And not many people have the kind of beauty you have.

Answer 2

Excercise and a little time can fix this. It releases chemicals that make you feel better and happier.... and you will also lose weight the correct way. Not eating enough will make your metabolism slow down and you will end up gaining weight in the long run. Excercise increases your metabolism so you will burn more calories at all times of the day, even when you sleep. I run for just 25 minutes a day after work (4 days a week) and have lost over 30 pounds in 6 months without chaning my diet at all (I probably eat more now than before).

Excercise also seems to have cleared my skin up. I use oil free Clean and Clear Deep Action Cream Cleaser by johnson and johnson twice a day and that seems to help too. Drinking lots of water and a good diet will also help clear your skin.

You just need to get into a routine and be patient. These changes take time and you wont notice results right away (maybe up to 2 months), dont give up and stick with your plan and everything will fall into place.

Answer 3

Be patient dear. Have some religious ritual if you have a religion. You are 15 and it is a big world out there with all sorts of people. Let whatever you are going through teach you about life so that when you are independent one day, you know the right thing to do. Just tell yourself another 5 years to go. Then get a job and be free. To be successful in life, looks alone is not enough. You have to have a good education. You have to be proactive and initiative. You have to be hardworking. Think along these lines. Don't think of life so superficially. If you are a successful person later, you will not lack any boyfriends even if you are not Miss Universe. Your mother can only scold you now. When you are older and have a job, she cannot scold you like a little kid anymore. Don't do things now which will make you unable to see what sort of a successful person you will turn into in years to come.

Answer 4

You are not alone, and your problem will get better.
I have had several people close to me suffer through extreme depression. The problem is that they always have a long list of things they are unhappy about, but they are all just excuses and the real reason is that they are depressed. EVERYBODY gets acne (some more, some less granted), EVERYBODY has fights with their parents at some time. EVERYBODY feels unattractive at a certain age. I'm sure you are fine except for you are just depressed. If you start to feel suicidal you have to tell your parents and see your Doctor. Otherwise concentrate on building positive relationships with other people, do things that make you feel attractive and worthwhile, such as exercise, joining a club at school or creative projects. Don't give up!!! You'll be all right.

Answer 5

I'm very sorry that you are having such a tough time.
I think it's great that you used yahoo answers to let us all know what's going on with you.
I'm not super religious, but I like this prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Okay, you are 15 and here's what I hear you saying is the problem:
1. You feel ugly because of your spots on your face.
2. You feel that nobody would care if you were dead.
3. You eat less/ not at all to lose weight to fade away.
4. You feel that you have nobody to talk to about this.
5. You can't use the phone to call Careline.

Now, let's apply the above prayer to each problem.
The spots on your face.
Have you seen a dermatologist about them?
Did he/she give you any advice about how to treat them?
It's important to get the facts before jumping to conclusions.

With all of the above problems, get the facts and then make a decision about what actions you can take to fix them or accept them.

I'd suggest getting a female counselor who is at least 44 years old. She will be able to help a lot. Tell your parents you need to see somebody. They have insurance probably and it won't cost much.

You need to also start writing a gratitude list each day.
Sure, you've got things in your life that you can't accept right now, but what is going well for you?
1. Do you have both eyes to see with?
2. Do you have both legs to walk with?
3. Do you have ears to listen to pretty music with?
4. Do you have a dream or goal of singing or acting or writing?
5. Did anything good happen today?

It helps to have a good diet & fitness plan.
Here are some good ideas:

1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn’t be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer & wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.

Tone up the muscles:
1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you’re short on cash, start a light stretching & yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike.
5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA..

Mental Health:
1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you’re dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings & thoughts.
7. Write a ‘gratitude’ list every night.

Answer 6

I battled with depression since I was 9. I can't tell you how many times I've attempted suicide. I finally ended up in a mental institution for 9 days (the doctor didn't want to let me go though) and I'm just now getting better and I'm 22. 15 is a horrible age to be. I hated it too. You aren't the only one. Confidence is hard to get. I got a lot of mine because I noticed I started handling situations differently than I did before. Hence the phrase: if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten. Try to do something nice for yourself everyday. Try different styles of make-up and see what suits you the most. Do your hair a different way. Anything and I hope you don't end up like me it hasn't been good.

Answer 7

Oh honey... I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad.

Please talk to a teacher at school, or the nurse, or counselor or someone. If you feel unable to talk to your mom about this, then another adult in your life might be able to help.

Your note here sounds like you are on the edge of a lot of stressful things. Try sitting down and thinking about them one at a time. Once, I remember telling my grandfather that I didn't have any friends. He said he was sorry that I felt lonely, and then said "Well, what about Mac?" I agreed that she was my only friend in the world, and he asked (very lovingly) "What about Jill?"

My point is, that when everything seems terrible, it is hard to remember the good things. See if you can sit down and find one bright light in your life right now. When you identify it, find another. Focus on those things while you struggle through the difficult times.

And please, eat healthy. If you disappear, the world will be lonely for one sweet girl.

Answer 8

hi there
you know what I learn that they is not one women who is ugly just neede of a makeover. make your hair change the color, dress different with really neat colors. put some makeup foundation to cover the spots that's what i do . go to marcy's store they will really give you the touch . or go search the websites on makeup and color 4 you. try not to lose too much weight ok being over and lower of weight can harm your body. it's good that you came to yahoo answer we can help however we see possiable. you have to be yourself not anybody else. cause we are all different in our own ways. I am sure they is something you have that your friends admire about you we all have that within ourselves. we all are smart and our beauty shows in different ways. fix up your self find a friend that would help you go shopping. and about your mom just do what you think you should be doing around the home. from doing dishes to cleaning your room show her that you care give her a hug now and then tell her you love her and always do good in school and make yourself proud of whom you are not what you see in others,

be wellbe safe god bless

Answer 9

You have to make it a point to be happy. Life is what you make of it. Attitude is everything! As you get older you will learn this. You can either lie down and be defeted or get up and give it your best shot. One of the best things to do is just be thankful and happy for what you have and go from there. Try writing poetry and getting out your frustrations. That is what I did when I was your age. See if your mom would take you to get a facial, this will help your skin problems, it helps mine. When I start to break out I go have a facial done, and it will make you feel good. Or if you can't do that look up ways to cleanse your skin for acne prone skin. Don't worry, life gets better! It is what you make it.

Answer 10

You should sit down and tell your mom you need to talk. Explain that when she yells at you it makes you worse. Also, maybe tell her you'd like to talk to someone. Everyone goes through a phase where they feel horrible. Magazines and movies make you feel like you should look a certain way, when uniqueness and just being happy being you make you appear ridiculously attractive. Confidence is one the most attractive qualities and it sounds like you need to build your back.

People may look wonderful on the outside but you have no idea how many problems they have at home and other health issues they might deal with that you cant see.

Hope this helped ;)