daughter just turned 17 and wants emmancipated from me?

Question

I have worked nights for 3 years now. I only have mon and tue off so I dont see any of my kids much, when they get of school mon and tues I like sitting and watching tv with them. 2-3 hours thats it for all week. rest the week i dont see them, my daughter complained all the time about being around. said she wants to move out because we dont get along on anything. i have caught her in lies, when I ask her about them she says see there you just wanna argue. she never gave fathers day cards and always made it a point to be at church camp event around days like that. she told me 3 months ago when she gets 18 she is gone. she moved in with preachers wife I thought it would help. I called her last week and she said she wants emmancipated from me. I have never spanked her or anything. I dont do drugs and I dont drink. I called her last week and told her if she loves me then please come home and work it out. she never did. truth isnt more plainer. no child should ever be that way. whats happen

Answer 1

You are right no child should be that way. Good for you for keeping the house going, paying the bills and having a roof over your child's head. It is hard, hell ya, but we have to do what we have to do to survive. The preacher's wife should not have taken her in knowing how upset you are, that is not a preacher's wife to me. You try to spend time with your family. Listen, no one knows what goes on behind close doors as only you would know. She is at a tough age however acting like a 4 year old. She should be ashamed of herself. Keep your chin up and do not worry about the emancipation thing, seems like someone is filling her head and if she really knew what that meant then she would know once she turns 18 that is not needed.

Answer 2

What happened? She grew up. Most children will want to break away at some point - she's 17, if she wants you to give your blessing to her living on her own - give it.

You can't stop her from becoming an adult - you can choose how you will communicate and deal with her in the future. She's obviously done a lot of independent thinking during the time you've spent working - it's time to support her in her desires to the best of your ability.

Baby bird wants out of the nest, pappa. Doesn't mean there's no love - it's just time. Don't make it harder than it has to be - or wonder what went wrong, just work on a healthy future relationship.

Answer 3

Let's start with a Hug. You deserve more respect from her. I know it hurts, I'm sure you cry a lot about it. But you can't do anything. If she wants to be out on her own, let her go. Life as you know is not easy. It sounds as if you've done more to take care of them than she realizes. She's a kid, immature at best. It's time to give yourself a break and tend to the others. Maybe instead of watching tv you could play cards or games with them. It's the interaction that they are craving. It's your affection, attention and hugs they need. So don't waste those precious times watching TV.

Hugs your kids today! NOW! Hugs from me to you.

Answer 4

well i don't know if your like my ex but he has the same issues with his 2 girl.. one is 21 and one is 15.. he always tells both of them how to dress.. drinks heavily and watches them through the window.. has people watch them at school.. just like he did me when we were married..and wonders why they don't want much to do with him unless be is buying them something.. i have tried so hard to talk to him and all i get i i am to old to change... now you may have a child the type of child i was.( mine are not) one that is bitter over anyone telling them what to due.. someone that has to learn from there mistakes..if she has only a few month to go i would give her what she wants.. but i would do this at least until she grows up and can appreciate you.. if she get in a bind.. don't bale her out.. let her make her own way.. that is what she wanted..my mom did this and it worked

Answer 5

She will have to give the court a reason for being emancipated. She might as well wait until she is 18, but if she goes ahead and tries to get emancipated now there is not going to be anything you can do about it. It will be in the court's hands.