My bf and I live with his parents and lil bro and sis. Its a hell house. We live in New York. I'm from North Carolina. We hate it here! His mother hates me! We want to move to Myrtle Beach. Compared to New York anyplace is cheaper to live but especially places in South Carolina. I've looked up apartments there with rent as low as $350 a month. I need to some feed back on a good plan to get the hell outta here! Things just get worse and worse everyday. Me and him are unbelievably happy together so the relationship is fine its just where we are that is causing the problems. He is thinking about going starting school in Sept. to be a pharmicist and I want to be a lifeguard. But we are worried about him doing that because you have to go to school for 6 years, it can be exspensive, he could be away all the time what with work AND school... Its just all so complicated and we can't get a moments peace with the 2 spoiled rotten devils... Any suggestions guys? Any at all :)?
2007-08-12 11:58:26 · 8 answers · asked by Gabrielle D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, here goes:
#1. Get jobs. You can't go anywhere without money.
#2. Encourage the education. It's the best thing a person can do for themselves.
#3. Get married and make a commitment to each other. I know marriage can be a rough ride, especially if you will need to go though periods of time not seeing each other, like if he goes to school for six years. But if you make and keep that commitment, you can survive the rapids, and come out closer and happier than ever.
#4. Don't have any children till the rough ride is over. Then go for it, if that's what you want. By then you will have a good home to give them.
Problem solved?
2007-08-12 12:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have family that you can live with in the place that you want to move.. someone that will rent you a room.. another thing you can look into is motels that rent by the week.. but make sure you have enough for 3 months rent.. it may take that long or longer to find a job.. dont forget about food.. now you both can eat sandwhiches and that will be cheap..but if your moving to a place where neighter of you have family it will be so hard.. i would stay put and both get jobs and go to school.. save as much as you can.. with school and work you wont see his family that much.. also if your not doing it.. help with the house work.. yard work.. think of it a job and smile.. I know it is a lot like *** kissing.. but it may make your life easier.. as for the one above me that said get married.. no dont do it until you and him are 100% sure of it.. but dont have children until you do. if you do end up that one dont get married bacause your having a baby
2007-08-12 12:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could both get jobs and save enough money to move. You should also have enough money to pay rent for at least 6 months, have utilities turned on (if it's not included in the rent), and enough for food for 6 months, in case you have trouble finding a job. Then when you get to MB, don't live off your savings. Get jobs and increase your savings. You just have to figure out a way to balance your time between work, school, and seeing each other. It's all about survival and independence, and that requires money.
Oh yeah. . . and keep buying lottery tickest. Someone always wins. It could be you.
2007-08-12 12:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go back to school You are too young to be on your own unless you want to be poor the rest of your lives. I dont think you should be living with his parents at all and they probably dont like it any more than you do. Go back to your parents and get an education so you can get a great job and have a nice place of your own together. You need the free rent now to make that happen
2007-08-12 12:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! I'm moving to North Carolina in December. Good luck!
2007-08-12 12:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
barthebear could not have said it any better. Go back to your respective parents, go back to school, and get yourselves a good trade or profession and if you are meant to be for each other. Time will tell. Meanwhile take our advice.
2007-08-12 12:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by mickkooz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your living with his parents don't complain about the sitch, they didnt have to take you in(and his mom prbly didnt want you to be sleeping w/ her son in a room just down the hall or didnt realize youd be moving in.) If its hell MOVE OUT! let him do the school, but dont live with him while he does, or else his expensive education may end being your debt.
2007-08-12 12:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by bethan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get your own place and support yourself. IF this relationship is meant to be it will be. You can see him when he visits you but if he wants to live at home then that's where he'll be and you won't.
2007-08-12 12:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋