What is confidence? Why is it sexy for a guy to have it? How can I get it?

Question

Can anybody be confident?And does that alone make a guy sexy? I'm not the best looking guy, so how do I get confident?

Answer 1

confidence the believe in ones self
if u believe in urself they they are more inclined to believe in u
if ur happy with u are they are more inclined to

Answer 2

Confidence is how you feel about yourself as a person. Some people think it is sexy for a guy (or a girl) to have it. Would you want to be with someone who constantly complains about themselves?!
As for how you can become confident, thats all on you hun. You have to work on yourself. Dont listen to what others say. The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself. Even if it takes you looking in the mirror everyday and saying, "I am handsome"! It worked for a friend of mine. And it "will" take some time! Good luck!

Answer 3

Yes anyone can be confident.
Here's the key.
Find some things that you absolutely LOVE doing. Learn to do new things.
You will gain confidence quickly, and be surrounded by people who also enjoy the same activities.
Learn who you truly are.
What you like, what you dislike.
You have to know yourself, and for some reason, knowing who you are, and what your talents are, gives confidence.

Don't concentrate on what you are not ("I'm not the best looking guy") Because everyone has different opinions on what is attractive/not attractive. By even thinking that you are not that attractive, you unknowingly via body language, etc..let everyone in the room know you do not feel confident in your appearence.
Find something you like about yourself, physically. Eyes, chin, nose, lips, arms etc...
Remind yourself in the morning that you have that great feature.
Then find something you like about your personality. Your sense of humor, ability to make friends easily etc....
When you start feeling low about yourself say "I make friends so easily..."
See what I mean?
But don't confuse confidence with arrogance/*********.

Be yourself.
I'd rather be with someone who isn't worried about what others think of him, than a guy who constantly thinks he's the best looking guy out there.

Answer 4

I'm not sure if this directly answers your question, but according to the August issue of "Psychology Today" magazine, the main difference between popular people and unpopular people was NOT in the number of times that they were rejected, but in HOW they handled rejection. Popular people usually acted as if being rejected by someone was no big deal; they immediately rebounded and started talking to someone else. Unpopular people tend to sulk after being rejected, and just gave up on talking to anyone else after being rejected just once or twice.

A confident person does not let the negative opinions of a few insecure people get him down, or stop him from doing or saying what he wants to. Why is it sexy? I don't know; I suppose that being confident implies that you are emotionally healthy and that you have got your act together.

If you are trying to feel more confident around women, then just fake it until you make it. Just walk up to her like you know that she will like you, because she has no (good) reason not to, and you will often make it come true because your attitude will be contagious. If someone is rude to you for no reason, then don't take it personally; she was probably just having a bad day, or perhaps she was insecure. Just tell yourself that if she doesn't like you, it is her loss, because she didn't get to meet a good guy like you, and just move on immediately to the next person.

Answer 5

Confidence is sexy because, psychologically, it means you can take care of things. It goes to the idea that men can protect women, stand up for them....because if men can be brave like that about themselves, then surely they'll be like that about their girls.

I know feminists out there will want me to hang for this, but that's just the general role society has assigned men for centuries.

On the practical side, something as simple as taking the lead and asking a girl out is showing confidence. Neither men nor women like to have a needy parter who requires constant reassurance, thus the value of a confident companion.

You say you're not the best looking guy...that's not what a secure guy would say. And even if you do happen to be ugly, you could get pretty girls to like you by simply asking them out. I have a model friend who married an ugly guy. Why? Because he was the only one brave enough to approach her and ask her out when all the cute boys were too scared of rejection to even try.

Answer 6

Confidence can make almost any guy sexy, though not necessarily good looking. Confidence is very similar to having a high esteem. It is sort of knowing inside that you have the ability to do almost anything you want to do, if you put your mind to it. Confidence comes from high self esteem. It also comes from learning to be socially adept and from having expectations of yourself. But a truly confident man isn't confident for the sake of getting a woman--that wouldn't be true confidence. God bless.

Answer 7

Confidence is simply believing in yourself. It is sexy for anyone, male or female to have confidence. Looks shouldn't have anything to do with your sexual attraction to others if you have the right attitude and carry yourself in a sexy manly way. Although some women find helplessness to be sexy. Most women are looking for a man with good sense, good humor, and confidence in themselves. If your heart is in the right place and you treat all people with respect you will be okay. Trust yourself to do what is right and go for it. You'll find your confidence as you grow into maturity.

Answer 8

confidence is knowing you are the the sh*t.
you know you have confidence when you walk in the room and you think to yourself "i'm the most amzing guy in this room.

but you have to be careful fist of all.... you have to REALLY believe it. you have to think you have something other guys don't. you have to feel like you are better than everyone else.
second of all... when you get to the point when you think you are better than everyone else.... don't ever say it!!!!! think it, but don't ever let it slip out of your mouth or people will stop talking to you.

when you are confident you will be able to go up to any girl ( who cares if you get rejected, you will soon forget about her anyway), take charge in a relationship, and go after anything else you want.

it's sexy because if a guy is confident, then he goes after what he wants. meaning... he KNOWS what he wants. girls love that because it shows that the guy is not a push over, and that he could have gone after any other girl in the room, but chose one girl. and it makes that girl feel special.


you get confidence by knowing what you want... and making the following quote your motto "treat everyone you meet today, as if they were going to be gone tomorrow" or " live each day as if it was your last"

there's not really a formula... but from what i have experienced, if you push yourself into situations that scare you, you will get more and more confidet and outgoing ( it worked for me)



sorry this is so long. hope it helps though :]

Answer 9

Confidence or self assurance will not make you sexy, it is just a piece of the whole. It will help and Yes, you can be confident in yourself. If you don't have great looks (and most of us don't) you will need another card to play confidence is perhaps one, but alone it will not get the girls.

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Answer 10

Learn to love yourself, and your past. Seriously live with no regrets and it feels soo good. I have a guy friend that is too confident, which is a total turn OFF. Be confident enough to make moves and just be yourself! That's sexy.

Answer 11

Confidence is deep within most of us. From one not-so-good-looking guy, to another....think of things that you are good at, or things that you know a lot about. Those have to be your stepping stones (since I detected a hint of insecurity in your question), use these stepping stones to associate with girls, that way there's automatically a common denominator. In future tests of confidence, don't be afraid to laugh at yourself if you trip or something. Once you master the "Who gives a **** what other people think" mentality (and as long as you don't become arrogant about it) you will have attained supreme confidence.
As far as the sexy side,lol, women love a man that they think can handle a little adversity.