Would it be OK if I only have girls, the oldest being 13 years old, in my bridal party?

Question

My wedding will be taking place in the U.S and my 2 best girlfriends live out of the country and they won't be coming; I have two good friends that live in the U.S that I've asked to be my bridesmaids and I was planning to have the two of them walk in the bridal party, plus the ringbearer boy and also some girls (about 5) including my sister, who is 13 years old. The problem is that I've been having a very hard time with my chosen bridesmaids in matters of choosing their bridesmaids dresses, in other words I can't seem to have them agree with each other, and then when one finds a dress, the other one doesn't like it. It's getting to a point where it's very annoying and it's making me loose a lot of time. So I was thinking, would it be OK and would it look nice if I only have the ringbearer, and then just girls, the oldest being 13 years old, walking in my bridal party?

Answer 1

Basically, you have three choices here:

1: Put your foot down and tell the adult bridesmaids that they have until x date to choose between them, after which time you will exercise your right to choose what you like best, their tastes be damned.

2: Tell them to each choose a dress they like (feel free to give a couple guidelines, like color or length) and they don't have to match.

3: Fire both the adults and have only children.

Frankly, of the three, option three is my least favorite. This isn't because of the fact it leaves you with only children as attendants, but because it requires you tossing your two freinds out of the wedding party over a dress. Is the potential fallout really worth it?

I completely understand your vexation with them, but I think there are ways of solving the problem that aren't likely to harm your friendship.

Either pick a dress for them, or tell them they don't have to match.

Answer 2

That sounds like a good idea but there also can be bigger headaches on top of that. As for them not being able to decide on the dress situation. I had the same problem and finally I decided for them to go online and pick out the dress they liked the most. It was kind of funny at the end because they all picked the same dress. If you have a David's Bridal anywhere near you, like the state you live in. Go to www.davidsbridal.com they have a wonderful selection of dresses.

Congrats on getting married!

Answer 3

I had to read your headline question twice because the first time I thought you meant having only females. This is your wedding and you should pick a dress that compliments what you want. Try to compromise on what both of them want, but don't give in to one point of view. If you exclude your friends when they've expected to be in the bridal party, you'll most likely hurt them worse than simply choosing a dress for them.

Answer 4

First, and most importantly, this is your wedding. What you want goes, period. My son recently got married. My husband was his best man and my youngest son was in his wedding party (he is 12). Everyone thought that it was adorable and very touching. It meant so much to my younger son. We just had a talk with him way before the wedding about the importance of what he was taking part in. He felt honored. I know that my older son wouldn't have wanted it any other way.
About the dresses for the bridesmaids, you pick the dress and they need to just deal with it.

Answer 5

you can have whoever you want in your bridal party so long as ake provision for a witness as required by law to step up to sign your marriage licence. ( does NOT have to be part of the bridal party)
if the 2 g/fs cant agree on a dress you could choose a colour & they choose different styles that suit them. it is not necessary to have them dresses the same another option is the same style - different colours/shades of the one colour; same basic style 1 sleeveless other with sleeves
do look through bridal magazines that feature real weddings for some differnt ideas

Answer 6

I dont think it really matters what age the people walking with you are, young kids as bridesmaids looks sweet. But as for the dresses, tell them if they want to walk down the aisle with you on your big day, then they will wear the dress that YOU like. Then, no-one can argue with that. They should be appriciative just for being asked to.

Answer 7

You can do whatever you want. I think if you tell the Bridesmaids to straighten up or they're out they will agree to something quick. I kind of like the girl idea though.

Answer 8

It is your wedding and you should do as you want...you should also pick out the dress that they are going to wear not them...for you sister she will need to a have a dress suited to her age so it may be different...may I suggest that you have the dresses made in the same material...good luck

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I didn't even read all of your question, but have the answer - it is YOUR day, and you do whatever you want to do. Do not stress over this day too much, because you are making memories. Congratulations.