why is it so hard to find real love?

Question

And why do so many people think they'll never find it? I think I may be one of 'em...

Answer 1

Before you can find real love you have to separate it from making love.
A person can engage in what they call making love. During that experience the feelings of ecstasy and satisfaction at the moment of climax they express a sense of love. Some may also voice their feelings by making statements such as, “Oh yes!” or Oh! I love you.” But this is not real love and has to be repeated over and over.
What the person male or female expresses were their love for the feelings of the sex act and not a real love for the person.
Real love covers all things and not till you say yes in a long term commitment will you experience it….. Real love is both already in you and the person committed to you. Real love is commitment and support to complete what you desire for your life… Ask mom….. Would she do anything for you? Yes!... real love…. Mom was committed to you for long life. Once you have a man that make such commitment….you will have a sense of real love……


This is a section of my book...."Maria's Secret Love" ..

Answer 2

I don't think that 'real love' is so much a matter of being hard to find - but I do think that women go 'looking' for it too often - and without having the benefit of 1) really being prepared for a relationship 2) not having enough data to support the 'search'. Most unfortunate, but many girls don't have strong fathers in their lives who can provide the essence of the kind of man they need and so we go looking. And many times what we find is not worth the time of day - we are just desperate. Then, the most important issue is not having a relationship with Father God and not listening to the Word and being taught what roles and man and woman should have for each other as partners in relationships and marriage. Most of us have way too much baggage and it stays on full - never empties from one relationship to another. I encourage you not to give up. There is someone for everyone. As Judge Judy says - there is a 'top' for every 'pot'. Do you go to decent places to meet people? Do you have friends who have friends? Attend church? libraries? Coffee shops? Parks? Social events? Join clubs or other organizations where you will meet people. The moment I stopped looking - my soul mate found ME.

Answer 3

I think its a big combination of things. First off, alot of guys think that its not cool to be in love, instead, they want to be a player or pimp because thats supposed to be the cool thing to do right now. I mean its always been that way a little bit,but its gotten worse over the last several years. Also, women have gotten more promiscuous, at least more up front about it, then they were in the past and so they have seen that its ok to put yourself out there and not have a loving relationship. Honestly to go along with that, a lot of guys get in the girls pants and they are done and women don't make us wait like they once did, so a man doesn't stick around long enough to start catching feelings. I think the last big thing is that people don't want to compromise and put in work like they used to be willing to. I mean, people who have been together 20, 30, 40 yrs have had plenty of bad times but they toughed it out. I don't think too many younger people feel like they should put up with anything. They look at marriage as easy as getting a divorce instead of looking at it like they are willing to work to make it last. I am lucky to have found a wife who is alot like me , in that we don't take marriage lightly so we work at it, but even having said that, we have our problems and if we weren't willing to work it out, we would have problems. So, its hard to find true love , but its out there.

Answer 4

Because love like other things if it was too easy you wouldn't appreciate it. So when you finally do find REAL love you work and do what ever you can to keep it. The problem some just don't know what real love is and that's why there are so many divorces.

Answer 5

Man isn't perfect to offer love as required by the beneficiary of it.
All right answers will narrow to someone expectations.What are his/her wants and dislikes when he/she walks in a relationship?Are they realistic, achievable, relevant, good and for how long will the good acts of love be carried on consistently.
Even the greatest of lovers will tell us that it is not a path of smooth bronze.
The most important thing is to find a realistic person who together you have to be agreeing and work on the relationship together.Always asking what do we have to add on this relation and not what do we deduct or take from it.
We may not find real love, but we can work on building great love.
kitty, I like your questions.

Answer 6

Sorry, but I'm big on psychology, True Love is not defined by "the butterfly feeling in your gut" Love is nothing more than completion. Love is finding someone who fills an aspect of your life you CAN NOT fill yourself, in this sense making you that much more WHOLE. Therefore love at first sight is not Love at first sight it's Lust at first sight. By this rule True Love must be someone COMPLETELY void of everything you are, and you cannot get along with someone that is your opposite.

I would stop looking for True Love, and look for Nearly True Love.

Answer 7

its a human thing. now if u want to be human and to live in this world, u cant just have a big white heart, but u have to be cheatter, liar, flirt and have no place for love (true love) in ur heart. this is it. u know i gave my boyfriend all the love in my heart, i didnt cheat on him, i help him many times and i didnt hurt him for a single time but at the end i found him seeking other women and i know that i was not enough for him (that happened today) so where is the true love? u tell me

Answer 8

Too many people out there care too much about themselves, instead of caring about other people. I'm with you, I may be one of them too. I believe in love, but I don't believe I'll ever find it either. Although it's good to love yourself, but if you love yourself more than you love your fellow man, then who wants to be around people like that? I don't.

Answer 9

I think it's because there are so many people out there looking for it too, and some look harder than they need to. Sometimes the perfect person to love has been there all along.

Answer 10

It's not hard.First fall in love with the idea of finding the real love and then you will find it.