i had my nieghbors daughter over to play with mine and she ruined my daughters play stroller. now i dont know if i should make my neighbor pay for it or what i should do. whenever i have the nieghbor kid over she ruins something of my daughters..what should i do?
2007-08-12 11:17:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
the child next door seems to break everything and she sat in the stroller and didnt listen to my child saying she doesnt want her sitting in it and she bent it she got it as a present from her grandma and the princess strollers are expensive
2007-08-12 11:24:27 · update #1
when someone elses child breaks someone elses stuff it is their responsibility to take action and pay for what is broken by thier child....thanks for the help
2007-08-15 18:51:56 · update #2
I would have a talk w/ the mother and let her know that her daughter won't be able to play with your daughter anymore if this continues. If you talk to her about it she may offer to pay for somethings, but who knows this is a sticky situation.
2007-08-12 11:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by myusernameisbetterthanyours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is the kids fault, she obviously gets away with it at home and thinks this kind of behaviour is ok. Next time you invite her over, watch over them when they play and if the kid goes to destroy something, stop them in their tracks and point out that it is not good and how they wouldn't like it of the situation was reversed. As for the issue of the broken stroller, I would put this one down to experience and then follow the above advice, then if she continues to do it, regardless of you trying to guide her in the right direction when she is at your house, only then would I go to the mother and discuss the issue. However, be aware of the fact that the mother may automatically take her daughters' side, at which point you politely tell her that, unless her daughter stops being so destructive, not only will she no longer be welcome at your house but probably no one elses house either. You are doing this for the sake of the child as you don't want to see her growing up without friends and she is obviously not getting the proper guidance at home. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-12 11:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say for infact to have the child's parent come over with them one day. Let the kids play in another room and both of you sit and talk. It should be inevitable that the child ruin something while his/her parent is there, so therefore his/her parent can see this. If it does not happen however, you should sit down and have a talk with the parent about the child. While doing this, you need to make sure and point out that, ie. their child is always sweet, doesn't talk back, does what you ask or whatever you can COMPLIMENT on. If you do this, the parent won't feel like you're attacking their child. Tell the parent that you feel that their child is playing too rough with your childs toys and find out if she does it at home. If you are good friends with this parent, ask them how you should reprimand. If I sent my daughter somewhere and she did something she wasn't supposed to or broke something, since I would reprimand her at our house, I would expect for her friend's parent to reprimand her at their house. Either call me and send her home or give her a time out, or tell her to apologize, etc. Both of you are parents, but when you talking to a parent about their child that has done something wrong, you need to be very careful, but DON'T just let it roll off. It does need to be corrected. Good luck, and remember this is their baby...just like your baby is yours.
2007-08-12 11:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is point when you realize that kids are going to be kids. How did she break it? I would talk to your neighbor, but don't expect your neighbor to refund it. How much did it cost to begin with? How long did you have it?
If the stroller was $15 to begin with and you had it for 2-3 years, it's not worth asking for a replacement. If you had the stroller for 2 weeks and it was $15, then I would simply talk to the mother AS a mother.
Don't expect reimbursement though. As a I said, kids and going to be kids. Unless she was body slamming it, chances are the stroller would have broken in due time .
2007-08-12 11:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you said she bent it. Is it still usable? Maybe it can be straightened. I would negotiate with her. I would say...What would you expect of me if my daughter did that to something of yours? Try to come to some happy medium over the problem. No sense in becoming bitter enemies over this. Kids need playmates. I know not at the cost of ruining your property. Hopefully it will get resolved and if it does. Make a pact in case of future incidences. Which sounds to me theirs going to be. If this neighbors child is still allowed to come over.
2007-08-12 11:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should expect the neighbor to pay for a toy that was broken when her daughter was a guest at your house. You might want to mention to her that it was broken and if she is nice, she might offer to pay for it.
We have a "rough" playmate too and I always put things that I don't want broken or mistreated up in the top of the closet before they come over to play.
It might also help if you talked to the child and nicely said that we don't play with our toys that way in our house... maybe she will ease off.
Good luck.
2007-08-12 11:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by 17_peppers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kids are kids and break things. Does your daughter ever break the other kids' toys? Or her own toys?
But if your neighbors kid ALWAYS breaks something and it upsets your daughter, stop inviting her over! or send your daughter over to the neighbors house instead!
2007-08-12 11:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by babigrl22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my nephew tears my house up every time he comes over our pic albulms,curtains, and even my baby's toys i finally told my sister that he was doing it she got really mad at me and he hasn't came to visit in quite sometime so i would just not say anything unless your neighbor is a really down to earth understanding kind of a person and then i would be very careful about how i went about saying it hope this is some help
2007-08-12 11:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by alex-mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the parents, it is their daughter and they should make sure see is not getting into trouble. They should have her apologize for what she did and her parents should pay for what she ruined.
2007-08-12 11:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unsure in a similiar predictmeant myself my friends child aged 4 spat on my living room floor the other day i went mad and she stopped speaking to me for to days cause i shouted at her so let me no how things pan out
2007-08-12 11:21:25 · answer #10 · answered by shannonhf05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋