When I was 3, up until I was 10, I was molested & raped by my older cousin. My mom has literally never let it go. Every time I see her, she always mentions something about it. Ive moved on, and ive forgave my cousin, but its like she hasent let go. My mom has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember, we've tried so much to get her help, NEVER worked and it seems when she is drunk, she will call me at 3am, and call her "little baby." She still sees me as a 3 year old, and treats me like one. She keeps bringing up the past constantly always saying she wants her "little girl back" . [i got depressed when I moved to america and "changed"] lately she keeps beinging up my cousin more and more and more, asking why i didnt tell her. I told her cus I was scared.. And she says its no excuse. It makes me feel bad, I moved on, why cant she? She keeps bothering me, and coming to my house late at night just to "drop me off food" ive dealt with this all my life & ive rly had enough
2007-08-12 10:21:20 · 5 answers · asked by Shisuren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel sorry for ya babe ...and I am sure you know her disease is not gonna change until she accepts she is an alcoholic and gets help but it has to come from her ..
you have been through so much already...i am a victim myself so certainly relate to doing the therapy and moving on ...the only thing i can maybe suggest is for you to maybe consider calling AA they have another program i believe called Alon...its great support for people dealing with family and friends that are actively drinking especially when their lives such as yours is being disrupted from it...best of luck to ya hun
2007-08-12 10:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by d j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for your mother to move on because she blames herself for not being able to protect you. She believes that you lost your childhood because of your cousin. What your mother needs is counseling for her depression and alcoholism and it would be nice if you go with her and support her. She's not blaming you at all and she's not trying to bother you by coming to your house late at night....she's just making sure you're safe.
2007-08-12 10:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mother cant let it because she probley feels like it was a flaw in her parinting skills and thinks she could have helped you but noone can rewind the past,so just tell her how you feel and if she still brings it up I think you two need to just sit down and talk
2007-08-12 10:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by mizchiz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's an alcoholic so she isnt going to let it go. Dont take her calls when she is drinking. Stay away from her when she is drinking.
2007-08-12 10:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your mom you won't talk talk to her about anything when she drunk, then unplug your phone.
2007-08-12 10:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋