I dated this girl 17 yrs ago for 8 months we had sex many times, but broke up because I cheated on her...?
Big mistake... I know. I think I was her first... I am still in love with her, and was wondering if anyone thinksshe still thinks of me??? I really miss her and want to contact her, but I am scared. I was really young and dumb then, and made big mistakes. I know that she is divorced, but has a boyfriend. What should I do??? I have been living with this lost and confused, lonley feeling for a long time. And don't say find a new girl, because I have dated many, but I can't let go of this one white angel... Real advise please!!! I don't know where to turn, I am afraid that she will think I am crazy or judge me on the past, or whatever horrible thing my mind can think of, and I couldn't handle that rejection... I WISH deep down inside for just one chance, Can YOU help me???
Ok, so Maybe I am crazy and obsessed, but I can't move on... It's really depressing... WHat to do??
2007-08-12 09:52:18 · 11 answers · asked by iknedcock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on is the answer??? I can deal with that, but tell me HOW??? And does anyone think she still thinks of me, once in a while...??? I need real advice. I need help!!!
2007-08-12 10:00:25 · update #1
It's been 17 years why would she not forgive me??? We where young??? I going crazy, and am tired of living life like this.
2007-08-12 10:01:24 · update #2
EVERONE WHO HAS LEFT GOOD ADVICE, BLESS YOU ALL.... EVEN IF I DON'T LIKE IT..
2007-08-12 10:07:54 · update #3
Where would be a good place to find help?
2007-08-12 10:09:55 · update #4
Sweet.. Very sweet that after so many years you still think of her. Maybe you could somehow accidentally run into her somewhere and then talk for a second. Then leave.. Give it a few days then call her and tell her that you were thinking of her and that you would like to meet up with her and catch up on what she has been up to. No strings attached. See how things go and see if you think that their may be something there or not. Don't' worry about the boyfriend because he may only be passing away time for her. If she is too serious with him then she would not accept a dinner date with you.
She will forgive you if she is a good person, let her know that you were young and immature and you did not know better.
2007-08-12 09:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Nally25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, bud. If you are able to contact her, go for it and let her know how you feel. I have been mourning over my screw up for 5 years now. I talked to her a few years ago, and she was pregnant living with some other guy. She never called back or nothin. I apologized for my mistakes, but I never let her know that I still love her. Don't let it get you too down. Just tell her how you feel. If she doesn't come back, then you'll have to let her go.
2007-08-12 16:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forget her because you can't have her. Isn't that how life works? Do some serious self-evaluation to see if this is what it is. If you find that it's more than this, let her know and let her decide whether to give you another chance or not. Even if she refuses, you'll know for sure and won't have to wonder. With this closure you will eventually get over her.
2007-08-12 17:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are really truly in love with her, call her and tell her to meet you at a cafe or wherever, and tell her everything you just said, about the fact you think she's a beautiful angel, you love her, and that you were an idiot and you'll never cheat again. tell her something like, "the longer i try not to think about you the harder it is not to be with you". tell her you know you're meant to be together, and get her favorite flowers. and then, just wait for her to kiss you :)
2007-08-12 17:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by meow. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may be dealing with the Guilt of cheating on this girl almost 20 years ago... Now I do not think it will hurt for you to call her, but If I were u I would not get my hopes up to high. Not b/c she still hates you for cheating on her, but unlike yourself she has moved on with her life... You need to try to move on with your life. if not on your own , seek help
2007-08-12 17:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you really repent for all you did back then. That's good. You need to talk to her. Just tell her you're sorry and tell her she is the only person in your life. She has the right to be angry to you, but time has passed. Understand, you have to true to the person you love, that is if you truly love her. Try not to ask her out straight away. Just tell her you're sorry.
2007-08-12 16:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Felix CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a bf eh/ how about contacting her in whichever way u can phone , or email. and apologize to her of what u did, let her know how its made u feel. if she wants u back, she'll show it one way or another, the point is, get ur feeling out there, but dont sound obsessed, but if she doesn want u back, move on. u made ur bed, now lay in it.
2007-08-12 17:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by cuban cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If finding out how she feels about you will help you either get what you want or move on with your life, contact her. The worst she can say is that the feeling's not mutual.
2007-08-12 16:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by gottapregunta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wont forgive you.
you cheated on her...why would she give you another chance???
you need to move on...it might be tough but it would be for the best.
2007-08-12 16:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Emily <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and leave her alone cause she is with someone and all you are to her is a source of pain . Move on .
2007-08-12 16:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋