Hi, I have noticed that my boyfriend that I have been with for 6 months has been spending A LOT more time with his friends than with me. I know he has known them longer but for example in the last 2 weeks I have seen him 4 times. The rest has been spent with his friends!!!! When he is with them, he rarely even calls me! I know he is busy but still... I am afraid to say anything to make him upset because I just want him to be happy. But sometimes I just want to spend some time with him too!!! Any suggestions on what I should do? I know he loves me and he loves me too so breaking up or taking a break is out of the question. Thanks!
2007-08-12 09:31:48 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't nag him about it! Your doing good there Try to make plans with him ahead of time.. like "hey this saturday do you want to go to dinner and the movies.. etc" If they are doing something you like to do.. ask if you can join them.. dont get mad if he says no. He might just assume its something you wouldn't want to do anyways.
2007-08-12 09:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by neverdugdisco 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are bothered by the time that he spends with his friends, you need to let him know that. Also, find out if there is any way that you can be incorporated in hanging out with him AND his friends. A relationship is about compromise and space. It's great that he still hangs out with his friends, but you should also spend more time together. Another thing, find something to do with your time as well. If you are just sitting around waiting for him, that is never a good thing. The best advice I can give you is to be honest and give tips on what you both can do so it doesn't seem like you are attacking him.
2007-08-20 15:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by hamptoncutie204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt love you, I'm sorry to break this to you. If he loved you he would balance his time and make sure that you two had plenty of quality time together. You need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Gauge his reaction, if he gets defensive, that usually means he is hiding something from you. Have you thought that maybe some of the time he is not actually with his friends but maybe with someone else? Has he been distant in other ways too? All in all, you need to sit him down and talk to him.
2007-08-12 16:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by xiandier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say how old he was but it sounds like his idea of a good relationship is different than yours. You will face that type of problem as long as you have relationships with men. It is not a good idea to spend all your time to gether but all you can do is sit down and try to set some goals of hours per week. If he does love you he will work with you if not Im not sure about his love.
2007-08-20 13:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll love you that much more if he knows you respect the guy time
guys like their friends because theres never problems betweenboys and their friends unless a girl is involved, theres no drama or fights or anything but yeah you could just tell him you want to spend more time with him no boyfriend will take that as a bad thing
2007-08-12 16:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news honey but I don't think he loves you as much as you think, if at all, otherwise he would be breakin his neck to see you more often. Twice in 2 weeks is not the actions of someone in love!!!!!! If he WAS in love with you, he would be feelin similairly to you and be desperate to spend more time with you.... but he's not!!!!!! Listen to your head honey, not your heart!!! I think you desperately want him to be "the one" but I really don't think he feels the same. Sorry!!!!!!!!! Sound like make or break for you both. Do you know the saying " If you let them go they will come back to you?". Just like holding a precious little bird..... if you crush it it will die but if you let it fly then, if it is meant to, it will return. I have been in this position and giving him loads space worked for me, we had a few months break and he came back to me because the break gave him the time, without me breathing down his neck, to realise he really loved me, and boy did our relationship get better after that. It is a little sacrafice to make for your relationship. GOOD LUCK!!!!! XXX
2007-08-12 16:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out. Tell him you want to go out to a movie or dinner. If you want to spend more time with him, do something. Even if means hanging out with his friends too. If you just want to make your boyfriend happy, at least do it in a way that will make you happy too.
2007-08-19 04:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone when he's with his friends. Or you could try to be friends with his friends, then maybe you guys can all hang out together. But that would be too much...
If you want to hang out with him, just ask him if he has time and if he wants to go somewhere, like to a movie. You don't really have to see your boyfriend everyday. And when he is with his friends, why would he call you? I mean, wouldn't it be strange to have his friends hanging around, and him just chatting away on the phone? I wouldn't ignore my friends while im with them. Maybe that's what he does too.
2007-08-12 16:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nina is here! :D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit worrying about making him happy and worry about yourself. It he wants to be with the guys, then you go with the gals. Turn the situation around. Ignore him like he does you and he will come around. If he doesn't, then there are a lot of other guys that would kill for someone like you. Sounds like you have a really big heart, but don't waste it on one that doesn't appreciate it. Good luck.
2007-08-20 15:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you though about how you might be too clingy when you are with him? Guys don't like clingy girls. Why wouldn't you ask him about him spending so much time with his friends, It's not that you want him to be happy you are afraid of confronting the true, and it's okay to want to spend time with him, so talk to him
2007-08-12 16:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but 6 months is not forever and in the beginning of every relationship it's lovey dovey but it seems like the so called honeymoon stage is over.
2007-08-20 16:03:50 · answer #11 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋