My boyfriend's best friend's girlfriend's best friend has a crush on my boyfriend. I hate it when she's around and whenever she's over at the house I usually keep away from her and tell my boyfriend not to talk to her. I know I have nothing to worry about but I still can't help from not liking this girl because she likes my boyfriend. I trust my boyfriend but I DO NOT trust her. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half now. I know my boyfriend would never leave me for her. And I am more attractive than her. I just don't know what to do. Should I say something to her about it? How can get along with this girl and get the fact that she likes my boyfriend out of my mind whenever I'm around her or talking to her.
2007-08-12 08:51:24 · 27 answers · asked by Kace06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes she flirts with him. And he unconsciously flirts back. I met her a month ago and I was fine with her until her best friend started telling my boyfriend's best friend that she thought my boyfriend was soooo cute and stuff and wouldn't stop talking about him. So the next time I saw her I got really jealous and protective of my boyfriend.
2007-08-12 20:02:41 · update #1
Enjoy the hotness factor of your guy and be proud of it.Don't be jealous of her,make her jealous.After all you have an advantage over her and she'll be jealous more than you are.As simple as that!
2007-08-12 08:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not healthy or good under any circumstances. I used to be insanely jealous. Jealousy comes from distrust no matter what else you want to call it. If you "trust" your boyfriend, than that is that, you will not be jealous. The only thing that being jealous got me is a lot of worry and then the person I was most jealous about is who she dated next. I made up my mind right then and there, no more jealousy. Because it didnt matter a hill of beans and possibly drove them together. You said you told your boyfriend not to talk to her... big mistake. Forbidden fruit is alway the juciest. If your relationship is going to work out, it will and if it wont, it wont. Being jealous just gives you a lot more to worry about in your life, and doesn't stop the things that are going to happen from happening
2007-08-12 16:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by peardietz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be jealous of her.. just because she has a crush on your man. As long as you trust your boyfriend, you'll be fine. You never know for sure if she fancies your boyfriend! My best friend fancies mine - i think, so it's best not to talk to her. If you THINK she fancies him, here is what you should do.
Try and direct her to another guy, see if she will fall for him instead. If this does not work, then just time will make her go off your boyf, because she will learn to accept that she is not going have him.
If you know for sure that she fancies him, like she's told you, then talk to her nicely and ask, "do you know he's my boyfriend?" and VERY politely tell her she's pretty, good-looking, and another boy fancies her, then suggest that your boyfriend isn't right for her. Hope this helps!
2007-08-12 16:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't acted on her crush, there's really nothing you can say or do to her without seeming like the crazy jealous girlfriend.
I guess the only thing you can do is try and not be around her as much and if by chance you are, just keep in mind that she will always want what she can't have. Always keep an eye on her though, b*tches like that can be shady...
2007-08-12 15:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by christyn79 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. She can't really help how she feels. If we could all control who we were attracted to life would be alot simpler. So what matters is how she acts.
If she just gets a little flirty around your boyfriend or is really kind to him or something, no harm no foul - she probably isn't trying to do anything wrong. In this case no one expects you to necessarily be her best friend, but juast ignore it, be nice to her, and be glad you are dating someone desireable.
If she is actively persuing your boyfriend taht is another matter. Then it would be more than appropriate to tell her in no uncertain terms that you do not feel it appropriate for her to be "hitting on" or "trying to steal" your boyfriend, and that you do not care for her company if she is going to do so.
The kicker is alls fair in love and war. She could always, and reasonably fairly reply that it is up to him (your boyfriend) to decide if he wants to be around her. That's when you need to pow wow with your boyfriend and find out how he feels, what her friendship means to him, and your game plan as a couple.
Good luck.
2007-08-12 15:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Some dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless this girl makes a move dont get too worried, explain to ure bf about her and turn it into a pitying sort of joke with him, so he sees that u r confident and she is just another no-hoper that is after him, dont stay out of her way, but dont go up to her either continue as normal, boys dont like parinoid nagging insecure girlfriends so show him u can stand ure own, if she makes a move, he will reject her and she will look like the eejit and u will look like the victim, she loses both ways. Keep him close enough 2 watch but not 2 stalk! relax and enjoy ure relationship...
2007-08-12 16:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always make excuses not to hang out when shes around.
its just a crush. If you believe you are more attractive and your boyfriend will not leave you for her then whats the issue? Shes just dreaming, right?
I'm sure it'll take two seconds and she will be interested in some other guy.
2007-08-12 15:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by redheadedgrl84 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if she isn;t doing anything rude or whatever.. thats one thing. If she is flirting with him and things like that.. its another. Honestly.. she isn;t going to care what YOU say... she won't get it til HE makes the point clear. If you are having parties and things at your house or whatever.. well Im for the *** kicking.. and it isn;t about jealousy, or insecurity, or competition either. Its about respect.. when I tell a ***** to back off, thats what I mean, and if she steps up to the plate again, the ***** will get knocked out.
2007-08-12 17:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really who cares if she likes your boyfriend. If the two of you have a good relationship and you trust him what is the big deal? Maybe you should try and think of it as sort of a compliment that someone else likes your boyfriend. She is probably just as jealous of you if not more so .So be proud of your relationship,be proud of your man and start to be proud of yourself for raising above the situation.
2007-08-12 15:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by pepc1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be jealous if your hot,just know that even though she likes him she could never have him.Treat her like you would a girl who was five or six and had a crush on your boyfriend.Like " aww thats so cute,that ugly girl likes my boyfreind",the tell her at least she has good taste in men!
2007-08-12 16:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jarrett D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋