I'm dating a guy who has a rep as a player. But he spends all his free time with me since we started dating and is very attentive and everything, the way a non-player would be. This has all the signs of a relationship but I'm being cautious because I'm scared to get any deeper with it. I don't want to get hurt if he really is just playing me. Can't stop thinking of that line "Players only love you when they're playing." Is is possible for people to change and get serious about someone who makes them want to change? I just don't want to be deluded.
2007-08-12 08:32:08 · 10 answers · asked by FallenBird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me just add, I'm not trying to change him. I know he has to want to do that himself.
2007-08-12 08:48:40 · update #1
Yes it is possible to change. Enjoy all of your time together but maintain your common sense. Relax and trust until you are given a reason not to trust! Good Luck!
2007-08-12 08:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tom T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I love these kinds of relationships. I've been in them, friends have been in them.. and this is basically how it goes. You always want to be the girl that changes him. No doubt about it, and I applaud you for atleast being open about it. He could be playing you, you could be changing him.. who knows. Only time will tell. But it's good that you're being attentive, and aware that there's potential. But don't dwell on it, and don't have doubt. People can change, but it's damn hard. Just work on it, and take your relationship a day at a time. Don't set yourself up for disappointment! Good luck;]
2007-08-12 08:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by SINK711 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure...is possible he has changed, though not too likely. Chances are he is just going for a long duration play....it's a nice break from playing all the time with diffrent girls.
Saddly, as he will be 'perfect', there is nothing you can do to see though it. And there is always a chanced that he has changed....maybe.
2007-08-12 08:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow I see a lot of terrible advice in here. All youre basing your assumptions of him on from what some people say behind his back and not his actions towards you...
I get labled a player a lot just because I look good, dress nice, and am not serious with every single girl I may have gone on a date with...and I am not a player.
A player has more then one girl interests..Sounds to me like he wouldnt have time for that if he's spending all his time with you.
You know, you could just ask him straight out.
2007-08-12 08:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by James B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This player is good! Once a player .. always a player. Waat make you think he would change for you? He will only change if HE WANTS to. No one can make others change .... Good Luck and I hope you don't learn the hard way ... No pun intended.
2007-08-12 08:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by MarkyMarkC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do change however I would ask him what his intentions are. I'm 40 and have never been faithfull to any woman until now. We've been together a year and the thought of another woman doesn't even enter my mind.
2007-08-12 08:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by rayo_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a player, always a player. Don't get serious with this guy because you can't trust him. Keep your guard up just in case!
2007-08-12 08:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even tho he is a player, or has been, he can still change, just give him a chance and see how it goes, good luck ♥
2007-08-12 08:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change people, people can only change themselves.
2007-08-12 08:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a guy
2007-08-12 08:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋