How do i stop being such a mean person?

Question

ok i'll just be real I'm rude,selfish,judgemental,i make fun of others,I laugh at things i shouldnt laugh at,i steal & lie,I curse like a sailor ect. my resume of evil is loaded.Then theres this complete other side of me,I can be really loveing & compasionate,i can feel other peoples emotions so intensly that i cry for them almost like i can feel it too.Today i went to church (first time in a LONG time) I went because it was my bday yesterday & i was greatful for my family & friends & all i have(and also because i feel icky inside).Church was amazing i felt connected& just weird but in a good way.That lasted for awhile but when i got home i had to do something i didnt want to.My mom is disabled because shes morbidly obese & has arthritis & i had to wipe her rear.& i felt this meaness in me coming back where i wanted to yell & throw a fit & blame her for doing this to herself.My Q is how can i change?Why am i like this?Do i need therapy,God? Suggestions Plz? Maybe a prayer or two?

Answer 1

You may need deliverance. Sometimes we open ourselves up to the influence of unclean spirits (demons), which hold sway over us. Don't get freaked out or frightened over this - they are as common in the spirit world as insects are in the natural world. They need to be detected, resisted, and driven out by faith in the name of Jesus.
1) Confess this as sin, so that whatever part there is of you in this, you may receive forgiveness and cleansing.
2) Forgive anyone and everyone who has hurt or offended you. This is a choice, not based on feelings.
3)Pray a prayer of submission to the Lord Jesus and call upon Him in faith to help you make your stand against Satan and his demons.
4)Stand on the Scripture. Jesus, when tempted, fought back not with His own power of reasoning, but by the Word of God. he said repeatedly to Satan's temptations: "It is written...."
May I suggest this one verse to begin with:

"Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."
James 4:7

Pray like this.
"God, I come to You in faith in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. I choose to serve you and live according to your will. I confess I have fallen short, but I take You at Your word which says: "If we confess our sins, You are faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (I John 1:9)
I thank You for forgivenesss, and I freely forgive all who have offended me.
Devil, I oppose you now in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. I belong to Him and have been redeemed by His shed blood. I renounce any involvement now in (name here specific things that come to mind - ANY OCCULT INVOLVEMENT MUST be repented of and renounced; renounce every specific sin - anger, meanness, unkindness, pride, whatever you know is contrary to the will of God), and I set myself against this now in the name of Jesus. I command you to depart from me now in Jesus name. Amen!

Now thank the Lord for your deliverance, and breathe out deeply, like you were blowing away a lung full of toxic smoke.
Know that the Lord now wants to teach you through a steady, humble submissive study of the Scriptures (especially the Epistles and the Gospels), how to stay free and walk in victory over the power of sin, the flesh, Satan and the world.
Jesus Christ has made you to be an overcomer!

"for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith." I John 5:4

for further teaching, visit:
http://www.derekprince.org/site/PageServer

peace to you, in Jesus name! Amen!

Answer 2

you see how mean people on YA answer your questions... the next time you feel like being mean, think about how you would feel if you were on the other side.

I feel the same way as you, but many incidents have made me humbler and less mean. My friend recently got hired to the coffee shop where i work, and I had to train him on his third day there. I used a tone that made him look like he was some kind of a little kid without a brain of his own. This made him almost break down and cry. I didnt want to be mean... its just that i took it for granted, people dont give a **** how they are treated. After that incident, i have completely changed my attitude to my coworkers, and going to work is becoming more fun than ever. Sorry, i had to share a personal experience of mine... but I would advice you to learn as much as you can from all these hardships in life. Humble yourself each time. Its good to be at the service of others. What makes somebody happier should make you happier. About your mom, im sorry about that, but try not to make her life more miserable than what it already is. If i were to choose to make myself feel bad or make another person feel bad, i would definitely let myself feel bad. Believe there is a God watching over you and rewarding you everytime you are a little nicer to your fellow men. Its not hard, all you need is a change of the way you look at life. I was/ maybe still am in the same boat as you.

Cheers!

Answer 3

You don't say your age, but since you are still at home, I assume you are under 18. You have a lot to bear, and the wide range of emotions are natural for someone who is a caretaker. Just do your best, that is all you can do right now. You don't need therapy but letting God into your life will give you peace and comfort. He cares for you but if you close him off, he can't help you. Think on the good things in your life and try not to dwell on the things you can't change.

Most of us have both bad and good in our lives...we just need to understand that we are not in this alone. You seem to have a good, supporting family and Friends. There are a lot of people who have to go through hard time in their lives without the support you have.. So hang in there and when you come to the end of your rope,,,tie a knot and hang on...You will be fine. I'd bet money on it, if I gambled,,but I don't... : )

Answer 4

Jen, I just now put you on my prayer list. I think that you're a lot nicer than you give yourself credit for. I'm so sorry about your Mom, but just remember that she didn't choose to be that way. You're not mad at her just the situation. If you want to change just get a new outlook on life. I always look for the good in everyone and everything. I love doing good deeds for people. It doesn't have to be big things either, for example hold the door for someone going into a store. Read to your Mom. I bet she'd love that even if she may fuss at first. Most of all just ask God to help you change. He made you and he don't make junk. I'll be praying for you Honey and today is the first day of the rest of your life. Now good find someone to do a good deed for.

Answer 5

Maybe losing your friends is what needs to happen for you to learn this is wrong.. You are not a true friend to them to treat them this way. If you are doing these things just to do these things as you say you are, not out of jealousy, you seriously need help. It would be more understandable if you were jealous with low self esteem. But that is not the case. It isn't going to get any better until you seek professional help to see why it is that you do these things. Maybe you should take some time away from everyone, and be by yourself for a while. No one to mutilate but yourself (figuratively speaking not literal). Find your soul persay.. Until you get help or get smacked down to reality (again figuratively) I do not see it getting anybetter if in fact you are doing this just because you can..

Answer 6

You had so many good answers I felt like I could not compare. I know that when people get discouraged, especially where they are in life, we can become rude, etc. We act this way because we feel stuck and not in control. To have that much compassion for someone that you cry is a beautiful gift from God. You will make a great prayer intercessor. Keep going to church as it sounds like this is uplifting to you and makes you feel like a better person. You probably get encouragement that you need also and feel God's love toward you. Do not put yourself down, we all experience this sometime in our life. Is your mom able to afford help from outside sources so that you don't have this responsibility? There is a pastor (Bishop Blake out of Texas) who had to take care of his mom when she was ill. God used this to teach him how to take care of his church and be a good pastor. A well known evangelist scrubbed toilets while God was teaching him to preach. You have a wonderful plan ahead for your life. Just keeping trusting in Jesus and calling out to Him for your every need. By the way, Happy Birthday and God Bless You. My prayers are on their way for you too.

Answer 7

If you earnestly seek to become a better person, you have already started the process and have the laws on your side. You just have to keep applying and stay conscious of your actions. You are suppose to be in constant prayer or constant awareness of yourself. What did Paul give? That we are suppose to captivate all thoughts in Christ. Christ isn't a man but the awareness, the power. Its becoming aware of everything you do instead of being mechanical. Ever wonder why you can't consciously recall everything you did today, or the day before etc? Because we are all sleeping.

Peace

Answer 8

thats hard to wipe somebody's *** specially ur mom's. I spent years working in group homes and had 2 do it. But reality is ur mom sick no matter why imagine how she fels cant be much fun 4 her either. I f were a real bad person u would not do it nor feel bad bout it so i know u r good. Asside frrom ur thoughts which hurt no one how much evil have u really done and is any of it still hurting. I mean did u maim or kill someone or is someone sitting at home thinking bout how bad u r most probably not. Hapy f'**king Birthday from one imperfect but basically good person 2 another

Answer 9

Just stop...cold turkey.

You said you blame your mom for "doing this to herslef."

YOU are doing the same thing to yourself, only instead of getting fat, you're being a mean you know what.

Be a role model for your mom. Be nice. Try to help her lose some weight.

Life is like this, friend.
You will ALWAYS have to do stuff you do not want to do....especially as an adult.
Youneed to grow up, and that is it.

Sure, I will pray for you and for your mama, too.

She has it tough. She can't exercise cause of the arthritis and because of her obesity. It is a catch 22.....

Try to have a little sympathy for her.

Good luck!

Answer 10

You're not a mean person. There is nobody on here or anywhere else on earth that doesn't do or say the same things you do, and if they say different they are lying. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God.
Just pray. Ask the Lord to take your bad thoughts and actions and ask Him to give you strength to help your family.
I will say a prayer for you!

Answer 11

Have you been born again, by the Holy Spirit of God?

Jesus said unless one is born of the Spirit, he cannot see, or enter the kingdom of God.

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!"

II Corinthians 5:17