The other night I found that my 9 year old had again wasted almost a whole bottle of something to clean her stuffed toy, she has wasted a lot of soap and shampoo doing this, as punishment I grounded her to her room for the night, this was on Friday and on Friday nights I let them sleep downstairs with me as a treat, I had ment for her to stay up there all night but about an hour later it started storming and I was worried about her being up there alone so I let her come down, I admit I did'nt do anything about the punishment after that, should I have continued it another way?
2007-08-12 08:01:59 · 8 answers · asked by pumpkin2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I understand that she just wanted to keep her toy clean but she does this all the time, I talk to her about it and she says she is sorry and then goes and does it again the next day. I have tried explaining that the stuff costs money, I have tried having her pay it back with her allowance, I have tried telling her to tell me first so I can help her but she still keeps doing it.
2007-08-12 09:25:04 · update #1
An hour is good. Sure you kind of reneged on your punishment, which is never good, but this is kind of an acceptation.
Maybe you could have had her sleep downstairs but out of eye shot of the rest of the family so she feels safe, and still is being punished. All and all, I wouldn't worry.
Edit: Just read the additional details, if this is a case of constant disobedience (she does it over and over again) and you've punished her already, I agree with kittyKat, this calls for a spanking.
2007-08-12 20:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she likes to clean her stuffed animal why not give her a $1 for doing some kind of task around the house and let her have to buy her own bottle of shampoo at the dollar store. I think the punishment was a bit harsh. When my daughter who is almost 9 does something she shouldn't do she gets a spanking, sent to her room for 10 mins, then I go up and we talk about it and then we pray.
2007-08-12 15:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by kittykat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's done is done. Even if you didn't go on with the punishment, I'm sure the time she was in her room grounded gave her some time to think of what she did. If you felt like she needed to still be punished you could've just taken a privilege like no t.v for a day or something of that sort. what you can still do is talk to her and explain to her the reason of your dissapointment.
2007-08-12 15:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by trixygrl26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe let her pick a couple of toys to put in the bath with her so she can clean them while she is getting clean.
Have her pick a few different ones each time and maybe she can keep a chart of when each one was cleaned last.
2007-08-12 16:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad but, that was kind of harsh. She just loves her little bear as her own child. So, she wanted to give it a good "bath" to keep it healthy. Next time, or in a little while say, "honey, when you want to clean your bear, ask me to help you. O.K? So you don't have to use so much soap!" (then laugh with her) P.S, buy her her own "special" cheap soap if she dosn't stop. Then she can use that.
2007-08-12 15:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that my boys were doing that in their baths... They would empty out their shampoo to make bubbles and so forth.
What I began doing with my kids was explain that EVERYTHING costs money.
I then began to pay them for small chores like .50 to help take out garbage and .50 to help me put their clothes away. My boys are only 7 & 5 and my daughter is too young! So, I bought them each a wallet to save their money in and I told them when they have enough saved they can buy some bath bubbles. We started out with saving for something small.
Now, when their 2 yr old sister spills something they say "Trin, that costs money!" So, they are learning that they need to careful with things because they now know you need to save to buy things. They have also learned to save for something bigger than to just buy something small.
My oldest boy saved 98.00 to buy him a new skateboard!
So, my suggestion would be to teach her about money and why she needs to be careful as to not waste things. She will learn
2007-08-12 15:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her next time she does it she'll be grounded. It was nice of you to let her come back down so she wouldn't be scared.
2007-08-12 15:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, your daughter is fine. You reacted fine. Your daughter needs to know you care about her. Bringing her out of the storm taught her about your love. And please realize that she is just trying to be neat and tidy, like you are probably always telling her to be, and didn't realize she was wasting things. please moniter her use of chemicals in the future though.
2007-08-12 15:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Treasa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋