My ex and i are close friends. we are still into each other but he wants his feelings to grow more before we go back out. We hang out a lot. But sometimes i get to carried away and start texting and calling him non stop. He doesnt answer. But calls me back a while after for a little. He works, and his grandparents are down aswell as his cousins. No he is costa rica. I didnt get a chance to say buy to him because i had to work. he sais we will hang out when he gets back. But i feel like im crowding him. How do i make him chase me, and not seem so desperate.But hey i cant help it i love this guy and the tought of us going back out is what i have prayed for for a while. YES im a christian girl. So please dont use any sarcasm. Thanks for the advice!
2007-08-12 07:58:02 · 10 answers · asked by Mindy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By crowding him, you do show the desperate side of you. Stop being a bug -a-boo and give him the space he's asking for. Don't call him anymore, let him call you. He doesn't answer for a reason. I do the same thing, not to be difficult, but because IT'S NOT CUTE. We always call back, but when were ready to talk, Feel me? His feelings for you are going to grow for you alright, but, not the way you want them to if you keep the OCD up. Chill out!
Amen.
2007-08-12 08:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...so you admit that you have an issue crowding him. Work on that because that might lead to another problem for the both of you later in life. You cannot make one chase you. If he wants to be with you, which he says in time if you give him a little time to emotionally grow, he will come to you. And just because you pray so the two of you would be together, doesn't mean God's purpose for you is to be with him. I'm not telling you to stop loving this man but right now he doesn't want commitment until he's ready. Don't pressure him.
2007-08-12 15:10:11 · answer #2 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control yourself when it comes to contact with him. Leave it to a few contacts for a day. Perhaps a good morning, night...etc. As far as him chasing you, it should come to him naturally from being so apart from you. If you cut back on the messages, which kind of cut back on contact, he will realize how much he misses you and maybe be the one to initiate the contact instead of it always being you. You can also try mailing him a letter once a week.
Text and actual letters are too different levels of intimacy. Keep the love strong, don't let it wash away because you two are apart and also don't overwhelm him. Find something to distract you, perhaps a hobby you have.
2007-08-12 15:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can say is. first of all, cut down on calling him all the time. if he truely wants to be with u, then he wall call u, without being prompted by u.
i know it's scarey, what if he doesn't call u. has he found someone else. have u scared him away, on and on with the terrifying questions to yrself.
don't force him into a decision . if he really cares about u, and wants to be with u. he will let u know on his own.
yes it's hard, and its scarey. but it's more fearful that u pushed him away. let him come after u. let up on the phone calls. call him once a week maybe. or maybe just wait a week or two. see if he calls u. but try so hard to hold back from calling him.
good luck, Star!
2007-08-20 13:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i know it's hard but back off.. wait for him to call you.. or just call him every few days.. don't text him either... wait for him to text first... And if you think u can make yourself do it... don't answer the first time he calls.. wait till the second or third or call him back a few hours later. He will notice that you're not calling him alot and call you. And keep praying... God can always help.. And since you're a christian then you know that if you are supposed to get back with him you will at the right time. Let me know how things turn out. Best of luck!!
2007-08-12 15:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push things too far, you might drive him away...what made you two break up in the first place? give him some personal space to let his feelings grow, if you crowd him too much, it might just hurt the chances..let him call you first once in a while
2007-08-12 15:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by super.girl06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make anyone do anything unless they want to. Being a clinging person will ulltimately ruin the relationship.Ask Christ to help you and pray a lot. You can do it, but you must try.
2007-08-20 13:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if u still have feelins for your ex than hang out with him alot and he might come through
2007-08-12 15:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by taylor w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of problem do u have?
and does ur hand fell numb in the morning
2007-08-13 11:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by y@ boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol women crack me up. if your his ex why did you get divorced? Now you want him back?
2007-08-19 23:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by hmeetis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋