will i never be able to love anyone?
2007-08-12 07:32:04 · 27 answers · asked by John D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
why do people say i choose to be gay. i would do ANYTHING just to be normal
2007-08-12 07:39:04 · update #1
First point: Anybody who's gay and for whom it feels like a choice, raise your hands . . . yeah, that's what I thought. God made us that way, and He doesn't make mistakes.
Second point: Just because you believe you're obliged to be celibate if you're gay (as I do believe for myself) does NOT believe you can't love people. Lots of people. You just can't have sex with them. And no matter what the secularists tell you, sex is NOT required for a happy life.
I mean, look at Catholic priests. And nuns. And brothers. Of any sexual orientation. The huge majority are celibate and happy. The ones that aren't . . . yeah, some of them get onto the evening news. Along with the drug-pushing doctors and the dishonest businesspeople and all.
Third, most important point: God does love you! And He gave you and me (and lots of others) a different cross to bear than other people have. If anybody tells you that He only loves the people who don't have any problems, ask them to show you one of those people! And take seriously that basically true joke: Everybody's normal . . . until you really get to know them.
Final thought, not I hope TOO off the wall. Somebody once claimed that if gay guys can be chaste, and seen to be chaste, it gives an example to married couples that THEY don't have to abuse their rights with each other, but can follow Natural Family Planning, etc.
Of course, that would mean coming out at church. Sort of a tightrope, no?
2007-08-12 13:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have always been good... so for some reason you think that your homosexuality is a punishment of some sort. Maybe there is something you did wrong that you cannot remeber... just maybe. Well, I am here to tell you that the one "punishing" you is yourself because you are focusing on the nagativity of being gay. I know because I did the very same thing as I was comming to terms with it.
So... in answer to your question(s)...
God made you gay, not as a form of punishment, but because God values diversity and having people simply be straight would not provide that creative satisfaction. Look at it as if you ahve been created special for God's personal joy.
Will you ever be able to love? Well, I hope so. Take the time to love yourself and the answer should be clearer but focusing on all this negative energy will get you the same thing in return. Fully accept who you are as you are and that should be a solid step in the right direction.
As for all those who say God did not make you gay... tune them out! They obviously have not had the pleasure of being gay and the idea that someone would choose a lifestyle full of suffering at the early stages clearly has not crossed their thoughts. No one really knows what God created... and who is the truer form of his creation... so listening to the whole "it's a choice..." retort is a waste of time.
And finally, what is normal to one person may not be normal to another. Take what you have to offer and what you ahve been given and just work off of that. Just because you are gay does not mean you have to fit the stereotypical mold (though, there is nothing wrong with that, if you do) that everyone else has of gay people. Be yourself and live "your" life... love will find you and eventually you will find happiness.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-12 13:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John I've been reading through these answers and I think while some are good others are really ignorant. You didn't choose to be gay, I know it and u know it too. God does love, it's just that well these are the trials we must face in life. I'm pretty sure u a good person and I'm almost certain there are many people in ur life who love u for u. Please do not let people who have nothing else better to do but to insult u get u down. Have a great day and here's wishing u all the best.
2007-08-12 13:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Selym 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I belive any one is born gay because I'm a christian or at lest i was bathtized in to the christian fath years ago ,i might not be considerd a christian now because i dont follow the bible. Any way I do belive that any one who is gay did not just wake up one day and decied to be gay ,either they just were or there was some thing in there brain that determed the likly hood of them turning out that way,i guess it could be either way depending on the person .Any way wither u were born that way or not god did not try try to pusnish u ,hes a loving and forgiving god. There are times that i really wondered why i was born,if i was going to have the problem that i do ,it just didnt make a lot of since to me ,But i just except it and I'm going to get meds for it. Heres my advice on what to u ,if u want to be straight and follow ur relgion then try it and get the help for it ,if that fails then just be who u are or just simply be who u are.
Yes u will be able to love but the question is can u accept who u will love that being a guy?
2007-08-12 13:22:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not a phase, dude. Four years of exclusive attraction to boys at your age is too long for a phase. I'm in the same position as you. Don't worry about labels right now, anyway. People are individuals and individuals are unique. Why are you "questioning" your sexuality? Are you beginning to feel sexually attracted to girls, as well? If so, you may end up being a bisexual once you are sexually mature. Even at 16, a change like that is possible. Don't worry so much for now. Keep an open mind and accept whatever may come.
2016-05-20 22:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You *are* normal, Dearest, and God does Love you. You just haven't realized it. You need to put aside what other people are saying to you and love the person you are. If you can't love you then how can you expect anyone else to? God Loves you more than you can ever imagine -- no matter what the haters and the want-to-be Christians say. If they're telling you you're going to hell because you're gay, that's exactly what they are "want-to-be". Jesus said NOTHING about Homosexuality and he hung around with tax collectors and whores and the unsavoury characters of His day. He raised the Common Man and loved them.
If they spout Paul and Leviticus to you remember that Paul was NOT the Savior, Jesus is and Leviticus does not apply unless you take the entire Law -- and that means no shrimp and no mixed fiber clothing (and you can keep slaves, too!)
You, my Son, are loved so well you can't even imagine it -- and it's about time that you did imagine it! You ARE Loved.
Believe it. Blessings, my Dearest.
2007-08-12 13:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were born gay so god could see if the good christians were following his words things like love your neighbor,judge not lest ye be judged and a whole bunch of other verses.Sure there are verses that are viewed as negative to homosexuality but there are many many more that reference how heterosexuals are to behave yet many "good" christians have commited adultery and have been divorced and had premarital sex yet they would disrespect Jesus and be the first ones to throw stones at you.Remember these words let he who lives without sin cast the first stone.Live your life find happiness and love just be the best person you can be and leave the rest up to god thats all any of us can do.Shed your anger towards god and forgive him if you must but remember your life know matter how hard or unfair it seems was his gift to you.
2007-08-12 13:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Amy m 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honeslty, I suggest you disregard what everyone on here has said so far. Disregard what everyone says about being gay is a sin, including what it says in the bible. Forget about it, written by homophobic men who were afraid of people who had a different world view that you do. Just be you, and don't worry about what other people think about it, especially the bible. God still loves you regardless of how you were made, or what you are. You will find someone for you one day, and yes you will be able to love. First, you need to accept who you are, and learn to love yourself. Embrace how you were made and who you are. Don't let the other people who disagree with it get you down. Embrace your life, get out there are enjoy it, and all the people who spread hate and don't understand how you feel matter little.
2007-08-12 07:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lord AmonRaHa 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, God isn't trying to punish you by you being gay. Any kind of observation to the contrary is sort of putting yourself in judgement on the way you were created.... no point in going there.
Try to stop seeing yourself as a victim, for heaven's sake. God loves you whether you are gay or not, but people have a hard time with that victim mentality stuff.
2007-08-12 07:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mandaladreamer 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
To everyone before me clutching their mythological textbook:
It takes supreme arrogance to speak on a Gods behalf.
If you knew God, you'd be God.
You're not God, therefore you do not know God.
This type of sexuality existed long before Jesus or Abraham came along, yet somehow the human race survived. Several cultures from around the globe gave such persons special status, for they saw it as a gift.
Leonardo da Vinci.
One man who painted God, adorned his chapel with reverent imagery, and also happened to be homosexual. Yet despite his contributions to science, religion, art, and the betterment of the world, he should be damned? He's burning still, is that what you're saying?
It takes a special kind of controlled upbringing, to induce such fear-based and narrow-minded thought processes.
I say to you, fellow human, let no man tell you the mind of God. Speak to him yourself, and let him answer.
Let no man tell you who you are. That is for you to discover.
Nothing constructive comes from treating people as less-than-human. Slavery to name but one effect.
And while you may disagree or have your own thoughts, a little humility in the face of a vast and complex universe, would go a long way for good.
2007-08-12 15:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Earendil 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋