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Question

know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident .i have a problem because every morning he wakes up and starts to cry because he had accident at night . u would think he would have got use to waking up with a wet diaper but he dosen't act like it . he's usely wakes up around 7:30 or 8:00 and starts to cry and i like to sleep till 9:00 . what can i do for him to get use to waking up with and accident. hes 23 years old and he dosn't have brain damage

to have patience u need sleep i love him with all my heart but once and a while i need a little sleep

anything i can do for him to get more sleep at night . please don't say ur selfesh or ur mean . i need help would u help me find a way for to get sleep

Answer 1

ear plugs they work

Answer 2

It is a very humiliating experience to go through. Knowing it will be like that for the rest of his life is a hard thing to get use to. I don't know if medication can help him or not but here goes. You don't say if he can walk or not so I don't know if he is bed bound or not.
I had a car accident nearly 10 years ago. Herniated discs in lower back. It affected my bodily functions. The dr. prescribed Detrol LA for the bladder. I couldn't feel if I was going or not. It just came out. The medication allows me to manage for 4 or 6 hours with out it leaking out. Now - after about 5 years, I can feel the sensation when I have to go and I can get to the bathroom and go. I finally could quit wearing diapers. The bowels are affected by how I sit on the commode and I have a very hard time going and then if I sneeze or cough while in the process, it stops. I have found that if I keep fiber in my diet and a stool softener, it becomes controllable. Yes, surgery on the discs can cure the problem but there is also the chance that it can paralyze me so I live with it.
Another thougth is that honey is a relaxing and calming substance. It relaxes you and is what I used when my children were very young and were toilet training. If I gave them 2 tablespoons of honey before bed, they could make it until wake up time without having to go.
These are two things you can try for your brother. Dr. can tell you if the Detrol LA could work or not.
You can also take honey before you go to sleep you you can relax.

Answer 3

Poor him and poor you. Kudos to you for being so patient up to now. Can you look into getting a bedwetting alarm It will go off and wake him so he can then get up and attend to himself.
I think he really needs some kind of counselling tho, if the bedwetting is making him cry....he must need some kind of help.
Maybe you should look into getting some kind or respite care, so that you get a break every now and then, or can you stay with a friend a couple of nights a week, at least then you will get a couple of good nights and that will make all the difference.
Maybe hypnosis is another thing you could try to cure him of the bedwetting. It might help. Anything is worth a try....I dont know what else to suggest.
Good luck with it.

Answer 4

A couple of thoughts:
1) If he lost bowel & bladder control in the accident, I question whether he may have gotten some brain damage. (I'm talking from a professional point of view). Could it be that the injury causing the lack of control also gave a minor injury to the part of the brain that has to do with sleep? You could ask his neurologist about that.
2) I know that a trauma like a bad accident can cause emotional repercussions. If his intelligence is close to normal, you could consider taking him for therapy. He could have hypno therapy, to give him mental affirmations like: "it is a good feeling to know that my bowel and bladder function effectively during the night, and I have no blockages", or, "I like to wake up knowing I have eliminated unnecessary waste from my body." That may help him with the negative emotions.
3) You could take him to trauma therapy, regarding the grief of losing his bowel & bladder control. EMDR is excellent & usually works in 1-10 sessions. It helps the person "forget" the trauma so they can go on with their lives, leaving behind the bad effects, and not feeling the grief, as much. He'd still have the physical symptoms, but may not feel as sad about them.
4) You could ask his neurologist or psychiatrist for sleeping pills or anti-depressants, to help him sleep a bit more soundly.

Answer 5

At 23 he is probably crying in total frustration at the loss of his former body. How humiliating to wake up every morning in your own filth. Does he have the visiting nurses come in? Sometimes people who are in such a situation can have their bladder and bowel retrained to a particular time of the day. You need to get professional help for him from wherever he had his rehab done. He needs his self esteem built up too. is he taking classes to prepare him for a job? depression and hopelessness can make us try to escape through sleep.
if you have looked at the medical help that is available I am sure you will all get some relief. Good luck.

Answer 6

Talk to his doctor and see if there's anything he can do. Perhaps a colostomy, I don't know - there has to be a medical solution to this.
The other thing, if it's just a matter of keeping the diaper dry, is to have an alarm clock near him and have it go off twice during the night. If he can get up and use the bathroom himself (force himself to go) twice, maybe he won't need the diaper except as 'backup' for the rare accident.

Answer 7

If you have any kind of insurance try getting an aide to come in the mornings. Or if no insurance there are other community things that can help with these kinds of things. Is he paralyzed or just loses his bowel and bladder?
Good Luck!

Answer 8

There is no help I can give you but I will give you advise. Keep in mind that he is your brother, He is 23 yrs old and wetting the bed again, No girl will ever sleep in the same bed as him, and his room will always smell like urine. Comefort him he will get used to it, but it will take some time. Right now he really needs to know that someone is there and cares about him. god bless and good luck.

Answer 9

Give him some valerian root in pill form. Valerian root is a natural herb that is a mild sedative and promotes sleep. You can purchase it at most health food stores.

He may also need some psychological help for depression. This sort of disability is very difficult for many young people to accept. My best wishes to him and you.

Answer 10

U know Ariel u can have a talk with him telling him that it is going to happen all the time and he needs to get used to it. Exclaim to him that he needs to get more sleep and so does everyone else
Tell him that u would really hate if that happened to you too.
Well I hope that talking to him about it will help both of you get some sleep!!!!!!! I hope that was a good enough answer!!!!!!

Answer 11

Try to find something that will ease him. Perhaps music? For example if it is music, have earphones next to his bed that he can put on to calm himself down and even go back to sleep. Depending on the types of music he likes of course...if he likes something soothing, I don't know if you have heard of pure moods but its an awesome relaxing cd.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. But your a great person for doing what you do and being there for him. If music doesn't work, maybe putting in a movie? DVD season set like the simpsons...something humorous to ease him.

Best of luck!