2007-08-12 06:40:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So many questions I would like to ask...
If your husband is coherent still....let the boy spend time with him and tell your husband that now is the time to tell the boy how proud he is of him and that he needs him to take care of you after he is gone. Let them cry together and let them love.
If your husband is not coherent then...you must explain to your son that he needs to tell his daddy good bye so that he can go, that he needs to hear how much he loved having him for his daddy and how much he will miss him and to tell him a few of his favorite memories with his daddy. Help him write down what he wants to say so that when he is beside his father he will be able to voice everything and nothing will go unsaid. You also need to talk to your husband and tell him you will be OK as your son does. Tell him you two will take care of each other. Let your son tell him that he will take care of you and he will be alright if he leaves, that he will keep the love he has given him always. Because he is of his heart, and that kind of love never dies.
2007-08-12 06:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by honeykoen1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh man......I hope your family believes and talks about God. Faith in Heaven and a better life after this one always helps us to accept death of someone we love.
If not, let your son know that his father now has peace. If there was any suffering, that there is now no pain in his father's life. Let him know that his father will always be a part of him, be with him, and will watch over him throughout his life. He may need some counseling, but children are so strong and resilient. They usually amaze you on how well they can accept things like this. Sometimes much better than adults do.
2007-08-12 06:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well that depends on if you know for sure hes going to die. And if you do know that then how do you know? You need to sit down with all of you and talk about things including life and death and what happens when you are borna nd what happens when you die. Not talking about religous stuff jsut what happens to your body and eveything. 10 is a good age they know whats going on. My step daughters mother is terminally ill and she understadns whats going on because we have talked to her about it and explained the process of the disease that she has. This way she is prepared for what she is going to see in the next few years and she wont be put under too much shock. Good Luck. RL
2007-08-12 06:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry 2 hear dat, well jus hav a talk with him about how the situation will work out between u and him, tell him u and him will b closer and 2 think about the gud things n life and that the father wil b in a better place, dont tell him anything negative and take a walk or go 2 the park.
2007-08-12 06:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the Centering Corporation (toll free) at 1-866-218-0101 or visit their web site. The Centering Corporation specializes in helping people, especially children, deal with death and bereavement.
I'm so sorry your family is going through this horrible time right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
2007-08-12 06:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by ann81969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to prepare any one about the death of a love one; especially a kid. first of all ia'm very sorry my prayers are with you and your love one; just tell him the true. every person is going to die one day ; no man can live and don't see death.If his dad was sick tell him that he is in a better place that he will not suffer any more and that one day he will see his dad againt that is a promise ; you can also talk to your paster talk to the elders of your church; have some church members to come to your house and to pray for your family; i pray that God give you strenght and keep you encourage that he gives you perfect pease in this time of sorrow pain weary ; even Jesus wept. peace.
2007-08-12 07:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rosalinda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't taken him to church, a good one, so that he understands about eternal life and faith, then make an appointment with a minister for a one-time counseling and get him started going to church. People without faith are devastated by death because they have no hope. People of faith will mourn naturally, but they understand something much bigger is going on as well.
2007-08-12 06:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is never a easy thing to cope with unless the child understands what death is.
Explain to him if he's oblivious , and reassure him that everything will be alright in the end of it.
I can't really put anymore into words other than that, since I'm unaware of your current situation. Aside from that I wish you the utter best.
2007-08-12 06:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Bou [微笑] 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kids at ten know what is going on, so if dad is sick and going to die, he already knows. If not, and it's something unexpected, then honesty is your best policy. It'll give him time to put it into perspective, ask his questions and process it. Anyway you go honey, it's going to be hard and your actions are going to be based on his reaction to the news. Your his mom, you know how he thinks and functions, you also know what he needs to get through this.
I'm sorry for the loss and I wish you the strength of God to get you through it.
2007-08-12 06:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell him the difference between life and dealth. you cant prepare for dealth, it happens and you react. tell him you love him and that GOD makes no mistakes. people are born everyday and they also die everyday. you are a good mom to be concern about your child, yall will be alright.
2007-08-12 06:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋