I've been dating a guy on and off since December. Things finally started going well this Summer. I left for vacation, felt like we were still going strong, but now that I've been back since Tuesday, he hasn't called. While I was away, I left him a voicemail and texted him a few times to let him know I was thinking about him. He has been divorced for just over a year, and it has been hard for him. He's also a busy professional. However, I think it is a bad sign that I've been back since Tuesday and he hasn't shown any interest. How long would you wait before confronting the issue? I don't want to be the annoying girl who jumps the gun, but I also don't want to keep my hopes up too long...your input is appreciated!
2007-08-12 06:35:30 · 20 answers · asked by SAH 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Added detail: we work in the same building. He knows I'm back.
2007-08-12 06:49:02 · update #1
If it's been on and off since December, and you're waiting desperately for him to call, things are not going well. I highly recommend finding hobbies and friends of your own to help keep you "balanced". The way you're asking the question leaves me thinking you are in a co-dependent relationship. They aren't healthy at all, and -- if I were you -- I would be happy he hasn't called. It means you can start over with someone else and have a healthy relationship this time.He's not the only man on the face of the earth, and you deserve better than someone who doesn't bother to keep up with you. No matter how busy a guy's professional life is, if he wants to be with you, he'd find a way. He hasn't. He's just not that into you, and you deserve someone who is.
2007-08-12 06:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by Serena 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he knows you are back?
2 ways to look at it:
1. The phone works both ways, you can call him.
2. He wants to end it without a confrontation.....
I would call him but keep it casual. Let him set the tone. If he doesn't seem interested I would let it go. Unless of course you guys were pretty serious then I would cause a confrontation. Otherwise I would not cause a scene.
2007-08-12 06:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by beth l 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since December? Why were you vacationing without him? If my girl was away, I'd already know when she'd be coming back so I'd be picking her up at the airport or at least have a nice dinner or date planed for the first day that she's back.
Doesn't sound like he's that serious.
Sorry.
2007-08-12 06:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by madjazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should call him. Your the one that left. He might not want to call especially since he came out of a marriage and might not want to feel like he's chasing after someone. Plus when someone goes on vacation anything can happen there (1 night stands) and even if your not that type he might question it. Give him a call if your interested in him. good luck =)
2007-08-12 06:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shockingly bad sign! How rude! I think maybe things are different in the U.S....I assume that you are American...in Britain, if you see someone regularly and have sex then you are in a relationship and there are rules...he should have called you back whilst you were away...or at least texted....I would dump him fast. If he calls, then tell him you want a partner who cares about you...
2007-08-12 06:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't torture yourself, give him a call. Its not such a big deal, who calls first. When you speak with him, try to figure out if there is a change in him. Just be careful! And just go with what your inner self tells you.
2007-08-12 06:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by simplyamazingalex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wait...why don't you call him and tell him you're back home again...what a great vacation you had, etc. Let the rest happen on it's own.
2007-08-12 06:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Gary D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should call him. Since he's busy, it may have slipped his mind to call you. There's nothing wrong with putting yourself out there and inviting him to dinner or something. If he says no, then you wont have to waste your time waiting for him to call anymore.
2007-08-12 06:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you let him know that you are home? why don't you call and invite him to dinner. that way you will know if he is still interested. there is no confronting necessary. if he accepts your invitation then you can make a nice romantic meal for two. good luck:)
2007-08-12 06:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by busted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you missed him give him a call and tell him you're back.
You'll be able to tell if he thinks this is good new or not.
There are no rules if both people care about each other.
2007-08-12 06:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋