i met this guy on the net about 3 years ago. we can talk constantly or we can go for months without even saying hi, and everything will still be fine. well in the past 5 months or so things have changed betweens us. he told me that he has like me since the day we started talking, and no matter how many girls he goes out with, or tells me about, im the only one he really wants. im nearly 18 and hes 21, when we first started talking he thought i was 18 when i was really nearly 16, i came clean about my ages about a year ago and he didnt mind. he thinks the same as me, age is only a number. so anyways, with the amount we had been talking lately we decided to meet up. he lives in wales and im in essex, seeing as i cant drive yet, he came down here to see me. all the time we have been talking he has literally been my perfect guy. he makes me laugh, hes kind, always there for me, can talk about anything with him, hes basically my male best friend. he is also good looking. basically everything i want in a guy. the only thing i dont like is his teeth, but surely im not so shallow that i cant have feelings for him because of that? so he came down on friday, spent most of the day with him and my best friend (who he also knows through me) and then we went out that night to hit the clubs. now, my mum and step dad really like him, he was talking to them most of the time i was getting ready. when we got into town, my dad was out, my dad really liked him (which is extemely rare! my dad hates every guy i know)...so hes my perfect guy, gets on with my family and is besotted by me, he even compliments me constantly, calling me beautiful! not fit, or hot, but beautiful. so whats the problem? why dont i like him? i personally think its because hes to perfect, my parents like him, so i want to rebel. i also think hes too needy and clingy, although that could just be me. i work really well in long distance relationships as i usually need my own space. but at the same time, i want someone who lives near by so i can just go round and cuddle up too when i feel like it. now when i was out, he told my best friend that he really cared about me. he would leave his life in wales to be with me, or he would come down every weekend if i still wanted my space. he said its not just because im 'beautiful', but because of the person i am, im honest, down to earth, and because we get on so well! so i just dont know what to do. my friends say its because im afriad to get into another relationship because i got hurt in my previous two. but i know he would never do anything to hurt me. i really want to like him, maybe even love him back, i just dont know why i cant. the only things i can think of is because of the clinginess and the fact that he gets on with everyone. any ideas?
2007-08-12 06:07:50 · 3 answers · asked by cuddleybutevil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your gut feeling, no matter what anyone says.
2007-08-12 06:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by flutterby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's simply just fallen for you after all the time you've chatted,and more so now you've met,plus I'm sure you will have given him many signals that you like him over the years,and when you met,so you cant really blame him for having the feelings he has for you,its just how he feels and he's able to express that,which is rare in alot of cases.
You have to ask yourself whether you want to be in a relationship or not,and I mean with anyone! Because from all you've said,you can't really find fault in him and he's literally you're perfect guy,other than his teeth,and that can be sorted if that's the main issue!
Why not give him a chance and take things slowly and see how you feel again after a month or two,its the only way of finding out if this guy is suited to you,and if after a month or so you still have the same dilemma,just call it a day with him,for both your sakes.
And if you do decide to give him a chance,tell him from the start that you just want to take things slow and see how things go,it's the fair thing to do.
I think your past relationships may be clouding your judgement a little at the moment,maybe that's why you feel like you do right now as you are faced with someone who appears to genuinly care about you again.
2007-08-16 08:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be that you're put off by the fact that he's clingy, that puts me off massively, but also it sounds like he kisses your a*s a bit if you know what i mean; he would move away from wales just to be with you... everything's about you, and yeah, that's nice, but it must get pretty annoying. does he know you don't like him the same way?
i think you're put off by him being so easy. and it sounds like he makes all the effort. maybe you're just not attracted to him, ad there's not really much you can do about that.
good luck with it :)
2007-08-12 14:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by PopPopPoppedyPop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋