okay ive been freinds this girl for almost 5 years and we sorta dated but it was middle school so nothing big but i have a girl now and now im confused bout how i feel .. i realy trust the first one and have a crush on her now but what do i do bout my girlfreind of almost 2 months
2007-08-12 04:37:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way the first girl kinda has a boyfreind
2007-08-12 07:34:12 · update #1
If you are confused do not pursue anything with the first girl. When you are sure about your feelings, go ahead. If you guys are meant to work out, it'll happen.
2007-08-12 04:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Camille 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, I think you should tell the girl your with, about how you feel, you really shouldn't be with one girl and falling for another, it could result in a whole lotta hurt for everyone. Second, you should talk to your long time crush, and she how she feels about you, just keep in mind that the worst thing she can say is that she doesn't feel the same, and that's OK, trust me, there are a whole lot of girls in the world, and when the time comes, you'll find the perfect one. But don't let this girl that your dating now fall in love with you, and then tell her that you don't feel for her the way she does about you. Good luck.
2007-08-12 11:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Hava_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you've been "Friends" for almost 5yrs...and "sorta" dated (but in middle school so nothing "big".)...now, you have a girlfriend..and you're confused on your feelings....You trust the "1st" girl and have a crush on her now(after 5yrs of being her friend) but now...what to do with your g/friend of 2months*.........um sounds like your "emotionally" attached to the first girl...(crush)......and if that's the case you need to end it with your present g/friend. Tis not fair to her, when your heart and your thoughts are with the first girl......You will have to say something to your gfriend which will break her heart, and if later she finds out you started to "persue" the first girl...this will really hurt your present g/friend. Sounds like you're in a bind right now...you need to think of how you want to handle this. Give the second girl and you a chance......or does your heart say.....you definately want to reconnect with the first girl? What if the first girl has a boyfriend? or, doesn't feel the same way as you do?? You have some serious thinking to do*~ Best of luck*~ Follow your heart~*
2007-08-12 11:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself whos been there for you. its not fair to the girl your seeing now to all of the sudden say i think i'm in love with a girl ive known for years and might have feelings for so im breaking up with you, don't do that. do the right thing and tell her your not sure where your relationship is going with her and you need some time to work things out so you can make the right decision about where you are both headed.
2007-08-12 11:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by bill p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is the past,stick with the present....or if you dont want to deal with it that way then you should NOT tell the girl youre with right now the reasons for why you should take some time off each other,unless you dont want to do that just think..how was the past between you and your crush when you dated and compare them with how things are now. find out if the girl in the past still like you and do whats best for both of you.
2007-08-12 11:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A crush is a cruch-but if you've been with another girl for 2months you're obviously interested in her. Make a list of pros and cons for each girl and the on that you find you have more in common with or feelings are stronger for then got with that one.
I'd rather be with a guy that have the same feelings for me as I do for him. Rather than having someone who is in love with someone else.
2007-08-12 11:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i am sort of confused about what u r saying but is this what u r saying?: u r friends with this girl and u r confused about how u feel, but u all ready have a girlfriend? well if that is what u r saying... u shouldn't rush things... first find out how u really feel about her and then if u like her... i can't believe i am saying this because this is a horrible thing to do... but *gulping* dump your old girlfriend for her... it is not the right thing to do though... i don't think i helped u much... i am really sorry... well... good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just remember if u do ask your friend out and she says no... it could ruin your relationship 4-ever! so be careful!
~Mo Mo
2007-08-12 11:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mo Mo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her *** if u have feelings for another girl while you have a girlfriend that **** will never work, you will end up cheating or something so just break it off boy... its the best thing you can do and if that other girl feels the same way about u its all good. your young and the girl your dating is too if you dump her she will get over it she must be attractive if you like her so another guy will also like her so there ant no need to be worried bout anythang just take dis advice..... she will get over it dont tell her your leaving her for anotha woman just say "i feel like this realationship is not working for me because baby its me not you i dont feel it anymore i just feel like we are in it for lust not love and i need to find that special person in my life that can fufill what i am looking for so for now i need space" and then if you like your space dump her and go with the girl you feel for
2007-08-12 11:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jade B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have feelings for another girl, then you shouldn't hold on to your g/f of 2months. it's just not fair to her. what happens if you don't say anything and continue with this relationship and after say 2yrs you decide you want to be with this other girl? think of how bad that will hurt your current g/f. and just think, you could be holding back from a perfectly good relationship with your crush. pray about it and go with your heart.
2007-08-12 11:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by redneckqueen19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have stronger feelings for your crush, you need to make the choice. Let down your girl easy, wait awhile before pursueing your crush.
2007-08-12 11:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋