my boyfriend and i broke up 3 months ago. we talked pretty much every day up until recently when i started to feel like i was bothering him about getting back together, and he told me he just wants to be friends and still hang out and stuff. he tells people he doesnt know if I can change (we were together every day all day for 3 years- not a lot of space- not a lot of individuality- and we often got in nasty fights over stupid little things. i changed my number a couple weeks ago after he told me he thinks its done for good, and that he just doesnt want a relationship right now. not even a week later i found out he got my new number from his brother. but for the past couple weeks ive only talked to him about 2 times. everyone keeps telling me if i give him his space, and let him go for now, he'll come around. who knows how long that could take though. what can i do?
2007-08-12 03:48:17 · 3 answers · asked by mandersmo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him some space
no guy likes a clingy girl and learn how to trust people
2007-08-12 03:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do like everyone has told you...give him space and learn to be happy with yourself, otherwise, you will likely lose him forever.
Develop your own life again and pursue you own passions (and for God's sake, don't just say it is your boyfriend as it is too much pressure on anyone to be someone elses anything and everything and reason for living like the songs and movies BS you to believing).
Hang out with your female friends and do things with them you enjoy. Pursue a hobby you love. Hang out with your family and do things with them too. Focus on school or if you are out of school, go back to school or at least take a class on something that interests you. If you are happy with yourself and leading an interesting life, you are much more likely to seem interesting and attractive to other people. Needy people are always a turnoff!
2007-08-12 11:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... i think it is too much. Even i don't call my boyfriend everyday, let alone see him everyday.
Try this - leave him alone. Get on with your life. Don't call him or contact him. Make new friends, learn something new... or just simply enjoy your single life.
See if he notices it & comes back to you... If he does, then take it slowly & give him his space. If it works out then, your relationship will be much stronger than before so you lost nothing really anyway.
2007-08-12 10:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋