Guys: How do you feel about a single woman w/o kids? I thought if I had an education, career and held off reproducing, I would be more appealing to date. I have found it has made no difference. Uneducated woman with illigetimate children get more dates and boyfriends than me and most of my single, child-free friends. Do guys like to be heroes or feel needed? Is it because so many have kids themselves? Many guys make us feel like there is something wrong with us for not getting knocked up right after HS. It doesn't seem right. Is this one of society's loopholes?
2007-08-12 03:43:57 · 11 answers · asked by LAgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, you get your chin up!! YOU are the one to be proud. You have everything going for you millions of girls wish they had.
Yes, you probably are in the minority, and because you have made the right and wise choices in your life, YOU are known as "good". Guys are not used to meeting girls like you, and many times they think they themselves are "not good enough" for you, so they don't even ask. They've put you on a pedestal, but that is NOT BAD. They just know you are not the kind to run out on a date and go to bed.
Also, when you see all those "other kind of girls" going out all the time -- well, think about it: When a lot (most) of guys ask girls out, their main goal is some fun and some sex. They will naturally drift toward the group that seems like they would be most likely to deliver. Sadly, this is NOT fair at all to many, many of the girls who are single w/children. But, it is a sort of "message" or something like that. Unfair.
But, back to YOU. I know this sounds hokey, but it is true. When those same guys start looking for a girl to date and possibly marry, YOU are going to be the type he looks toward. "Wife material" is not a bad label.
There are, I PROMISE YOU, other guys out there who are looking for a girl to date that's not just available for a few fun dates and getting laid.
I know, I know, then WHERE are they?? Well, I don't know exactly, but there are places to meet the "nice" guys. Just like I'd tell a guy asking where to find a girl with character and integrity, I'm not sure exactly. When you try to think of those kinds of places, you probably think of places where nerdy, dull types hang out -- maybe, maybe not. Then, there's church singles and youth groups. If you do go to church, and there's no guys there, go "visit" another church, w/a friend, etc. Don't be afraid to be friendly to, and maybe even a little "forward" toward some of the guys that meet your criteria. Let the word out that you're kinda intrested in THAT certain guy, etc. People love to be "match makers".
I make no secret of my Christianity so no one is surprised when I mention church.
But, God really IS IN CONTROL. It is my strong belief that He has someone picked out just for you, and only you.
Pray about it. If it seems appropriate, ask your folks or others whom you are very very close to, to pray with & for you. Believe me, whether you want to or not, you SHINE among the "old folks".
Besides, think about it, how WOW would it be to know the guy you're dating, or are engaged to, is THE ONE God chose just for YOU!
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2007-08-12 04:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by sheek Txn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how many children, and with how many woman, and if the woman are controlling and still meddling in their lives. Some woman are mature and a shared parenting arrangement is successful, and the kids are happy and secure.. but sometimes it doesn't happen that way. I was interested in a man until I found out he had 2 kids with 2 different woman. Kids were adorable, but I shouldn't of met them that soon into the relationship. Plus, Both moms were in his life, controlling his every move, fighting with eachother.. it was a mess.... yikes!
2016-05-20 06:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by leann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The less baggage you have the better you are.I guess they think with kid there more less not wanting more or having to trap them with having kids. I won't consider dating with children as there is always issues.Stay happy an enjoy your life. Parent hood is not easy an then you have a sheltered life.An what to do with? when you want to do something or go away for a weekend.Here is a idea borrow 1s child for a weekend if it goes well then a week while having to work.You will get the idea very quick.Your nice neat life is know a ====??? Have fun think it out first as you can't return it if you don't like it.
2007-08-12 04:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated a woman with kids back in 1996. Kids are great. I love em! I have problem dating woman with kids at all.
However, in my case. Me and my ex just didnt really click that well together in a relationship at all. I only met her kids like 2 time during the whole time. We fought a lot so we had to break up. That was my dating experience.
2007-08-12 03:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, yeh. It's called the typical male brain. There's nothing wrong with you, not having kids. It's a smart choice.
I personally feel there's nothing wrong with you. but hey, I'm fourteen, what do I know?
People don't listen to kids. If I hadn't told you I was fourteen I woulda had more crediblility, I chose to think that maybe you'll trust my opinion. That's another one of society's loopholes, just cuz we're young doesn't mean we're clueless!
--The Effervescent Max!
2007-08-12 03:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being single and not having any kids. Kids or no kids, I would still date you. I'd rather settle for someone with no kids because I have no kids myself. Don't get me wrong, I would like to some day, I just don't have any right now.
2007-08-12 03:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Bull 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, whether or not you have kids has no bearing. The older women with kids, tend to play less games. They don't expect expensive dates and gifts. They appreciate it more when they meet a caring and honest man. They don't complain as often and except a person for who they are, not what they want to shape them into.
2007-08-12 03:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe if you did not sound so bitter and jealous you might get some. just because a women has children is does not make you any better than them!!!
with your attitude you are def not appealing to date or to be mates with, get your head out of the clouds and join the real world.
(p.s i have no children and get plenty of dates)
2007-08-12 03:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell it like it is. I am 28 and no kids and very much single
2007-08-12 04:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by emerald 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to much time to think get a hobby or have a kid then compare your dream to real life.
2007-08-12 04:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by triminman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋