i had a bad child hood that involved alot of sexual abuse. do you know anyone else who practiced celebacy? for how long?
2007-08-12 03:34:13 · 20 answers · asked by ,,,,,,, 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes I know several people like that.
There are people who are companions and care for one another without having sexual relations.
Perhaps in the future you might find someone you trust enough to have an intimate relationship with.
But until then, do what you feel is best for you.
2007-08-12 03:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry for what has happened to you and I really do understand how you feel. You feel celibacy is the answer now and it is...for now. Not all people are like the ones that hurt you. Not everyone wants to control you. You feel celibacy is a way for you to get some control back, but what it really is doing is allowing you to remain a victim. Sexual abuse is not the same as a loving relationship where two people are intimate and I hope one day you get to experience making love. You should join a support group. But mostly you need to give yourself time and not rush into any life long decisions. Just allow yourself to heal and get yourself the help you need.
2007-08-12 03:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the sexual abuse of your childhood but being celibate for the rest of your life simply means that the bastards that abused you won and you cannot allow that to happen. Some one once noted that living well is the best revenge and I think that that idea applies in your case also.
By all means remain celibate until you get this all figured out.Do a three year plan and every day make a point of actively trying to heal those wounds. Get counseling , join survivors groups But the operative word is " Do " .
In the right environment and with the right person sex can be more fun than you can possibly imagine and I think that you really owe it to yourself to discover how much fun sex can actually be.
To go thru the rest of your life without knowing that is simply compounding a tragedy -and that is so wrong.
2007-08-12 04:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know Gandhi practiced celibacy almost his entire life. A lot of priests too.
However, I don't think that you should decide now to practice celibacy for your entire life. I understand that you've been abused as a child, but I think the best way to deal with it is through therapy and not avoidance.
I'm aware that it is easier to decide to avoid sex, but I don't think that's a good solution. I would suggest finding a good therapist (there are plenty that work on a sliding scale if there's financial issues). Perhaps then, you will be able to deal with some of your issues, thus not having to avoid one of the great joys in life.
Best of luck with everything.
2007-08-12 03:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I'm very sorry this has been your experience and at a very young age. I think if I had children and someone abused them, I would be driven to madness.
On the other hand, I do think that your decision to remain celibate for the rest of your life is a bit premature. Just remember that all wounds heal in time. Seek an alternative and it is my hope that you find one that works well for you. Good luck!
2007-08-12 03:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by MsRiddle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend it. I'm very sorry for your abused past but being abstinent won't help you heal. Seek counseling or a support group. A healthy sex life is possible for you! Give it time and thought. Try to deal with the pain that you've associated with sex. I promise there's a partner out there who will help you through this. Don't be afraid to gradually open up to your lover about your past though you should really get professional advice on how to do this. Good luck.
2007-08-12 03:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by scheidemann2007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry that you experienced such abuse. I can see how you would feel the way that you do, but you are only 18. In time, you might find a good man who loves you and that you can love. I wish this for you. I know many women who experienced sexual abuse, but I don't know anyone who practiced celibacy their whole life because of it. You have to try to heal. Get counselling, please. Peace.
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2007-08-12 03:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by AuroraDawn 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Practicing celibacy won't undo the abuse of the past. You're only robbing yourself of great experiences with a husband in the future, and children of your own as well. Don't do the celibacy thing.
2007-08-12 03:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Don't set anything in stone--you're only 18. Being celebate for the rest of your life won't "fix" what went wrong in your past. Please see a counselor--they are professionals who know how to help you deal with your pain. You can heal. If you're not comfortble with having a sexual relationship, then no one is going to make you.
2007-08-12 03:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're only 18, don't make up your mind at such a young and inexperienced age.
Don't be shocked if by 25 you meet someone you fall madly in love with and this conflicts with your decision to be celibate.
Mankind was never meant to be celibate, that's why we're all born and created with the parts to make life renew!
2007-08-12 03:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My best advice on this is to discuss it with a therapist. Seriously, if celibacy is the best way for you to deal with your past, a therapist will be able to give clear instructions on how to put it into practice.
2007-08-12 03:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋