I dont want to end up alone, but does that mean I should settle down now?

Question

I've found a person who loves me more than anything, and I love him. I'm just not ready to settle down. We broke up and we both swore we'd have a second chance. I'm afraid I'm going to lose him though, and end up an old lady with a bunch of cats. Any advice?

Answer 1

You don't say how old you are. If you are 15 wait. If you are 40, better had not wait. Somewhere in between I would suggest you examine yourself to see why you are not ready to settle down. Latching on to someone when you are not ready could have lasting and negative consequences. The reasons for not wanting to settle down could tell you something about yourself as a person. If you really love him, get it figured out before you jump the wrong way.

Answer 2

I'm laughing about the cats comment!

I know how you feel and it's a scary thought that you might be alone (even though being single isn't always such a bad thing). You're in love, but that doesn't mean you have to jump to the next level. Commit to not dating anyone else, but tell him that while you love him and want to be with him you see yourself as being a bit older when you get married (maybe you could say you want to finish your education...get a better job...buy a house...whatever). It's so great you're not rushing into it, there are so many people with heartbreaking tales resulting from getting married too young, or too soon.

Enjoy the relationship - but it doesn't have to be a race. Good luck! And stay away from cats ;)

Answer 3

Give up all the CATS,including the idea.If you broke up with an assurance to give the relationship a second go,rethink.Mended fences always show and would ever remain the weakest part of your self assurance and security.Detach and look beyond,may be you need a fresh relationship.Take your time.

Answer 4

Once upon a time there was a teacher and his student lay down under the big tree near the big grass area. Then suddenly the student asked the teacher,
Student : Teacher, I'm confused how we find our soul mate. Can you please help me?
Teacher : "Silent for few second, than he answer" Well, it's pretty hard and easy question..
Student : "THINK HARD" Ha???
Teacher : Look on that way, there are a lot of grass there, why don't you walk there but please never walk backward, just walk straight ahead. On your way, try to find a beautiful grass and pick it up then give it to me. But just one.
Student : Well, ok then... wait for me... "Walk straight ahead to the grass field"
A few minutes later...
Student : I'm back..
Teacher : Em, well I don't see any beautiful grass on your hand.
Student : On my journey, I found few beautiful grass, but I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up. But I didn't realize that I'm in the end of the field, and I hadn't pick any. Cause you told me not to go back, so I didn't go back.
Teacher : That's what happened in real life.
What is the message of this story?
* Grass --> is people around you
* Beautiful Grass --> is people that attract you
* Grass Field --> is time
In looking for your soul mate, please don't always compare and hope that there will be a better one. By doing that, you'll waste your lifetime, cause remember "Time Never Goes Back".... So try to accept what he/she is.

Answer 5

Do what you know is right in your heart and not because you're afraid of being alone.

When you're truly ready to be with this man you'll know.

Don't let fear make you do something you may regret.

Answer 6

maybe deep down if your heart you think he is not the one or your just afraid to get married

Answer 7

don't settle!!! if you want to date him fine, but wait until your heart really tells you that he is the one.
good luck

Answer 8

if u settle b4 ur ready it probaly wont work out cause u will have ur doubts...

Answer 9

get dogs ... they r mans best friend............!!