was going out with this girl for 8 months and a bit the best and greatest of my life. we never had a argument and everything was going fine we both had insane feelings for each other and were happy. then outta the blue she wants to break up, i dont know what i did wrong cos i was there for all the time for her when she was in need (death in the family) we had so much in common. she said that she wants to have friends and family time. this was all 2 months ago and im thinking bout asking her out her birthdays next week dont know what to get her?? Alsowhat and how do you think that i should ask her out again? cos i know that she still has feelings for me due to spendin the night together bout 2 weeks ago. i love her so much and i just want to get back together again. 2 days before we broke up i had brought her a $360 braclet but i dont know if i shuld give it to her strait away so i mite buy her some make up im thinkin of doing sumthin as freinds in next few days so we can talk.
2007-08-12 01:51:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man you are roped and tied. Get over her. You say she had strongh feelings for you but she broke up with you. That doesn't happen. You are kidding yourself. Return the bracelet, send her a card if you want. You are just going to seem desperate to her and she won't want you. As far as the night you spent together... it was a pity date. She feels bad for hurting you. Its a hard truth but the sooner you realize its over the better you will be. Good luck.
2007-08-12 01:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ask her out again just yet. You should not rush things and remain friends b/c you wouldn't want to mess things up btw the two of you. On the other hand you could talk to her but you should wait about a week after her birthday. After that you you should tell her to meet you somewhere to talk. You should sit her down and be like: I know it's been a while since we broke up and I want you to know that I still have feelings for you. I respect your privacy but I want to know besides the reason you told me is the any other reason you broke up with me. If you don't want to tell me or have anything to tell me then that's ok. Rather we get back together or not I want us to always remain friends.
You should say somthing like that and for a gift don't get anything to cheap or to exspensive. Just get somthing yu know she would love no matter what. B/c if you give her an expensive gift you might get upset and kinda regret or hate her so if you don't get back together but your pride away for this one time and accept what happens
2007-08-12 02:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. Do NOT waste your time/money on her. Let her spend 10-15 years or so spending her time however she sees fit, keep in arms-length touch with her (just as friends - do not fall into the trap again), and when this fickle and foolish girl ends up divorced in her mid-30s, swoop in and have another glorious 8 months with her during her sexual prime. Meanwhile, find other girlfriends, and you will quickly forget about her. Women may not like this kind of behavior, but it is THEIR behavior in the last 25 years that have earned them this kind of regard from men.
Resist these forlorn feelings you have -- they are just an outdated impulse, and will only bring you trouble. There is no better remedy for getting over a girl than by disrobing another...you will find that your options for having female attention will only rise commensurate with your lack of interest in being around them...right now you are missing other opportunities by distracting yourself with your laments over your ex. Put her on the back-burner for another day...that day will come...be patient...meanwhile, go fish the endless sea.
2007-08-12 02:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Call her up and ask her if you guys can meet somewhere because its better if you talk in person. Ask her why she broke up with you and if she'll sayy yes if you ask her back out. If she says yes, then a day before take her out for dinner or picnic.. get her some flowers... and ask her out!! :]
BUT if she says no, your better of finding someone else because you dont want to get your hopes up about you two getting back together... Hope i helped.
Oh, and the gift.. The picnic or dinner can be it. Save the bracelet til later. When you know its the right time to give it to her. [Trust me, you'll know]
2007-08-12 02:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out more from her family members and friends. Get the whole picture 1st before asking her. This will prepare u for the meeting of asking.
U may know more than what u want to know....
All the best.
2007-08-12 01:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by lawrence79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she spent the night with you two weeks ago you shouldn't have any problem with asking her out for her birthday. Use your own judgement on giving her the bracelet. If you do give it to her, tell her you bought it before ya'll broke up and that you want her to have it and when she looks at it to remember that you love her.
2016-05-20 05:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by shirleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what you've got till its gone, eh ?
Firstly, for her birthday maybe jewellery, a ring, necklace or I presume she likes jewellery as you bought her a bracelet before, and then try your best at making a home-made card for her, and personalise it, if she is 18 for example, draw 18 things that resemble her.
If your heart is telling you to ask her out - do it, you will regret it if you don't.
You could ask her out during a picnic, one of my guy mates made sandwiches and cute them up in the letters of I love you.
Then using kit kat fingers, he spelt out ' Go out with me ? ' They did look square like, but his girlfriend was really touched by how long he spent doing it.
There could also be many reasons why she wanted to split up, reassure her that she can tell you anything and you will stick by her no matter what.
Good Luck.
2007-08-12 02:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear your anguish my friend ...but the thing is sometimes , things don't always work out the way we hope they do...
i think it wise if you love her to pursue it ... invite her out to dinner and without pressing her ...tell her how you feel and then ask her to be honest with you ...allow her ample time to reply ...if not at the dinner then perhaps the following day ... sometimes people get scared when they fall in love they feel the need to flee... sometimes some people test another for the show of devotion...i dunno all the details...but if ya wanna show her shes the lady of your dreams...go to the restaurant in advance and find out what server will be on that night and talk to them, setting up ,them maybe handing her roses with a card...asking for her to be in your life...just a thought .....but involving other people not only says you took extra effort to make her night more special....but it also kinda gives ya a little rooting section .....best of luck to ya both hun
2007-08-12 02:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by d j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask if she'd like to go out with you for her birthday dinner, and you can offer her some perfume or something less costly than the bracelet. If you get together for more long-term you may want to give her the bracelet for a more important occasion, or just keep it and wait for the right person....
2007-08-12 01:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have a reason for why she broke up with you, why do you think there's a reason she's going to get back together with you?
Find out more about the situation first, you don't know the full story.
2007-08-12 01:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Testaco 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋