manners???

Question

Is it just me, or when you are asked how you are you say something like 'I'm fine thankyou' (keyword being thankyou). I hate when people don't say it, and here was me thinking it was polite to have manners! Is it just me or does it annoy anyone else when people don't say it???

Buff 1 ne-I hate the door thing too!!!!

Answer 1

Not just you. When people dont add the thank u its sounds rude and abrupt......like they couldnt care less that you've just cared enough to ask them how they are. Its saying "thanx for asking" isn't it? Basic politeness.

Answer 2

When you meet someone you know and they ask "how are you" , have you ever considered the possibility they honestly don`t care one way or the other ?? It`s just a robotic question to get the salutations out of the way .......... nothing else !

If you don`t believe me , next time someone says "how are you" to you , immediately begin relating your medical , financial , and job-related problems to them . After all .......... they ASKED ! You`ll notice one or more of several things happen .

Within a couple minutes , you`ll notice the other person has a glazed over , blank , far away stare in their eyes . Don`t let this discourage you ! Keep on nattering about your personal problems . Notice how they try to interject with a "it was nice talking to you" every time you stop to take a breath .

You may even notice how they put their hand over their mouth to hide the yawning . Don`t let up ! Keep on , and don`t let them interfere !

You`ll notice the next time you see that person walking towards you on the street , they notice you , and for some reason always cross the street to avoid you .

Why is this ? It`s because they`re scared to death of asking you "how are you" !

So , in essence , the apparent "concern" associated with a "how are you" is in reality a lie ! No one really wants more of an answer than a "I`m fine , thank you " . You may not be fine ........... you may have problems galore , but in order to keep this person from crossing the street to avoid you next time , you compound their "lie" with another "lie" by saying you`re "fine" .

So ,what you`re advocating here is a situation where , when two or more aquaintances meet , before anything else , they spend the first minute or so lieing to each other . And thanking each other for it !

I find it much more bearable to greet someone with a "HEY Clyde"

Everything considered , wouldn`t you agree ?

Answer 3

I agree with you ,MANNERS,or should we say consideration for others,is slowly being lost to society.In some cultures,take parts of spain for instance,it is remarked on, that the british always say thankyou too much, once is enough.However,it takes no effort to thank someone,or at least smile if you are too shy to speak.you usually find people are too stressed to consider others,and those types usually don,t care anyway.

well done you!!!carry on as you are ,a caring polite pleasure to know,a little compliment can make life worth living

Answer 4

For me saying thankyou superficially has little meaning.Sometimes people don't say it but yet the look, smile body language is positive and that's more meaningful, and sometimes somene may say thankyou and sorry but don't mean it....
Sure...manners are important and 'thankyou and sorry' are key words for good etiquette and it has it's importance but good human values cannot be judged simply by words. Thoughts, feelings and actions are equally important.
So...go ahead use manners and don't be too quick to judge others simply on that basis:)

Answer 5

What annoys me is if you give an honest reply like, 'not so good', no-one's interested, they just smile a bit as they're walking away. If they don't want to know how you are, why ask how are you?
I actually hate it when people ask me how I am, because I know it's just a load of crap. I just smile and nod, don't say anything at all. That seems to offend them less than saying 'not so good'.
And I never ask how are you, never have.

Answer 6

You are not the only one who feels frustrated at the lack of manners these days. When I was a kid, I was brought up to say thank you and please etc, but now people (adults too) seem to think the world owes them a living.

I remember one time being too shy to say thankyou for something and my father took me out of the room and in to his room and gave me a beating and then hung me upside down by my ankles until I would say thank you. I was only 4 at the time, but I have never forgotten that.

I would not advocate that kind of teaching, but I would urge all adults to lead by example, be polite to one another and the world would be such a nicer place to live in. It does not cost much. Consider what you would feel like if someone did not say Thank you to you. (Not you personally, just in general.)

Answer 7

Well sure, it doesn't hurt to say it, I guess ... but what is it you are wanting to be thanked FOR?

How are you is an enquiry, and a polite 'I'm fine, and you?" is certainly a suitable answer.

Please and thank you are useful words, but can be overdone so much as to become meaningless.

Do we really want to go down the "Have a nice day" path?

Cheers :-)

Answer 8

Manners maketh Man. I like to think I am always polite and destest rudeness. Thank you for asking the Q!

Answer 9

Oh, I hate when people have no manners. And the thing is that saying Please and Thank You and Excuse me, are free!!!
We have so many students at the hospital that I work at that CANNOT say Thanks and Excuse Me. The amount of times I hold doors open for mums with pushchairs or people with a load in the hands and they just waltz through without any gratitude pisses me off!
I just shout 'THANK YOU, YOUR WELCOME' and then they say sheepishly 'oh yes...erm...thanks'
Cheeky ba stards!!!

Answer 10

Manners cost nothing - it doesn't hurt to say Thank you and Please but some people just assume that it doesn't need to be said.

Yes it bugs me too, and the thing is I feel like I won't say Please or Thank you to the next person I meet & they were not rude to me....the pass it forward motion doesn't work when it comes to bad manners!