Depression? Would you keep dating someone who has it? Why or why not?

Question

I mean that you had already been dating them for a month or two before they told you.

Answer 1

If you didn't notice it than maybe he is on the mend. Asking him if he/she is doing anything about it. Date him but don't dwell on the subject.

Answer 2

Sure, because my mind is no stranger to it's own depressive phases. Besides, if you've dated a person for nearly 2 months and you haven't noticed that they're depressed, clearly this person isn't very depressed at all! A person who is very depressed can't even fake being okay, although they can try. If this person you are dating is on medication, so what. You'd be suprised how many people are and besides, it's probably not something this person has to take for the rest of their lives.

Depression happens to a lot of people. I think something like 25% have had a depressive episode. It's not a life long illness and most people who get depressed just have that single episode and find something to cure it either through therapy, medication or on their own.

Answer 3

I've been in this position before when I suffered from the illness when I was younger. We went back and forth for almost a year. He finally threw in the towel and walked away. I was heartbroken and abandoned. The painful part was that we had developed a strong bond before my illness became serious ie: future plans, promises were made etc. At the time I couldn't understand such cruelty and indifference from the person who supposedly "loved" me.

My advice to anyone who is on the otherside is to not become too attached to the individual. Don't swear by anything you cannot live up to - in the long run it will damage the person already fighting a battle, further.

I believe alot of it depends on the seriousness of the relationship.

Answer 4

Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD has a book out for Depression and Anxiety which is called:
"The Mindful Way through Depression".
The Book also comes with a 50 min. CD.
It teaches all the techniques and skills needed to dissolve depression and anxiety
in order to have a calm peaceful mind.

.

Answer 5

YES i would. Sometimes Its good to have someone to talk to and if you were to walk out because of it...it leaves them with a feeling of abandonment. I also know from experience that it can be hard for another person to understand looking at it from the outside and then be unsure of how to act or what to say. If anything at least still be a friend if you cannot commit. Everyone needs a friend. But also know that its okay to help them and not be a crutch.

Answer 6

I have a gf who suffers and I try to always be there for her and its helped a lot apparently shes been so much happier with me there and personally I see there been no reason to stop dating someone unless you no them very well and no the reason for why they get depressed in the first place. I dont judge people and I believe others should not either

Answer 7

As long as they were getting treated for it and took responsibility for their own behavior. What I have a hard time with is when people excuse what they do and say because of their mental illness and try to put the responsibility on others. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone who was doing that. That is high maintenance. Life is too short.

Answer 8

I think you should ask yourself this: are you strong enough and do you like them enough to stick around in case they go thru a rough spot? A couple of months is still a fairly new relationship, in time you might see changes that you are not seeing now. I am depressed and I still have my cycles of good and bad even though I am on medication and therapy.

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Hard question. Depression is an illness but if you are not able to deal with it then stop dating before things get too serious.

Answer 10

Yes, if that person was committed to getting better, and actively using effective treatments. See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2: and print, or refer.