I went out to a club last night and got really drunk. I ended up kissing some random guy. It meant nothing but i feel i have to tell my bf. However we've only been going out for about 3 months and i don't think are relationship could stand it. Do i tell the truth as i don't want to lie to him but risk losing him?
If so how should i tell him?
2007-08-11 23:02:58 · 26 answers · asked by Emerson L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lol i love the way i'm being made out as a proper pisshead!
Yeah i don't see this relationship as a long term thing coz im going to uni next month and realistically can't see a long distance relationship working after being with someone such a short time (and also don't really trust myself now). Oh yeah and he would never (well i'm about 99% certain of this) find out about the incident unless i tell him.
Thanks everyone xx
2007-08-11 23:28:03 · update #1
Don't tell him. Then, before your alcoholism ruins your life, find an AA meeting and go to it.
2007-08-11 23:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't sound like you are really commited to him as otherwise you would never have even entertained the idea of kissing someone else. So maybe you should be considering your relationship rather than whether to tell him or not.
If you did because you were way too drunk then I would think about your alcohol consumption because it clearly effects your actions.
Basically you need to do alot of thinking.
I know it all sounds harsh but just think how the evening could have turned out if the 'random guy' had taken advantage of the rather drunk female!
2007-08-11 23:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, seriously. A relationship is built on trust and if you can't cough up the trust, than there can be no relationship. He has to know that he can trust that he's getting the truth from you. Plus, it's better for you to tell him than him finding out from someone else.
To tell him, I would just bluntly tell him about it, but tell him how it didn't mean anything at all and you regret it very much and apologize. Don't use the fact that you were drunk as an excuse, that's lame, but do tell him that you were drunk. Obviously alcohol reduces reasoning.
If it doesn't work out and you two break up, it wasn't meant to be.
Good luck!
2007-08-11 23:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by clea lou. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you posed the question, it sounds like you couldn't be any older than 17 (and that's giving you the benefit). I don't believe you really love your boyfriend. You aren't old enough to know what you really want out of life, therefore, it's normal to experiment. Tell your boyfriend that you kissed another guy - it's the right thing to do. Don't start out so young by lying.
2016-04-01 06:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope dont tell him
if it meant nothing he doesnt need to know!
a kiss is a kiss
but a kiss with emotion and feeling means something!
Dont ruin what you have with your boyfriend over this! and next time when you go out, dont drink yourself silly! and end up kissing random guys!
Sometimes when us girls do that tho, it means that we aren't happy with the relationship and we use being drunk as an excuse- are you sure your not doing the same?!
2007-08-12 00:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he finds out from someone else, that's just an extra kick in bollocks, and also he'll think more than just a kiss went on... Honesty is the best policy, but hate to tell you, I doubt he'd be very understanding about it... Also, been drunk is no excuse, so I wouldn't keep pointing out to him that you were drunk, other wise he'll think you're trying to excuse what you did. Just be very remorse full and admit that you were an idiot... Good luck
2007-08-11 23:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by kl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the eye don't see the heart won't grieve over,,,,, I'm afraid it's your call, I can't see how you can blame it on the drink though, imagine if you tell him and say you was drunk, what's he going to think about the next time you go out, this is really doggy, be careful if you want to keep him xx good luck
2007-08-11 23:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by P-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to stay with this person for a long time, it is best to tell him. Honesty is a key to a successful relationship. And I suggest laying off the drinks. You could end up drunk again and dealing with this problem for a second time.
2007-08-11 23:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him. one becuz what if he finds out himself and that u wern't honest enough to say anything. two: it would be most respectful and honest. I had a friend and he once dated this girl for 3 hours and kissed her even though he had a girlfriend. He felt really bad and eventualy told her and dumped the other girl, she appriciated his honesty and realized that she could trust him even under tough circomstances. They are still going out wth a very healthy and happy relashionship.
2007-08-11 23:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell him right away. If it was you how would you feel not knowing the truth. Anyways karma is real don't mess with it. The truth will come out some how someway it would be best if it came out of you.
2007-08-11 23:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell him. Its not the end of the world. Just put it down to experience and move on. Why open up a whole can of worms over nothing more than drunk lust. Forget it.
2007-08-11 23:07:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋