Doesn't call when he says he will?

Question

This guy I've been dating for a couple months keeps giving me mixed signals.

He never calls when he says he'll call. I don't mind if he doesn't want to talk, but don't tell me you're going to call me if you have no desire or intention to. And everytime he does this, he'll text me the next day telling me how he's sorry for not calling + an excuse for not remembering/not calling. This is really starting to piss me off.

People say that not calling when saying you'll call is the classic sign of disinterest. But he keeps telling me that I can call him anytime I want, and to let him know if I ever want to do something together with him.

Is he trying to play games with me?

Answer 1

NEVER
wait by a
Phone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
get out & live life

Answer 2

I am gogin through the SAME THING AS WE SPEAK! REally and truley if we had more details we could answer this. It turns out that my guy and I are both leaving Dallas. He wants my company, but he's too scared of getting attached again. Everytime we talk, we get into a serious conversation. It will be a conversation so good that scares us into wanting to stay home and not go to school/work. Or the conversation will be so bad that we almost end up calling it quits. It's almost safer if we avoid phone callas and conversations until he and I both figure out what we really want to do. This si my situation. Maybe it can help you.

Answer 3

Your first gut instinct is usually correct. Yours told you that he's probably disinterested and I think you're right. When a man wants to be with you, really wants to be with you, he'll call all the time, when he says he will, unless he's a druggie and doesn't have control over himself! And in that case, you don't need him anyway. I say move on. Let him give his excuses to someone else. You're better than that.

Answer 4

Honestly, I can say without a doubt my husband loves me more than anything...but he is an engineer, and a busy one at that...and gets scatterbrained about "relationship" things...but is very organized at work. Sounds like maybe he's just not great at this whole relationship thing...does he have a really involved career or school or something? Or does he have roomates, family or something that he lives with that makes calling you very akward? Honestly, I would talk to him face to face, not confrontational...just let him know that it's okay to say he can't call or doesn't know when...but lying only makes it harder. Let him know that if he's busy or has a hard time calling...that it's fine too...and if you can deal with it...good luck. He might just be a bit sloppy when it comes to follow up, and doesn't realize how it effects your feelings....men sometimes don't realize these things.

Answer 5

The fact is that this guy doesnt want to lose u. At the same time, he is not serious about you. He probably has got too many things in life to give time to everything and you definitely do not top list. This might hurt you, but my suggestion is that you should start looking for a new boyfriend

Answer 6

A guy or a gal that shows mixed signals in a relationship is not a promising one. Friends who don't want to be friends with certain friends, do that too. Some people don't want to tell you up front in what they feel about you because they fear confrontation.

It's sad, but what are we going to do? Be like me and know that "life" is pain and we have to get used to it. But more sooner than you think, you'll be happy again without him, I promise you that.

Answer 7

If this guy is someone who you think you have a future with then you should TACTFULLY confront him about your concerns. He may be just phone shy, or Shy in general, or he may be trying to brush you off, there is no way to know unless you talk to him about it, and don't accept him being dishonest or evasive to your inquiries, but try to be delicate so that you don't put him on the defensive right up front. and good luck, hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

The bottom line is.. he is who he is.. and its probably not going to change.. so you can stay with him and be miserable or you can find someone who makes you happy.. Btw.. it doesn't mean he is disinterested at all.. some guys just don't care as much about talking on the phone.

Answer 9

sweetheart you have been patient enough with him, and if he is repeatedly doing it then it's a big red flag waving in the air. call him and give him a peace of your mind, its no use wasting your time waiting for him to call, you take the initaitive and call him, tell him how you feel, and if worse comes to worse ignore him and let him know how you feel, and if he truly doesn't call, then honey sorry to say but he's not interested anymore.

Answer 10

beleive me, if this man really cared of you, he would call whatsoever. i think he doesnt take you and your relaitonship serious. i understand it is so stressfull. maybe he just tries to keep you in his pocket (you know what i mean). if a man really interests in you, then he will need to hear from you, what you are doing, how you feel. do you believe he doesnt have 30 seconds in 24 hours to call you and ask "how are you, my dear ?"
talk to him seriously and tell what you expect from this relationship. if he continues to neglect you and makes you unhappy like that, then you will understand that he is obviously unwilling to effort for this relaitonship and that he doesnt care how you feel and what you need.

Answer 11

yes it's called male dyslexia. but i do know what your feeling , and i learnt the long and frustrating way that some men can be unreliable , It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you but may be in another relationship? i would strongly advise you try and forget about him and find your prince you deserve.