okay my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship.....well i kinda broke up with him because he just told me he has been flirting with other girls and he's also been checking out other girls
even though we promised eachother we would never do that he still did it
he lied to me.......but i feel really stupid for breaking up with him over that
is that stupid??????
idk....cuz i really love him so so so much
i know that i want to spend the rest of my life with him
i think i might of made the biggest mistake ever
what should i do?????????
2007-08-11 20:35:37 · 15 answers · asked by dr2813 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're so stupid, you wanna be with someone for the rest of your life, that flirts and checks out other girls..what makes you think he'll keep the promise of marriage commitment if he can't even keep a simple promise to you?
2007-08-11 20:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a long distance relationship before we go married and it was very hard. We were very young and he used to flirt too - once he even cheated on me (pre-marriage).
BUT, he told me about it. And your boyfriend told you which takes a lot of guts and obviously it's important for him to tell you the truth. I don't think flirting and checking out girls is a big crime if it doesn't go further - but if it upsets you then it isn't OK.
Keep the lines of communication open with him. Tell him what he told you upset you - but that you're really happy he trusted you enough to say it.
Good luck!
2007-08-12 03:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no. Ur so right for have made that decision if he would have really loved u he wouldnt of have flirted with other girls. that is not right! And trust is the most important part in a relationship and now he flirts with other girls, he lied. Dont feel bad. really. Us guys are jerks! Just wait for another guy who actually loves u.
2007-08-12 03:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you. I don't know whether it is right or not. Depends on the relationship. I would not have told you that though if I wanted a future with you. I try my best not to do that when I have a GF but I think its just hormones generally. If I though it was more than that I would break it off with you.
2007-08-12 03:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by C Squared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Judging by your grammar skillls, you seem pretty young. You DON"T want to spend the rest of your life with this guy. Really. You NEVER marry the first guy that asks. Wait some more time. Meet him in person for closure.
2007-08-12 03:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say you're sorry for making a big deal out of it. I mean you're far away and may never see each other again so I wouldn't be surprised. Also if you don't visit at least once a year it probably will never work out.
2007-08-12 03:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by soncho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you are stupid by loving a person that not willing to have the same degree of commitment like you do.
yes. you are stupid by letting yourself being fooled, being cheated.
yes. you are stupid if you think that he will love you back, because he already confess that he's flirting other girl. Ithink that's clear like crystal
2007-08-12 03:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by tania_la_nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him up and talk it out, it's better to be pro-active than to let things completely breakdown between the two of you...Don't let pride get in the way if you really feel that strongly about him, but also have a long discussion about your relationship...long distance can be very tough..
2007-08-12 03:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can pull it together, go and apologize.(I don't see anything else you can do)
BUT it's a long distance relationship, if you "know that [you] want to spend the rest of [your] life with him" you should make every effort to get closer to him, and maybe go with him, or visit him during long periods of absence.
2007-08-12 03:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um no u did not make the biggest mistake ever some guy did me tha same 2 me ....i mean he promise 2 u and he broke a promise....and he will do it again ....trust me......even though he was being truthful he will do it again.....think about it....that's going behind your back....and do u want that?
2007-08-12 03:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by evee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋