Losing interest?

Question

For the past 3 months everything has been going perfectly with my girlfriend and all a sudden the past two days i've just felt really wierd. Like out of no where I kinda lost interest in her. I defently dont want to dump her or take a break and i want things to go back the way they were before 2 days where i was abosolutely happy to be with her. Is this just a phase? Someone please help

Answer 1

Did she say or do something that had some subconscious effect on you? Or are you stressed out by something else and feel you need to concentrate on getting that out of the way first?

Answer 2

Two days isn't long enough to tell. Things can't be amazing all the time. Relationships change and hopefully though the first kind of 'excited in love' fades an even better more stable feeling takes it place. Like someone above said, if you stick with it, it should get even better. Just relax and don't think about it too much, do some fun things together.

Keep an open mind though, because if you still feel that spark has gone in 3 or 4 weeks' time, don't string it along. Nothing worse than staying with someone for a year or so and then having to do what you really knew you should do before. It'd hurt her more, make you feel bad and waste both of your's time

Answer 3

Majority of guys will lose interest after sex because that's the biggest thing you can offer a guy . Bad or good sex could still not make them stay . Since he hit you up to bring a girlfriend he'd probably sleep with you again but don't talk to him anymore and when he hits you up be short . One thing a guy can't stand is knowing that his sex game sucks and if you're not hitting him up he's gonna start questioning . I know it sucks but you know that the main reason why you grew feelings is because of the sex . Another guy will come along sooner than you think don't waste your time on a guy who just treats you like a piece of meat

Answer 4

Maybe u have reach the phase of ur r/ship where u are setling in with each other, so its no longer that both are waffling with anxieties and the nervous butterflies as u were in the initial stages. However I think this "settling down" stage will determine do u really like teh girl or just the "chase" part.

Answer 5

Just breathe, calm down, it's going to be okay.

You two might just need to spend less time with each other, you know, do your own thing for a few days, just head out with the guys for some head-clearing good times. (No drinking or flirting, please!) Time apart will help you to appreciate her again.

Believe it or not this is a very common problem I've noticed. Seriously, you've no idea how much a little space can accomplish when trying to fan the flames again.

Answer 6

i dont think you lost interest in her, i mean three months, you two couldnt have changed, you just dont have much to talk about since you know each other well now. you two havent connected as friends yet in the relationship, and maybe you two just spend way too much time together, i felt this way about my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship, after three years , i couldnt be more happier with my bf, you just havent fell in love, if you cant see yourself with her in the future, then it isnt going to work. you need to try new things with her, my guess is, the dating is over and now you dont know what to do in a relationship, the thrill is over, you have her, now you got to keep her. keep that in mind. she is going to lose interest as well, if the romance dies and she will take notice if you are unhappy and hurt the relationship even more. wouldnt it hurt you to know your partner is bored with you, and is unhappy, are you guys fighting? that changes the relationship as well. do you know how hurtful this question is, maybe next time, ask her how she feels about the relationship and she says she has no interest in you, how would that make you feel, pretty damn shitty if you love her, which i dont believe you do yet.

Answer 7

It might be a phase. I'm going through it too. But I'll get over it, because my girlfriend is at my school. She makes it so I'm not alone. I've been alone all my life, so being happy is actually a good thing for me.

Answer 8

Great, im proud of you that you have made your choice. You do not want to break up with her and wish to continue your love story together and be even happier. And than you should think of ways to spice up your love life, go out with her often, chat with her, and start anew with her. Good luck! =)

Answer 9

Find out more about her maybe you have just hit the 50% mark and you gotta do more to go for the 51%

Answer 10

talk to her and try to spice things up you have probaly just fallen into a routine and feel like an old married couple so sit down with a bottle of wine and have a chat but you need to give her pleanty of reassureance that its not that you dont like her but you feel bored and want to try something new