my boyfriend was recently divored,so he wants to break up so he could find himself,afterall he spent a lot of years in his marriage and after the divorce he jumped into a relationship with me now after four months,he needs time to himself. my question is what is the best way for me to give him space because, I believe I fell in love with him but his heart was still with her.but now it's hard for me to move on. I have a hard time moving on,He acts like he want to keep me on the side but at the same time see what else is out there,this is how i feel.but i really want to back all the way up and give him space, but at the same time i want him to come back to me. what should i do
2007-08-11 19:36:13 · 22 answers · asked by brown skin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do just what you've been telling me when you're asking the question.. Give him some space, but still remind him every once in a while that you like/love him, and you'll be their if/when he comes back to you. Good luck!
~Bob
2007-08-11 19:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Headhunter 6 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. Give him space. Tell him when he wants to talk he can but you may not be waiting around. Then go out and enjoy time with your friends, doing your own thing.
If he loves you he wont use the space you give him to slut around.
He's probably at a bit of a cross roads at the moment and thinking about a lot of things. He's just failed in his marriage, does he want to start the same thing again etc.
If he wants to be with you. Maybe a bit of abscence will make his heart grow fonder
2007-08-11 19:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should back up and give him the GALAXY! You can't do anything with a man who is not ready. I know it may hurt to back away, but it's necessary. Give yourself some space too. Who knows, maybe another guy may sweep you off your feet during that time the two of you are apart and then he'll have the real space he desires, and you'll have the space to be with someone who wants you.
2007-08-11 19:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Survivor 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear! It makes me sad to say what I have to say dear, but this man is not a good man. Think about it for a second, he cheated his wife for you, tell me one good reason for that to never happen again? One time a cheater, always a cheater you know. The worst there is with those kind of guys, is their slippery tongue, what I call smooth talkers, or big fat lier`s. I am sorry you fell for such a guy, but it is not to late. There are fine men out there, that actually don`t cheat, and who would love to be with you if they were giving the chance to get to know you. Don`t put yourself down dear. Well again I am sorry for saying this, but if you act now and dump him for good, you could possibly be saved for a lot of grief and sorrow. But as I said, there are others. Good luck, peace and love from Norway
2007-08-11 19:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by thefallen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply dont call as much. Let him chase you and let him do his thing. If he just got out a marriage he doesnt want to be tied down. I had that with my Gfriend a while ago and I went to Europe by myself and now were really in love. Engaged! Dont pressure him Good Luck
2007-08-11 19:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by C A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a meeting with him and tell him you do not appriciate being kept to the side as you say. Tell him if he needs some space to not call you for two weeks. Tell him you think you love him but you cannot allow yourself to be used.
Good luck
2007-08-11 19:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kathleen N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life. Meet other people. Don't wait for him. If you see a nice guy during his time off breakup with you, go ahead with him in a new relationship.
You should wait for no guy in this stage. If he still cannot give you a commitment in a serious relationship situation, move on!
2007-08-11 19:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were a rebound relationship for him & the thrill has wore off after a few months of sex. He's ready to move on without you - you should prepare for it.
2007-08-11 19:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I speak from experience when they need time alone, start looking 4 someone else. Give him all the time he needs, move on you be glad later. Good luck
2007-08-19 19:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should give him space. what do you like to happen to him? you want to help him right? but i know you're point. But the best thing to do now is give him space and be patient. Sacrifice. what if he realized something that might affect your relationship for good or even for bad. Be ready for what his decisions might be. It's more likely better to give than to receive. be patient now, give him space and ready yourself.
2007-08-11 19:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋