What do your kids do......?

Question

when they ask you if they can have something or do something and you say no? do they A. Accept it and go on or B. start in with "but mom" or try to bargin with you or something? If it is B how do you handle it?

Answer 1

I have 3, and all 3 approach it differently. My oldest has a little more fight in her, she usually will do the "but mom" thing (sometimes she will even present a fairly good argument:) My middle daughter is my little please-er, she usually accepts it quite easily. Our youngest is only 4 so you never quite know what your going to get with her, sometimes it's a whine, or a tantrum (rarely), and a little pout.

How do we handle it? just stand our ground. If they don't stop, they can go sit in their rooms for a bit, but a warning usually does the trick.

Answer 2

It depends on my son's mood. Some days, if I say no, he just moves on with life and never says another word. Some days, he does the "But, Mom!" thing and try to bargain. If it's convincing enough, I might change my mind. If not, he gets another "no" and then he moves on. I always remind him I'm the Mom and I will always win a battle of wills. On some level, he actually gets it! If on the rare occasion he freaks for not getting his way, he loses TV and computer priveleges and still doesn't get what he wants so he usually doesn't do this often!

Answer 3

I have 5 kids; they do both.

First, I be honest with them. I tell them if I don't have the money, or if they have enough so we shouldn't waste, or they are too young, etc. I explain to them in detail but as briefly as possible.

2nd; if they keep at it, I start giving them guilt trip,...you know the lecture; you should be thankful for what you got, kids in 3rd world countries wish they could have it as good...When I was your age,...and don't forget; do you want me to sell my kidney?....or okay but we won't have money for food so you'll have to live on air....And my favorite; do you want to be like Paris Hilton?....But if their request is reasonable, I suggest they get a job and save up for it.

3rd; If 1 & 2 don't work, I lay down the law,....you know the look and deep voice that says if you ask me one more time,...you better start running.

Usually 1 & 2 do the job. I've rarely had to use #3; the look of death.

Answer 4

well my 2 year old still does the "but mom" and throws a fit but I just walk away until his fit stops then i pay attention to him when he quiets down. My 5 year old has gotten much better about handling the no. He use to throw a big fit like a 2 year old going through terrible twos but he is getting better. When he does start to throw a fit i remind him that he will get nothing by throwing a fit and I walk away. When he calms down I walk back up to him and sometimes I will talk to him about why he got so upset. He gives himself a time-out if he is having a hard time keeping calm and not throwing a fit. He will go to another room or go sit down to calm down but it took 5 years to get him to do that.

Answer 5

Well my 12 yr. old boy has this thing about arguing you to death. If he asks to get on his video game and I say no b/c he has been on it already for a long time he will start with "that's not fair, why not, but just for a little bit." I tell him to stop begging and arguing or he wont get on it for awhile and he starts with his attitude "rolling his eyes, asking some more.." so I ground him from that for a couple of days and explain to him if he keeps it up I can sale his game. Hope this helped!

Answer 6

My kids (ages 8 and 6) generally don't argue with me when I say no. I've never even had a grocery store meltdown. When there is a little backtalk, I go back to 1,2,3 Magic, and just say "That's 1". That is usually all it takes. Look up the 123 magic program. It really works!

Answer 7

I have a five year old boy that does that all I do is just tell him to stop and if he dosen't then I'll tell him you either stop or go to the corner. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

well, truthfully, i (being the child) would usually just do it, even if my parents said no or save up money to buy whatever it was or whatever. i know you parents are gonna get all angry and stuff but just hear me out: i'm not saying to let your child be spoiled but do let them have their freedom and trust them. the reason i would go behind my parents backs was cuz they wouldn't let me do ANYTHING! they also wouldn't tell my anything and kept me overly sheltered and i turned out as the wild child. so....yeah.

Answer 9

when i say no thats just round one,you have to stand your ground if you can.