Ok, I don't believe in changing someone but i want to know your opinions on it. I someone didn't fit your standards do you believe you can change them? Would you want to change them? Or do you believe you take a person as they are.. flaws and all..
2007-08-11 18:43:10 · 18 answers · asked by NiCk_jOnAs_fAnn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that u should just take people the way they are and not try changing them!
2007-08-13 09:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had some bad habits. And I once changed alot for a girl. But, to the point where I began to wonder if it was really worth it. Because one way or another I would go back to those old ways. I don't mean like smoking/drinking. Just some things I do. After a while I figured that that's the person that I am. And it didn't make me feel right if I couldn't express myself freely. So I told her that if she wanted me, she would have to take me with those flaws. We're still together.
From my point of view, you can't really change someone. You can try and they will change, but they'll be holding back things. And it will come back after a while.
2007-08-11 18:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take people as they are, because you can't change people.You can try improving a person, but you never truly change them.Their true self is under that, and is always going to show.If their flaws are too big for you, then you perhaps need to get away from that person.Except if they're family, sometimes you gotta stand it.
Even though,deep in me there's still hope that maybe you can change a person.I know that I will never be able to do so.People always think they are right, and are doing whatever feels it's right and good.Just like I feel what I think is right in my life.People that need improvement are the same way and is hard to truly ever changing them.
2007-08-11 18:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Marla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect to change someone. It's really hard no matter what you do. You can have opinions but you will never can change. If you really loves someone, just take him as he is, flaws and all. He will change if he really loves you and knows that there's something about him that you don't like. But afterall, it's better to accept the saying "you can't teach an old dog new tricks". Good luck to your love.
2007-08-11 18:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by pc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in it, but once you are with someone you hopefully will be friends with the person, and friends help each other be the best person that they can be.If helping someone change is beneficial to their well being and stuff in the long run, then it isn't wrong to help them! Say helping them get over a drug problem, anger issue, etc... If they don't want help, then you should still like them and care for them as they are.
2007-08-11 18:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by noname 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shouldnt really want to change someone to just fit you. everyone is different. just because you have standards dosent mean to make someone different from who they are just for you (not to say that in a mean way). but what you could do is say to them that you dont like this about them and ask them if they could change it for you. and if the guy dosent do it for you, then oh well. it isnt really alright with changing someone but if its something small thats alright...
2007-08-12 11:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe that you can' t change a person you can only accept them for who they are.Because there the way God made them and can't be knoe other way.But if you really love/like him then it really shouldn't matter what they look like on the outside but rather on the inside,how they treat you,and weither or not they make you happy.If they wanna change he will if not then just except him for them.
2007-08-11 18:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by mzsweetpea91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's impossible to change anyone but yourself, and even that is difficult. If someone is too far away from your standards, just part company. If it's something minor, tell them the behavior that annoys you, but that's usually all you can do.
2007-08-11 18:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't change the other person, you should instead try to adapt to them. if you don't like something then talk to them. it takes a total of a person to make them who they are. take a piece out and you might not like what you've attempted to create
2007-08-11 18:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by sebastian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible because i changed my man for 3 years but then we had a baby and he change then cheated on me and back to doing what he was doing they have to be welling to change
2007-08-11 18:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋