I was dating this man for about 1 1/2 months and said...?

Question

he wanted a more serious relationship. Since I really, really like him I told him I would love for our relationship to be more serious. Don't know what happened, but since our talk, he's tried avoiding me whenever I call him. I've called 2 x's in the last week. He talks to me for about five minutes and tells me he will call me later and never does. This has been going on for a week. Do you think that maybe he's had a change of heart? I'm so sad. But I don't want to keep calling him if he's going to keep blowing me off. What to do, just wait or what?

Answer 1

I don't understand men and I don't think there is a woman out there that does. He may just be confused and a little scared. That's really wrong of him to be doing that to you though. Give it time. I would suggest not calling him for a week. I know that's REALLY hard, but keep yourself occupied. When you feel the urge to call him, don't! Call up a good friend (one that can talk alot will be best lol) Then after a week, tell him you want to get together and have a night alone. Just the two of you. If he continues his wierd ways, ask him what's going on. Tell him he is hurting you. Then take things from there. Hope everything works out hun!

Answer 2

Hi Ana, I really can feel your feeling because I had the same issue (just the other way around)..

I'll write my story then, and I hope you want to read it..

So after I asked her to have a serious relationship with me, she changed a lot.

every time I called her, there must be something that she had to do, so it ended up to end the conversation. (she might really had something to do..)

every time she said " I'm busy, and I'll call you after I'm finished" it ended up with no phone call at all.. even there was no text from her, and when I found out in the next day, she slept already.. =) interesting hey?

well, I've been waiting for her for a long time.. but anyway at last, she had a boyfriend (not with me, but with someone else)

hurt? yeah it hurts my feeling.. but I could get over it, so I decided to find someone else which can keep their own word.

:: so for your case, I would suggest to don't put too much expectation on him, just take it easy.. and you could try to find someone else, just in case.. so it's more like a back up plan.. why not? your status is not his gf right?::

Answer 3

I'm a guy. I honestly think he did have a change of heart. I don't know why though, but judging by his actions.
He doesnt want to talk to you. I was wondering if he wanted serious relationship with someone else??? That's possible too. Who knows? You're better off moving on before you really get hurt over this guy.
Good luck

Answer 4

I would definitely say he's had a change of heart over the seriousness of your relationship. He's done everything but come rite out & told you so. He's avoiding you, lying to you by saying he'll call you back & doesn't. Just about avoiding your calls by getting out of them & saying he'll cb & never does. Honestly? I wouldn't even call him. I wouldn't contact him at all, then see what he does. I have a feeling you won't hear from him after the things he's been doing to you. To me, he isn't worth wasting your time on. If that's the way he's going to be, just phase him out of you're life. You certainly do deserve someone who w/appreciate you, someone who w/be honest w/you. Someone who wants you for you period. Put him in your past & learn a lesson from it. When one door closes, another one opens. Start a whole new beginning w/someone who w/at least respect you & treat you properly. Best of luck to you, you deserve better!

Answer 5

Try writing him a letter, telling him what you have told us here, (make it "hand written").
He is afraid, of two things, one of offending you/losing you and how to go to the next step in the relationship and two because of the comittment.
It sounds like he has been trashed at some point in his life at this point and is scared and does not want the pain of loss again. He would rather lose a little bit now than a lot later. You must help him overcome this. Putting your feelings in a hand written card or letter shows that there is more to your feelings than just the here and now. Broken hearts and hard to mend, but for the person who mends it, there is much joy. Hell even trying sending HIM flowers too

Answer 6

Don't call him anymore. You've tried calling, the ball is in his court. If a few more days go by and he doesn't call you, move on. If he calls you later and you decide you want to give him another chance, go ahead....but sounds to me he's flaky or terrified of commitment, or doesn't know what he wants. He probably just did you a favor.

Answer 7

if it were me, i wouldnt call him -- i'd let him call me. u dont want to seem desperate u know (not sayin that u are!!!). if he really likes u, and wants to persue somethin w/ u, he'll be callin soon. if not, then u'll have to let him go n find someone who has time to talk to u.

when my bf and i first started talkin, he did that to me -- evertime i called him, he would either send me to voicemail, or answer n be like "i'll call u riiiiiight back, ok" and never would...so i stopped callin and after about 4 or 5 days, he called me askin "how come u stopped calling?" lol...later, he told me it drove him crazy that i didnt call him everyday for that week and it made him see how he really liked me more than he thought lol..

but yea, hope that helps! good luck!!

Answer 8

no do not wait on him!! Do not call him and when he calls you say hello and then oh can i call you right back and then dont! Dont ever be someones door mat if he was more mature he wouldnt be acting like that you deserve better a man that doesnt play mind games!!

Answer 9

This guy sounds like an idiot to me. i mean, he wants a more serious realtionship and then ignores you?!?! uhm i wouldnt take that. If hes ignoring you then there must be a reason. and if he continues then i would just give up bc theres plenty more guys out there way better than him.

Answer 10

Hi!!!!

If he's acting that way he's probably regretting what he said. I don't want to make you feel bad, but I'm being sincere. If he's blowing you off, leave him...you're worth more than that.

Hope I helped!!

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