I am getting tired of a friend who just says negative things behind every little comment. I love her - but I really want her to just let conversation be as it is... any suggestions without hurting her feelings... the sky really is BLUE!
2007-08-11 16:20:06 · 9 answers · asked by spcn 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Have a friend exactly the same - and I love her dearly too. This person was always put down as a child, and so thinks of most things in the negative = if she thinks something is good it opens her up to being hurt/rejected. I get this about her, so therefore understand her personality. What you do tho' is to show her the upside of her comments - over time they get the message and learn to either not make negative comments around you because you dont buy into it, or amazingly, will start to make small, but genuine attempts at being more positive. Be the person in her life to show her its not all bad!
2007-08-11 17:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Try this, every time your friend is negative say something like -- "Oh, that's negative and I want to think more positive in this situation." After several times of this, she might get the point. She needs to be discouraged from talking negative so don't do anything to encourage a conversation that has turned negative. It's very likely she is not even aware of how negative she is.
2007-08-11 23:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by cur417 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people make it a principle to stay far away from negative people.
I say "yea, but I don't want to focus on the negative, I only want to focus on positive things." and I have even repeated it in the same day to the same person.
We all have to guard against negativity, even good people, but it is ok to be somber about some things sometimes but we should always have a little more optimism. Otherwise skat.
2007-08-12 17:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by David L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turn around and counter act the negativity with something positive. If that irritates her she will not want to be around someone that doesn't enable her.
OR there is a reason she is being negative. Try asking what the source of her unhappiness is and remind her she is a valuable person.
2007-08-11 23:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Melodya 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has some issues in her life otherwise she wouldn't be so negative.
Offer her an open ear but that's really about all you can do.
Just keep being as best of a friend as you can be.
2007-08-11 23:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by FOAMY! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time she says something negative tell her "well, that's not very nice" or "that's just mean"; something to that effect. It might make her think twice about what she just said.
2007-08-11 23:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by SinSister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I finally had to curtail my friendship with a negative person. She was bringing me down and it was really affecting me.
I will tell you one thing, they usually get worse as time goes on.
2007-08-11 23:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "nothing last lasts forever, so it's been nice knowing ya" problem solved. you don't need that in your life but she may want to rethink her own negativity......That may hurt her feeling a little but it is a great wake up call and could strenghten your friendship.
2007-08-11 23:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly will tell her to shut up....
2007-08-11 23:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by boo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋