I really really need some advice someone please help me?

Question

For those who want to help me and give me good advice, I live with my boyfriend and his parents and his brother who just got out of prison about a month ago who only comes by about twice a month, My last job I worked was Jan. 2nd there were no more hours to give to the employees so the store manager only kept employees who have been there for years upon years I have been on the unemployment benifits plan for six months now and have dried my checks out on the important house bills and grocerys etc. I practically give almost all my employment share to my boyfriends mother for the bills and grocery's of course I am strugling everyday to find a better job to better myself and I am planing on taking college courses online at stratford career institute for veterinary assistant I hope soon but, my boyfriends mother just got the bathroom redone brandnew and she also go married too and now she is super broke and I feel like its my fault I feel like I have failed but no one else pays rent.

Answer 1

Sounds like you are in a rut. Dispose of the guilt first. If she couldn't afford to remodel, she shouldn't have done it. It's not your fault. Secondly, get your boyfriend to step up to the plate and contribute. As far as your specific career situation, look for a part time job that allows you time to go to school. Check into community colleges for associate degree programs. Most will have funding programs that you would probably qualify for such as grants and free money for school. Do what is best for you. It's your life and you only live once (as far as I know). If you really want to go for it, get a student loan and as much grant money as possible and make school the highest priority. Don't get in too deep with student loans, but with a good mix of grant money and student loans, you can usually obtain enough for some living expenses. Full time job hopping now will get you nowhere unless you get lucky with a good company and are able to move up the ladder without college degree or certification. Think long term. You sound pretty young so do it now before the rut becomes deeper and it will seem harder and harder to get out of it. Don't give up and try to maintain an optimistic outlook. My two cents. Best of luck.

Answer 2

It's not like you're the only one living there..what about the mother's new husband? Doesn't anyone else work around there? Seems like you all need to have a family meeting to set up about who is going to pay what..she had some money at one time. She totally remodeled her bathroom and I'm sure that's from the money you gave her. I think she' s trying to lay a guilty trip on you..get out of there, while you still can and stop supporting everyone else!

Answer 3

I would say these people are using you, & dragging you down.
You need a plan to get out of there, as soon as you can.
This is not a healthy environment, for you or the boyfriend.

If momma can redo the bathroom & get married,
she ain't broke. Either way, it's not your problem.
The new hubby needs to step up & support her.

Start volunteering at the humane society, if you're interested.
Then see if a local vet will hire you to care for animals.
You could make money walking dogs for people.

Answer 4

Do NOT waste your time and money going to school to be a veternary assistant. Just try to get a job in a vet hospital or kennel to get experience. If you want to go to school to work with animals you at least need to be a vet technician. Just get a job!

Answer 5

You really need to think about your own self and stop being Mother Theresa to the lost souls.

Try hard to get a job, get a skill, in this tight job market, honey there is one for you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Sounds like you and your boyfriend both need to get a job.