Bipolar and schizophrenic?

Question

Can a person with these to diseases have a normal relationship?I have recently met a lady that is beautiful and has this.It brings me to the movie 50 first dates.I truly believe that she is beautiful enough for me to love her,and crazy enough for her to love me.I know that Jesus put us on this path for a reason,and i hope it is for that reason.What do you think

Answer 1

It is really very difficult to live with a person with bipolar disease and schizophrenia. My husband has both.

These are a result of a mess up of brain chemicals. She was born this way. Most people with bipolar disorder do not like taking their medication, because they really like the "highs". And keeping them on the proper medication is a challenge.

I understand what you mean by knowing that Jesus put you on the path together - that is what I thought. However, I have been through "H" many times, with him attempting suicide twice, and outbreaks of temper. They also spend LOTS of money when they are "high".

You always have to say to yourself, that this is the disease talking. If they had the option, none of them would want the disease - they would do anything to not have the problem.

All of the people that I have talked with, and professional psychologists and counselors realize that this makes a very difficult relationship. And if you live in a state like Florida, if you marry, they automatically get half of what you have, if you divorce.

If I were you, I would get to know her better, before you make any more moves. I thought I was doing the right thing, and it has not been good for me. My husband has spent so much money, when I did not know it, that we are more than $30,000 in debt. And I am retired. He has been disabled because of his disease for all the 15 years we have been married.

If you only want to be a caretaker, and you do not need love and companionship, then this might work for you. However, if you need love and affection, and you want to love the actions of your spouse, do not marry this woman.

Pray for the right attitude, but remember, you do not have to rescue every stray.

Good luck.

Answer 2

It's not actually possible to have bipolar disorder and schizophrenia at the same time; possibly she has schizoaffective disorder which has aspects of both diagnoses.

However that's not what you are asking about.

Since you have recently met this lady it's way too early to be thinking about love and committment and whether Jesus put you on this path. Get to know this lady first. Serious mental illness will give you great challenges in a relationship. If you rush this thing and then find out you can't handle her mental illness when it gets bad, and decide to bail as a result, you will not be doing her or you any favor.

So do yourselves the kindness of taking things a little slower than your post indicates. Learn something about her illness, and join a NAMI support group so you can find out more about what it's like to be in a relationship with someone with a serious mental illness (www.nami.org for meeting locations). Read and reread Popcorn's post above; her experience is not atypical. And make sure you experience at least one or two episodes of your girlfriend's breakdowns before making any permanent committment to know whether or not you really can handle it. It's easy to say you can if you've never experienced it; if you have no experience with psychotic or manic episodes you really can't imagine what that's like until it you go through it.

The worse thing you could do is to make a premature committment to this woman and then bail on her when the going got rough. So take it easy and slow and don't promise anything that you won't be willing to support in the long term.

Answer 3

Zyprexa is used for the treatment of general anxiety, panic disorder, post-traumatic stress syndrome, as well as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. You're not necessarily bipolar or schizophrenic. Being at work and being out partying are two different scenarios, so of course you act differently.That's the difference between work life and outside of work life. And of course you've changed since high school! Everybody changes from high school! You had fights with your parents? Show me someone who hasn't... You're normal.

Answer 4

I am a crazy woman. As such, I do believe that everyone deserves love. Obviously don't stay in a relationship that makes you miserable, but everyone is flawed. Just because the flaw has a diagnosis doesn't mean you should run away. She may have drastic mood swings, but that means that on the other side of the spectrum, she will be very good to you on her ups... she'll just need you a bit more when she's down. I'm not saying you HAVE to be with her, but give it a shot. She's a person.

Answer 5

Dear Doodoo. If God put this lady into your path, it has a reason. Maybe you have to learn things from her and she from you. First you have to understand the mental illnesses. Bipolar people go from a down mood to an up mood. Schizophrenics see, smell, hear, things that normal humans can´t. You have to be very supportive and understanding. Having someone to love might be very good for her. I wish you the best. [e-mail]

Answer 6

the simple answer: yes..ofcourse. love does not see mental ilness.

the complex answer: people with mental ilnesses require more patience and understanding than others. if you really "love" her..then you should be willing to take the time and research to better understand what she is going through. if love and jesus are both at the core of your relationship, then im sure it will work out wonderfully. although every couple faces problems, i must warn you that the problems the mentally ill face, are sumtimes a bit more extreme. however, it is nothing that you, god, and medication cant handle. best of luck, lexi

Answer 7

Yes, you can have a normal relationship. It will be full of good times and bad...Times when you see eye to eye and times when you wonder why did you choose this person.

Make sure that she stays up on her treatment and meds, expect a few hospital stays during the relationship and roll with the punches.

Answer 8

no you can't have a normal relationship, but who says it has to be normal? If she can deal with your problems, then she's a blessing. I wish you both the best.

Answer 9

as long as she is on medication for her condition i don't see why not i have bi polar disorder and w/o my medication i am one crazy woman... as long as she is stable with medication and you are patient there isn't any reason why it shouldn't work

Answer 10

That's a hard row to hoe...