So I'm in college. I go to college about 3 hours away from home. My hometown let's just say is really boring. We have one stoplight in the whole town. I have a few friends who are here, but most of them are so busy and caught up in their own lives. I'm not really a true part of their life, other then "lunch dates" and "catch ups." At school I feel the same way. I don't have alot of close friends there at all, this summer, I did alot of just sitting in my room, wondering what to do. I have a boyfriend and I do spend most of my time with him. People at college already seem to have established groups of friends. I don't feel like I fit in at my college, it's not as big as I wish it was. I don't want to transfer because I'm already a junior and I'm studying abroad winter semester. Mostly I feel like I'm wasting my life right now. I'm just sitting around doing absolutely nothing with anyone. What should I do to make the most of college? I dont want to live in my hometown forever.
2007-08-11 15:21:41 · 7 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
why dont you try joining clubs of your interests?
2007-08-11 15:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Deadly_Charm_2531 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 and in college also. I go to school 4 hours from home (2 states away) and didn't know anyone when I went. I'm naturally very outgoing but it still wasn't easy. It's really all about getting plugged in to what's going on around you. We have a great football team and I met tons of people that way. By going to the games, parties afterwards and all the school-related events (pep rallies, etc.) Sports are a fabulous way to get involved. Even if your school's teams aren't the best get involved. It's all about school spirit! Forming study groups for your classes is an easy, non-chalant way to get to know people, and pull your grades up. Like everyone else has mentioned clubs are a great way to meet people too.
I want to put this delicately, but I feel like it should be said: Having a boyfriend is fine. But if you spend all your time with him (or even just the bulk of it) you're not going to meet people. Especially if you're in your room the whole time. You have to get out and circulate. And also be willing to give other people a chance. It's so easy to feel like you don't fit in, and really a lot of people feel that way as well. Some just hide it better than others. You have to find the courage to talk to people. Say hello, smile. Don't be afraid. People aren't going to reject you for being friendly. Spend your free time/study time in common areas. I always do my studying/reading/homework in the school library. We have lots of really comfortable leather easy chairs and it's easy to meet people while you take study breaks. There's a coffee shop adjacent to the library. I know most schools are like this now. Try just being helpful/friendly. For example, If you're sitting next to someone and decide to go to the coffee shop, when you ask if they mind watching your books ask them if they want/need anything while you're up. Little things like that go a long way and really open up the lines of communication. In the cafeteria if you see someone sitting alone, ask if you can join. Most of the time they'll be thrilled you've decided to befriend them. It's all about getting plugged in to what's going on around you. Again, I know how hard it can be. I hope I've been able to give you some ideas on how to meet more people. Feel free to message me if you want more ideas or want to talk. :)
P.S. And if you live in a dorm, leave your door open while you're watching tv or whatever. It shows your neighbors that you're available if they want to say hello or stop by for a drink/snack.
2007-08-12 00:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Mountain Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people is always hard, but you can do it. Find an activity you like, a club, or a craft. The key is to find something you are interested in, and in doing so, you'll find people that will also be interesting.
Frankly I'm a little more concerned about your attitude. You sound really sad and a bit fatalist about your situation. I think it wouldn't hurt to see a counselor. You may have some issues with depression or social anxiety that are making it hard to make friends.
2007-08-11 22:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a part-time job and join a club on campus. That way you will have the opportunity to meet more people. Perhaps find a roommate or two. Get a pet and walk or play with it on campus. Find a club for people with pets online and meet up with other pet friendly people. Just some ideas to consider.
Try www.meetup.com and look for clubs in your area if campus clubs aren't that interesting.
2007-08-11 22:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by prettycoloredrocks 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some friends and become active; this should be one of the best times of your life; sounds to me like you don't want to make much of your life.
You need to wake up and grow up.
2007-08-12 10:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by samdugan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Party Hardy and make some new friends, keep the old just get on with life and live it to the fullest!
2007-08-11 22:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by be3kidz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't forget when you're having all that sex, about all those diseases you'll be getting, some of which there is no cure and you'll have to live with for the rest of your life.
2007-08-11 22:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋