Why can't I find a guy who wants to spend time with me?

Question

I have 3 men in my life. One is a married man whom I have been seeing for a long time and I understand that I am not going to be going out with him because we have to be discreet but I haven't gotten any where with the 2 single guys I have met either. One is a guy I've known for half a year, we went out a few times but he is so busy with his church work, his young children (he is mid 50's with 2 young sons), work, and all his other stuff that he seldom calls or sees me. We are just strictly friends as he has devoted his life to God and is not interested in dating again. This is ok to me as there is really no chemistry but still I like talking to him and it would be nice to go out occasionally with a man who acts like a gentlemen.
The third guy I have been out with a few times and it's obvious he is after sex. Every email mentions kissing and touching. I told him I am not interested in rushing into sex. He says he agrees with me but still talks the same.

this third guy will answer my emails and says he likes my answers but he then does a disappearing act for about a week. I am having serious financial problems too so I think the fact that I am having trouble surviving and that I won't give him sex has caused him to lose interest in me.
Are there still guys out there that like to go out to dinner or the mall or just hangout and spend time together in a friendly non intimate way, I mean at least until you have dated awhile and know the person well.

please note these last 2 men are supposed to be only friends and there is nothing wrong with having friends. I'm not looking to get physical with either one of them outside of marriage.

Answer 1

Well men are usually more interested in spending time with a worthwhile girlfriend - or lover - than woman who is niether.

You have 3 men and you keep them at arms length.
You prefer that they give you their ATTENTION,
but you are not prepared to offer anything but they get to share you with 2 other guys.

Nice.

No wonder they don't want to spend time with you.

I wouldn't either.

If you have serious fininacial problems, you should drop all 3 men at once and deal with it. Your priorities are totally out of whack.

Cheers.

:)

Answer 2

"I am having serious financial problems too so I think the fact that I am having trouble surviving and that I won't give him sex has caused him to lose interest in me." YOU THINK???
sounds like your an older lady, and if so then your too old not to have your **** together, stop seeing the married guy, why ruin some other womans life cause yours is crap, pay your bills, and stop chaseing the guy's you can't have and start looking to accept the one's you can have.

Answer 3

Well the first man has a wife and he may not want his wife
to even accidentally find out about You. Because it could
ruin his marriage.
The second man wants to live right and you may
have told him about your affair with the first man.
He wants to spend time with someone
who is going to live right.
The third man must just want to have sex with You only
really, the wham, bam thank you mam. That might be all
he really and truly wants out of You.
These are just my opinions maybe just to give You an
idea of what I think.
So You need to find a fourth man that's right for You and
You straighten up, live right and quit with the previous three
unless you tell the 2nd man your man your living right so
then he might decide to hook up with You then.

Answer 4

reallyfedup,
There are good guys out there.Most women seem to chase the existing "wild" guys.
If you really want a gentleman you need to find one in a bible believing church (not all guys in the church will be, but you will have your best chance).

Read:
Eph 2:8-9
1 & 2 Tim
Jude
Romans 1,3,6,10

Answer 5

if they really loved u they wouldnt be so focused on sex and their own pleasure and help u w/ ur problems