What do you do to save an alcoholic boyfriend?

Question

My dad drinks and my new boyfriend has an acohol problem also; I feel that he is following in my dad's footsteps.

Let me add to this; this is the man I'm suppose to marry and be with for the rest of my life.

I didn't choose anyone; God did and this guy choose me.

Answer 1

no, your following in your mom's footsteps, your attracted to alckies, its a fruedian thing. Just keep buying him booze and make sure the beer is always cold and you guy's will work out great

Answer 2

If your boyfriend is an alcoholic he is the one that needs to make a decision to get treatment from a rehab facility. The usual 4-7 day rehab periods don't help too much and many people need at least 30 days. The shorter periods are usually detox periods and many people can't or won't accept that they are alcoholics. They can't imagine going out and having fun without drinking. After, he would need to attend Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings at least once a day. If he won't go to to a rehab facility you should encourage him to go for himself to AA meetings where there are people like himself who would try to help him. If he won't do either you should tell him that you want to be with him (I gather that's the case) and to support him but you're not going to be there to watch him destroy himself. In other words, he needs to want to help himself. You can't do it for him.

He can find Alcoholics Anonymous locations online or in your local telephone book. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 3

Honey, you're the one following your Dad's footsteps, because you're choosing a man just like your Dad. Honey, can your mom stop your dad from drinking?--No. Thats because YOU CAN NOT SAVE AN ALCOHOLIC. They can only save themselves. Even when they go torehab, they may still have relapses from time to time.

Dump Him, unless you want to end up suffering like your Mom. Stop dating addicts!!!

Answer 4

Speaking from experience, there's nothing YOU can do. Alcohol can really screw up a relationship and nothing will ever change until the one who's drinking decides it's time to change. After several screwed up relationships, I finally decided it was time to quit drinking and now I've been happily married for going on six years

Answer 5

He needs to want help first. I was married to an alcoholic, and I tried everything to get him to realize he needed help. Nothing worked. He wasn't a very nice drunk. Needless to say, we're divorced and he still drinks.

Answer 6

my partner seems to be this way too ive been with him for 10 years and hes never changed we have how ups and downs but i love him cant seem to let him go hes promised me a million times last year his dad died from cirrosis of the liver it still didnt stop my partner i think if they want to change they will the choice is you either stick with them or make your choice to leave but they have got to be willing to want to stop good luck with this

Answer 7

leave him and tell him the reason be honest. True alcoholics rarely stop untill loss or misery bottoms them our. staying only shows him your ok with it. the right thing sadly is always the hardest thing to do

Answer 8

you can try an intervention but as an alcoholic myself that person has too want too quit for themselves alcoholics anonymous is a really good program and for you hun i strongly suggest that you find yourself an alonon group too go too if you need more info you can contact me at [e-mail] good luck.

Answer 9

do some research on alcoholic abuse and also research places where both your dad and boyfriend could go.

Give them the information and tell them that they are killing theirselves and you don't want to lose them and how they are hurting you

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 10

i know how u feel, i had an alhoholic dad too. there is nothing you can really do but encourage him to stop and do the rite thing. it is their choice. if they dont want to stop, there is nothing you can do. just encourage and support him to do the rite thing.
ill pray for u!!!