how do i keep a regret off my mind? or just stop regretting it. i've tryed looking at the positive and everything but that doesn't seem to work. would hanging out w/ friends work? please only serious answers because i'm really not in the mood. thank you all so much!
2007-08-11 13:41:49 · 7 answers · asked by ♥.blondy4eva 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to look at the positives of the situation. Write them down even. Once you've looked into and discovered all of the positives, even if there may be only few, then you need to get out. Don't just sit by yourself. Some would suggest taking a long walk or a bath but that only gives you more time to think. I would do some of these things...
- read a book
-hang out with friends
-watch a show like CSI; something that's really interesting and has to make you think about other things like solving a crime!
-go to a rec center and work out with some friends
-get into a fitness program at your local rec center
-go out to eat with some friends
-go to church... this helps a lot. it's very positive and uplifting and is perfect for people who are regreting some things.
-do some volunteer work. this will make you feel better about yourself and get your mind off of things at the same time
2007-08-11 14:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consider - or ask a friend - "if an apology is needed"?
If there is nothing more you can do to correct the matter,
it's time to go on with your life. Yes, I believe hanging out
with your friends would be one option of going on with
life as normal.
If you've given it some time and genuinely can't get past it,
speak with a caring adult or counselor to gain their perspective and input on how they handle such in their own life.
There is an "exercise" some people do when they are unable to connect with the person they wish they could apologize to.
(moved or died) Sit down and write a letter. Say in it everything you wish you could say, if you had it to do over again. Say how life would be different now if you had done it the other way.
This will get your emotions and thoughts out and on the paper. Now, whether you keep it or burn it, in your mind those thoughts have been "delivered" and you'll feel better.
2007-08-11 21:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon the regret. If it is something you can discuss with a close confidant (re: friend), I would ask him or her. If it is something you can't discuss with a parent, talk to a priest or rabbi (whatever your religion is).
If the regret is something you had made a natural mistake over and it wasn't really your fault, you have already accomplished and recognized that regret. So you should be able to move on.
If the above does not suit you, you can always call this line, you can talk to someone 24/7: 800-448-3000.
2007-08-11 20:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by datarover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to let time take its course. After a while, you'll see that what happened is in the past and there's nothing you can do to change it. Just work on preventing similar situations from arising or at least you'll hopefully have learned from this experience and will know how to react differently in the future.
In the mean time, to get it off your mind, do something for yourself and get lost in it!!
*Good luck*
2007-08-11 20:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by california_gurl16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS EASIER SAID THAN DONE WE ALL IN OUR LIVES HAVE SAID OR DONE SOMETHING WE TRULY REGRET AND WISH WE COULD TAKE IT BACK BUT ONCE WE HAVE DONE IT,IT IS TOO LATE TO TAKE IT BACK BUT YOU CAN LEARN FROM IT AND LIKE U SAID IF YOU HAVE FRIENDS THAT ARE POSITIVE AND CAN GIVE YOU POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT THAN THAT IS GOOD YOU DO NOT WANT NEGATIVE PEOPLE MAKING YOU FEEL ANYMORE WORST THAN YOU ALREADY DO.
BUT DO UR SELF A FAVOR DO NOT DWELL ON IT IF YOU CAN APOLOGIZE FOR WHAT YOU DID THAN DO THAT BE ADULT ABOUT IT, U HAVE TO FORGIVE UR SELF AS WELL TURN IT OVER TO GOD,AND LET HIM TAKE THIS FEELING AWAY FROM U AND JUST LET IT GO AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
IF YOU CAN MAKE AMENDS THAN DO IT APOLOGIZE OK!ASK GOD,FOR HELP IN WHAT YOU DID FORGIVE UR SELF AND THAN AS I SAID ONCE AND I'LL SAY IT AGAIN LET IT GO AND MOVE ON BECAUSE U CANNOT GO BACK AND CHANGE WHAT U SAID OR DID NOW CAN U SO WHY LET IT DRIVE U UP A WALL THE GUILT WILL SURELY EAT U UP DO NOT LET IT THAT IS SATIN AT WORK AND THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS U TO DO,DO NOT LET HIM WIN OK,FORGIVE,FORGET,MOVE ON!!!
2007-08-12 08:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep urself busy with alot of stuff it will help keep ur mind too busy to think about it
2007-08-11 20:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by johneonykk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to think of the bright side of things
2007-08-12 12:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Angel S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋