A friend of my husband is getting married next month. We have been invited to the wedding but due to our circumstances(finances, children, school obligations) we cannot attend. The invitation did not include an RSVP card to return, so I need to write a letter instead. How should I word it? Should I explain WHY we can't come, or just that we send our best wishes? Since I don't know really know these people (I've spoken to them once or twice) should my husband be the one to write the letter?
2007-08-11 13:35:27 · 10 answers · asked by missbeans 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We would like to send you our warmest congratulations on your wedding. A celebration such as this is not to be taken for granted, and we want to tell you how happy we are for both of you.
Unfortunately we will not be able to attend this blessed occassion due to prior obligations. While we cannot be there in person our hearts will be with the two of you on this wonderful day.
Your friend,
2007-08-11 15:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont understand why there is no RSVP card, but either person can just send a note indicating that you will not be able to attend and best wishes. Keep it simple at best. Dont feel bad if you cant afford a big gift either. I am sure that is why you arent attending so that is why it is important to keep the note simple.
2007-08-11 13:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by vixxen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck on getting hubby to write the letter ;-P
Seriously, if it was addressed to you both, either can respond.
No, you don't need to expolain why you can't attaned, although if they were close friends it would be usual to do so.
As they are not close, you can simply send a letter (or buy a blank card from the stationer or newsagent) saying along the lines of:
"Thank you for your kind invitation to join you on your special day. It does sound as if it will be a wonderful celebration, and X and I are so very sorry we won't be able to attend. Our good wishes are with you on your wedding day and for your life ahead.
Please let us know if you are ever in (our town), as we'd very much like to offer you our hospitality.
Yours etc"
Don't make excuses ~ anyone can understand why a family with kids might not be able to travel to an event, especially without the kids. Just be polite and friendly.
If you are going to send a gift, you could send the card/letter with it.
Best wishes :-)
2007-08-11 15:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you dont owe these people an explanation at all. simply offer gratitude for the invitation, but politely tell them that you will not be able to attend. give your best wishes, and then send the letter. if you're uncomfortable about writing a letter to someone you dont know, then ask your husband to write it instead. but in regards to etiquette, you and your husband share each other's lives, and theres no reason why you shouldnt write the letter.
2007-08-13 10:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by paixfille08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok sweetie, we all know how men and the whole apologizing thing can end like (men aren't very good at writing ok). So I suggest you be the one writing, (yeah another woman's burden I know). So I would do something such as the other inputs suggested a regret letter, and I'd add a note of my own. Something such as; "I am very happy for you both, and thank you for having invited us, however, I regret that we are unable to attend this important event, due to social matters ( could mean anything, from finances, to work, to important legal matters). Best wishes from the ______ family and thanks once again for thinking of us, i
sincerely, _______"
2007-08-11 15:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can buy RSVP 'Regret' cards. Probably the easiest option. No explanation required in the circumstances.
2007-08-11 14:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by pompeii 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We extend our sincerest gratitude to the invitation of your nuptials but regret that we will not be able to attend due to personal family obligations. We send our best wishes to you and _________.
2007-08-11 13:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please accept my gift in absence of my attendance. We wish you the best and Congrates!!!
Love xx oo
doesnt really matter who rights it but stay vague they don't need to know your personal business ness!!
Best of wishes
2007-08-11 13:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regretfully, we will be unable to attend your wedding, but you will be in our thoughts and prayers. Best wishes!
2007-08-11 13:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by mamarat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would NOT bother if NO RSVP
2007-08-11 14:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋